Anyone else get irrationally jealous when others post vacations on FB?

[RyansMum]

no...actually I usually wonder why people waste vacation time on FB, LOL. I know today's technology allows a quick click and send deal, but I usually end up thinking how they are not really in the moment of the trip, just more in the moment of posting. I had a friend who said she was exhausted during her WDW trip as she stayed p late each night posting all about their day . Just plan a trip with all your friends and save yourself the trouble, lol

That's crazy to waste precious time posting! I usually have a contact at home that I message while I'm standing in a line or waiting for a parade to start.

 

[FINFAN]

That's crazy to waste precious time posting! I usually have a contact at home that I message while I'm standing in a line or waiting for a parade to start.

just the fact that the frame of mind is all about "I need to post this" instead of I am loving this is what gets me. How many fleeting moments of joy have been abandoned for FB? My DS is a photographer and post images all the time, but after the fact. He usually captures his moment and then says "they can see it later, I'm on vacation" lol. I spend all my time people watching while in line, or talking with my family (or whoever I am on vacation with) I'm old school though.

 

[usnuzuloose]

I don't have FB, but I don't need to be jealous. I am happy for people who get to vacation.

 

[CaptJacksWench]

No need really for me to get jealous or upset over family or friends posting vacation pictures. I actual hope they are having fun and a good time on their vacations. As for myself I usually never post vacation photos until after I return from the trip. That way I can put creative captions to the photos and silly stuff like that.

 

[Squirlz]

Today's technology makes it so you don't have to spend a lot of time posting pictures. With my phone or camera any picture I take can be a Facebook post in about 5 seconds.

 

[NYDisGuy]

I usually post "what im doing" on Facebook because my immediate family lives in another state and I like to share with them what i'm doing, especially on vacation. Nowadays it's simple to take a picutre and send to facebook with a caption. Not like you have to upload from an actual camera

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

Not at all, I figure good for them. A lot of that stuff is pretty interesting actually.

 

[MamaLema]

I love looking at other's vacation photos. Sometimes it even gives me ideas on where our family can go.

 

[OldBelle]

I do. I seethe in jealousy. I work so, so hard. I've worked full-time since I was 14, put myself through college, got through an MBA...but I really feel resentful toward women who get all these vacations. I get 3 days maaaaybe every 2-3 years to go to Disneyland. Every woman I know goes on vacation once a year at least; most have been on at least one "nice" vacation by 40. I most likely will never do that. Life just costs too much. I know this is a really old thread. I guess I just wanted someone searching this to know that the envy is real and you aren't alone. It is miserable knowing that all my hard work essentially boils down to "basic living plus Disneyland twice a decade." I'm actively trying to find a job in a lower cost of living area, so maybe I can dream of a better life. So maybe that's an idea?

 

[jevs]

I do. I seethe in jealousy. I work so, so hard. I've worked full-time since I was 14, put myself through college, got through an MBA...but I really feel resentful toward women who get all these vacations. I get 3 days maaaaybe every 2-3 years to go to Disneyland. Every woman I know goes on vacation once a year at least; most have been on at least one "nice" vacation by 40. I most likely will never do that. Life just costs too much. I know this is a really old thread. I guess I just wanted someone searching this to know that the envy is real and you aren't alone. It is miserable knowing that all my hard work essentially boils down to "basic living plus Disneyland twice a decade." I'm actively trying to find a job in a lower cost of living area, so maybe I can dream of a better life. So maybe that's an idea?

Only resentful towards women who go on vacations? You'd most likely hate me

If I may offer a suggestion...maybe forget about big Disney vacations which are expensive ( and getting more expensive every year) and perhaps have a look at places you could visit in your home state.

 

[Pacolovestacos]

I know I have no reason to be jealous, we vacation regularly. But I have FB friends who are vacationing in WDW and Cozemel. They are posting pics and updates about how much fun they are having. Maybe because we aren't doing WDW this year? Also, maybe because I can't make people equally jealous as we don't post vacation pics/updates for safety reasons.....

3 years ago I was insanely jealous of seeing and hearing about other people's travels. So I decided to make a change and live the life I dreamed of. And now my friends are the one's jealous of my travel pictures.

 

[SeeDisney]

not at all.....I enjoy looking at pictures and I am happy for them.

 

[Magpie]

just the fact that the frame of mind is all about "I need to post this" instead of I am loving this is what gets me. How many fleeting moments of joy have been abandoned for FB? My DS is a photographer and post images all the time, but after the fact. He usually captures his moment and then says "they can see it later, I'm on vacation" lol. I spend all my time people watching while in line, or talking with my family (or whoever I am on vacation with) I'm old school though.

