Anyone else have this little problem?

[kaysmommie]

If someone made a crack at me about the leash thing I would say something back. I have 2 sets of twins. At one time, I had 4 kids 4 and under. This is a classic example of not judging someone until you have walked in their shoes. I have always done what is safest for my children and if I had to use a "leash" to keep my babies safe and close I would. I have 2 leashes that I use only in very crowded situations. For example the circus.

Never say never. Someday she might be in their shoes....leash and clothing.

Me Too!

 

[Karenj2]

I'm not about to go screaming at anyone. My blasts are very controlled -- giving the banks who charge me hundreds of dollars for paying off my mortgage on time, credit card companies offering me $100,000 worth of debt potential, and Jehovah Witnesses who try to spread their lies just enough rope to hang themselves. Passive aggressive it may be -- but still fun to watch them hoisted upon their own petard. The joy of hearing a telemarketer stammer is akin to winning Olympic Gold -- try it and see what glee you too can receive when the telemarketer gets lost on their script. I would be only too glad to add a 12-year old to that list if that 12-year old didn't have the good sense to keep her judgemental opinions about others to herself or otherwise suitably contained.

Ah, you're the one of the many people that drove my two sisters to tears every day because while they were in high school/college, they made the mistake of taking a telemarketing job to earn some money... They were called nasty names, sexually harassed over the phone, and yelled at. They were just doing their jobs, you know. (And THEY weren't selling anything, it was a research company - they did surveys) I can't imagine finding happiness through making someone else miserable.

As for the OP - I don't have kids, but I think that as long as you're discouraging the comments, you're doing well. Others have said it, but I try to stick to the addage that "if you can't say something nice, than don't say it at all." (I *am* very happy that your daughter isn't asking the bikini clad teens where they get their clothes, but she could lay off the derrogatory comments.)

 

[PaulaSB12]

My DD 12 has recently developed some fairly strong opinions about certain behaviors and other choices made by others people we see in public places. The things that make her the most likely to say something inappropriate are~

1~ A small child on a leash (the velcro kind) or any child getting spanked or smacked (DD once told someone as we walked by them "Leashes are for dogs, not people"

2~ Young ladies in places other than the pool or beach wearing shorts that let part of ther *cheeks* hang out, or tank/ bikini tops so small and or tight that they may as well be topless. A couple of times, Ive heard her whisper to me / DH skut, or slut, or hooch.

I HAVE TOLD DD THAT SHE MUST NOT JUDGE THESE OTHERS BY THEIR CHOICES, AS ITS THEIR RIGHT TO DO WHAT THEY WANT

DOes anyone else get similarly embarrassed by their little *angels*?

(I posted this here, as I am anticipating potential trouble in this area on our next summer vacation)

1 In the UK a family is morning the death of one of their 2 year old twins. he managed to slip his hand out of his mother's and ran across the road with fatel consequences, not to mention what happened to Jamie Bulgar who was grabbed and beaten to death by two children.

 

[daisyduck123]

I have not read all of the replies, so I have no idea if this thread is still on topic but IMO, a 12 year old is old enough to know when to keep her mouth closed & not say inappropriate things in public like that. My DD12 would never, ever, do that.

If you don't have something nice to say, you don't say it. My kids learned that when quite young & that is one thing I teach my 1st grade students every year.