Anyone have a daughter that has matured to fast?

[Magpie]

I just meant i didn't go into detail about ovaries & eggs and that kind of stuff. She basically just knows that its just something all girls/women have.


Can anyone tell me were they sell those books at the other posters mentioned?

OP, do you have a library near you? Or if there is no library, how about a small bookstore (not one of those big chains)?

All you have to do is ask a librarian to recommend some books about puberty for your 10yo daughter.

A librarian is best - it's their job to help you, and she'll probably send you home with an armful of excellent books. This exactly the sort of thing librarians go to school to learn how to do.

An independent bookseller however is a decent second choice. This is somebody who works with books all the time, ordering them and reviewing them. The reason I don't recommend asking a bookseller at any of the big chains is because they're usually just highschool kids who have no input in ordering books. They're just there to work the cash, and your chances of finding someone who can help you are slimmer (though there's always a chance!).

Once you've got your books, it's time to reinstate bedtime stories. For a few nights, just curl up in bed with your daughter and read the books with her. Any questions she has, you can find the answers together. Or, if you're too shy to talk about it with her, you can always do what my mom did - scatter the books strategically all over the house! When I got to be about ten, books on puberty started showing up in the bathroom, on the coffee table, casually tossed on my bed...

 

[Agri]

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I still flipped out. I had a diving competition the next day. I wasn't ready for tampons so I had a COMPLETE meltdown. My mom handle it well but I was VERY UPSET!

But that probably had more to do with your period affecting your ability to compete. If you hadn't had the competition the next day, would it have been such a big deal? I think its pretty natural to freak out if anything happens that affects your ability to compete - period or not!

Also, I knew what the parts were and about my period and all that good stuff from a very early age. (Actually has to do with my love of Disney! Ha! The drugstore had Donald Duck condoms out on the counter and I loudly kept telling my mom I wanted one because it had Donald Duck on it. She eventually ended up explaining to me what it was and why I didn't want it, which of course led to why they were necessary anyway. I think I was about 3 or 4 at the time. You know, the "Why?" phase.)

I think when you delay the talks out of fear, it only allows misinformation to creep in -along with the desire to know more about what the parent(s) are too nervous to talk about.

 

[Queen2PrincessG]

But that probably had more to do with your period affecting your ability to compete. If you hadn't had the competition the next day, would it have been such a big deal? I think its pretty natural to freak out if anything happens that affects your ability to compete - period or not! I see what you did there! I was beyond a wreak I was not ready for tampon use. The next month I had to use them and then never turned back.
Also, I knew what the parts were and about my period and all that good stuff from a very early age. (Actually has to do with my love of Disney! Ha! The drugstore had Donald Duck condoms out on the counter and I loudly kept telling my mom I wanted one because it had Donald Duck on it. She eventually ended up explaining to me what it was and why I didn't want it, which of course led to why they were necessary anyway. I think I was about 3 or 4 at the time. You know, the "Why?" phase.)

I think when you delay the talks out of fear, it only allows misinformation to creep in -along with the desire to know more about what the parent(s) are too nervous to talk about.

Totally agree. I knew what was going on the freak out wasn't about Aunt Flow showing her redhead self. It was the competition.

OP i'm really happy to read that you are not going to put her on the pill. I wish I didn't go on it so early and just suffered through the cramps. The talk is very important though and coming from you is key. Good Luck!

 

[2girlsmom]

Now see, 10 still seems young to me too. I have a dd10, who I have been expecting for the better part of a year. She already has a chest enough to need an A cup bra and has for several months, so is CERTAINLY developing. But my dd12 is completely not even close. I think I was 12 when I started, though, and we just keep talking about it and how it will happen to both of them when it is "their time". My MIL was 16! So dd12 has hope for that.

 

[wellesleyprincess]

Okay not a mom but a 4th grade (former 6th grade) teacher. In 4th grade (9-10 year olds) we usually have 1-2 per class that have their periods at some point in the year. A lot of them get near the end of 5th or early 6th (around age 11). Unless you're worried about her attitude towards boys (becoming sexually active, etc.), I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[shortbun]

I started my period when I was 11. I think you need to consult her pediatrician and a pediatric gynocologist for confirmation of your fear that she is starting too early. I don't think a responsible doctor would prescribe birth control pills unless there were other isssues such as endometriosis.

 

[Vijoge]

Anyone have a daughter that has matured too fast?

I'm not sure what your connection to her getting her period and being mature.

Puberty has nothing to do with maturity.

Puberty is the period of sexual maturity when sexual organs mature and secondary sexual characteristics develop

Read more: Puberty - Physical Maturity, Male Puberty, Female Puberty, Related Topics - Growth, Sexual, Development, Period, Males, and Initial http://science.jrank.org/pages/5586/Puberty.html#ixzz1BzmjfHVg

 

[Agri]

Puberty is the period of sexual maturity when sexual organs mature and secondary sexual characteristics develop

Read more: Puberty - Physical Maturity, Male Puberty, Female Puberty, Related Topics - Growth, Sexual, Development, Period, Males, and Initial http://science.jrank.org/pages/5586/Puberty.html#ixzz1BzmjfHVg

I think most of us are aware of this fact.

I think the point a lot of people were trying to make is that a first period is not a magic personality switch. Girls don't get their period and then realize "Oh, sex is fun!" and then run off and sleep around. A period is just a thing that happens and a girl who gets it when she is 10 probably won't drop her barbies (or whatever else) at the drop of a hat (or period) in pursuit of boys. In other words, a first period isn't like an "instant grown-up pill."

 

[Vijoge]

I think most of us are aware of this fact.

I think the point a lot of people were trying to make is that a first period is not a magic personality switch. Girls don't get their period and then realize "Oh, sex is fun!" and then run off and sleep around. A period is just a thing that happens and a girl who gets it when she is 10 probably won't drop her barbies (or whatever else) at the drop of a hat (or period) in pursuit of boys. In other words, a first period isn't like an "instant grown-up pill."

I never implied any such thing. I was merely commenting on the OP's use of the word "mature" in the context in which I believe she was using it.

 

[PrincessBelle09]

OP - This is within the normal age range. You have nothing to be concerned about and please do not put your daughter on the pill. She is too young and going through way to many hormonal changes to have them further altered with medication.