Anyone have a daughter that has matured to fast?

[mckinley]

I am sorry if this is to much information, but i am in need of some opinions. My 10yo daughter has matured way to early. I have been expecting her period for about a year now praying and hoping i was wrong. Well today it happened she woke me up saying mom i think i have started my period. I think this is just wrong she still plays with dolls for heaven sakes. I have been gradually explaining stuff to her so whe would at least know what was happening. However she does not know more than she should know. I have thought really hard about this today and i am thinking about possibly getting her put on the pill that will stop her from having them at least until she matures a little more. What do you think? Would you do something like that if it was your daughter? I personally hate messing with it and I just don't think a 10yo should have to.

 

[scrapquitler]

I am sorry if this is to much information, but i am in need of some opinions. My 10yo daughter has matured way to early. I have been expecting her period for about a year now praying and hoping i was wrong. Well today it happened she woke me up saying mom i think i have started my period. I think this is just wrong she still plays with dolls for heaven sakes. I have been gradually explaining stuff to her so whe would at least know what was happening. However she does not know more than she should know. I have thought really hard about this today and i am thinking about possibly getting her put on the pill that will stop her from having them at least until she matures a little more. What do you think? Would you do something like that if it was your daughter? I personally hate messing with it and I just don't think a 10yo should have to.

Actually, 10 is NOT outside the realm of normal. I'm assuming that she's in 5th grade? I'd guess that she's probably not the only one in her class.

 

[kwelch10377]

This thread should get interesting......

My opinion is no don't put her on the pill to get rid of it. There is really no need to. I see no issue with explaining to her what she needs to know for now and preparing her how to deal with it each month. You may think it is just wrong that she has gotten it earlier than some, but mother nature had something else in mind.

The only way I would put her on the pill is if there were a medical need for it or if you had concerns about her getting pregnant.

 

[Tinkh]

I am sorry if this is to much information, but i am in need of some opinions. My 10yo daughter has matured way to early. I have been expecting her period for about a year now praying and hoping i was wrong. Well today it happened she woke me up saying mom i think i have started my period. I think this is just wrong she still plays with dolls for heaven sakes. I have been gradually explaining stuff to her so whe would at least know what was happening. However she does not know more than she should know. I have thought really hard about this today and i am thinking about possibly getting her put on the pill that will stop her from having them at least until she matures a little more. What do you think? Would you do something like that if it was your daughter? I personally hate messing with it and I just don't think a 10yo should have to.

I would absolutely not put my child on medicine to change something that is perfectly natural. Kids as young as 8 start their period. I got mine when I was 10 or 11. Sucked, but I just would try and treat it as special thing that girls achieve. That is what my mom did. We had a special day out and we spent some time together. Heck, I was wearing a regular bra in fourth grade. By fifth, I had started my period.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I have a 10 year old too. She hasn't started, she knows a little that should something happen she isn't hurt or dying and I will tell her more when she needs to know.

I would never give my child hormones unless medically necessary.

Lisa

 

[ReneeA]

Women in family all start their periods by 10-11. I thought that was the "normal" time to start.

Do not mess with mother nature by putting her on the pill at 10 because you don't want her to have to deal with this. Girls have always had an adjustment at that age.

 

[tlbwriter]

Honestly, I'd be kind of surprised if a doctor would be willing to put her on the pill just so she wouldn't have periods. Ten feels very young to me too, but it's within the realm of normal. My niece started at that age. My daughter is now 11 and hasn't started yet but I'm sure it's coming soon and I dread the day. So I really do feel your pain here, but I think it's a bad idea.

 

[maelstrom]

Um... wow. You are being REALLY ridiculous about this. It's natural for a woman to have a period. I've known girls who've started at 8... I started at 11, myself. There's nothing "wrong" about it. And it's WAY out there to consider putting her on the pill to suppress her period just because you think she's too young to have one. Her body IS mature if she has begun menstruating. This is a fact of life and she (and you) needs to get used to it.

 

[mickeyboat]

My DDs are in 5th grade and DD11 is just starting to physically mature. I know if will be a while before she gets her period but I bought some pads today to have on hand just in case. She is also well aware of what physical stages she can expect next.

I don't think I would put my 10 year old on the pill. I am not sure a doctor would prescribe one unless she was having issues with her period.

It's so hard to see our little girls grow up!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

American Girl...caring and keeping of you. Buy it for her. Seriously.

And I've had 4 babies and would love to sit down and play with dolls.

Puberty can happen anytime, but it doesn't mean they mentally have to grow "up" just b/c their maturity clock has decided to.

I started late--and I Wasn't even skinny. So I'm not sure when to expect things. But my dd has the book and has read it cover to cover. We came across it at a book sale when she was 8, probably close to 9--and she read it at age 9.

I don't think you should be interfering with mother nature just b/c you are not ready for her to grow up. A maxi pad in her life isn't an eviction notice for her dolls.

FWIW--my understanding is that 8 is considered early, though it happens...10/11 is on the early side of NORMAL.

I was about 12/13.

 

[laurie31]

I started when I was 10 and that was over 30 years ago. Lots of girls start at 9 or 10. In fact, they had to put sanitary napkin disposal bins in the stalls at the elementary school a few years ago because so many 4th and 5th graders needed them.

She is not alone! It's fine that she still plays with dolls, but she's old enough to deal with "Aunt Flo" along with still being a young girl.

If she chooses to use the pill for birth control when she's older, she will have many MANY years to take it. I would not add to those years unless there was a serious medical reason. Even with the pill, she would still have a period every 3 months, and sometimes there is unpredictable spotting which might be more upsetting than a monthly visitor if she were unprepared and it went through her clothes. NOTHING is more embarrassing to a preteen girl than a spot...there. And who wants to wear a pad every day, "just in case."

I took the pill for close to 15 years, and I was SO happy after DD2 was born and DH got "fixed" so now I don't have to worry with it any more. I confess I did use them to manipulate things so Aunt Flo wouldn't join us on vacation, and I do miss that ability, but otherwise, I am happy to be free of them. I would never consider putting my DDs on them unless they had something like PCOS or were sexually active. Just my humble opinion.

 

[NHdisneylover]

Girls who are on their periods can still play with dolls and otherwise act like little girl you know

 

[KimR]

I would never consider putting my 10-year-old on the pill just to prevent periods. I really don't understand what the problem is - it's a natural biological function and it's certainly not unheard of to start menstruating at that age or even earlier.

 

[JoiseyMom]

10 is not that young, it is when lots of girls start. Not for nothing, I can't see ANY GOOD/DECENT doctor putting your 10 year old on hormones to stop something that is natural.

You do realize how the pill works don't you? The hormones trick the body into thinking it is pregnant, so that new eggs are not released.

Have you really put some rational thought into this? You would rather give your healthy 10 year old hormones and trick her body, instead of it going through a perfectly natural process??

 

[Tink888]

I would not put a 10 year old girl on the pill just to keep her from having her period.

A 10 year old girl is capable of understanding how her body works and at the same time maintaining her innocence, playing with dolls, etc.

As parents we want our kids to stay little forever. It is hard watching them grow up. But they do.

 

[golfgal]

There were girls when I was growing up that got their periods in 5th grade (so 10/11 years old). It really isn't abnormal at all. I know the girls got "the talk" in 4th grade in DD's school because there were a few 4th graders that had their periods already. It happens and no way would I put my maturing DD on hormone pills for something like this. I think in the long run it would do WAY more harm than good. Typically if girls in high school go on the pill they are done growing and are mostly done with puberty. I would have not liked getting my period that early but you learn to live with it. Now, I don't know if it works this way or not but maybe that means she will go into menopause earlier .

 

[kehlyrsmom]

My daughter just turned 11 and she started hers last spring. My daughter is aslo Autistic and her pedetrician, counselor and neuroligst all have recommended putting her on the pill for various reasons due to her diagnosis. Kids on the Autism spectrum do not understand social ques in general and my daughter does not understand personal space at all. So far we have not put her on it as of yet but are strongly thinking of doing so.

On the otherhand if my daughter was not on the Autism spectrum and was a typical 11 year old girl no I would not consider putting her on the pill.

 

[mckinley]

I didn't realize that 10 was considered normal age, i just thought it was like 13 or something.

 

[bigbabyblues]

I didn't realize that 10 was considered normal age, i just thought it was like 13 or something.

My cousin's 10-yo started hers over the summer. It surprised me a little, but she wasn't the first of her friends. I have two boys, but was talking with some other moms in DS10's class last spring at field day, and they had already talked to their dd's about it too.

 

[Mommy2cody]

Just because she had her first period, doesn't always mean she is going to get them regularly yet. I know a lot of the girls in my family had their first one around 11 then not another one for at least a year or so, including myself. I would wait and she what happens. Unless she has an extremely heavy period, I wouldn’t mess with birth control. They will probably be pretty light for a while even if they do come regularly. She will be okay, she is just growing up!