Well... I wonder how different this is from people who write mini-novels in their diaries or journals every night? I've seen some pretty elaborate ones from decades past, including people who were pasting in Polaroid pics every day.

The only difference I see, is that you can show your friends immediately, instead of shoving the whole volume in their face when you get home and expecting them to look at it with you hanging over their shoulder. (And then the slide show! )

For the record, I'm not into keeping a diary. Never got the bug. But my mum has volumes of them - including ticket stubs, programs, receipts and page after page of her daily doings. I don't think anyone's ever asked, "How many fleeting moments of joy have been abandoned for your diary?"

Although... I DO remember people in the Seventies criticizing other folk for taking too many pictures. "You're living life through a lens, man! Put the camera down and just BE in the moment! Be human!"

Maybe people have always had the desire to record their lives and share it with friends. And maybe people have always criticized them for it, no matter what tools they're using to do it. ("Grog, you need to stop painting on cave walls. You're missing out on life!")

 

[Magpie]

With regards to the original question, no... I don't feel envy or jealousy. But, I think that's because I am extremely content with the way my life has turned out. I have a good friend who is mentally ill and living on disability, and no matter how hard she tries to get ahead, she never succeeds. She will always be poor, she will always be sharing an apartment, and she will always be struggling to make ends meet. Vacations are not in the cards for her. So she does feel envy and jealousy sometimes, and sometimes it's directed at me because of the various advantages I've enjoyed in life (good health, good marriage, good finances, etc). I understand completely where she's coming from.

I have other friends, too, who are struggling financially. So, while I enjoy reading about other people's vacations, my husband and I typically only post three or four pics of ours. We might change the Facebook banner or profile pic. But that's it. As I said, I'm not a diarist, so it's not like I'm giving anything up here.

Also, count us in as another couple who are happily counting down the days to retirement (three years!) so we can travel the world. At the moment, we take about three vacations a year, and every one is eagerly anticipated and very much enjoyed. I don't see us ever finding travel a "hassle", unless something terrible happens to our health.

My mom is over seventy, and she's taking herself off for a month to Ireland and then Munich, in a few weeks. She's an enthusiastic traveller, and the only thing that holds her back is money (or rather, the lack thereof).

 

[Kitty 34]

I did my fill of vacationing esp to Vegas and WDW so when people vacation nowadays I always hope they have the great experiences we did!!

 

[sk!mom]

I actually love to see other's vacation pics. Living vicariously is one of my past times- hence time spent here and viewing vacations on FB.

Whole articles have been written about FB/social media depression. And then there's the newer term- FOMO. Apparently you are not alone.

 

[Westcoastwild]

I do. I seethe in jealousy. I work so, so hard. I've worked full-time since I was 14, put myself through college, got through an MBA...but I really feel resentful toward women who get all these vacations. I get 3 days maaaaybe every 2-3 years to go to Disneyland. Every woman I know goes on vacation once a year at least; most have been on at least one "nice" vacation by 40. I most likely will never do that. Life just costs too much. I know this is a really old thread. I guess I just wanted someone searching this to know that the envy is real and you aren't alone. It is miserable knowing that all my hard work essentially boils down to "basic living plus Disneyland twice a decade." I'm actively trying to find a job in a lower cost of living area, so maybe I can dream of a better life. So maybe that's an idea?

I dunno. While I've in the past had a job that barely allowed survival, and hugs if that is your situation- I get this from a few select friends who "wish" they could travel like me.

In reality, I don't travel the way they would travel. Sure, I go to cities like Paris or NYC but I stay in a hostel and take transit. I eat a lot of amazing food and go to museums but I don't spend money on booze or clubs or broadway. I might shop for something specific but I don't shop to shop. I treat Neiman Marcus or saks as just another tourist site (and actually, I'm usually in a store like that for the architecture rather than the shopping). I pick destinations based on plane ticket, transit, and whether or not it has a decent hostel.


Just to give you an idea- one friend has repeatedly expressed envy. Well, she's only willing to travel with her boyfriend. He grew up in wealthy family and apparently considers anything less than a Marriott to be cruel and unusual. They went to hawaii. In one week, they spent the same amount on just lodging that I spent on food, lodging and transit in 5 weeks in Europe. And two or three times amount in shopping than I did in Europe.

I mean they had a great time. And I was a little bit envious that she was on a sunny beach in winter. The thing is that she was still envious of me and that just grated on my nerves. She could have been in Europe. Nothing stopping her except her preconceived notion of what she needed to spend or do. Meanwhile there is a reason I haven't been to Hawaii. I would love to go but lodging and car rental necessary to see much of it makes it too expensive.

But to answer the op's question, no. I would actually be thrilled if there were more exotic locales and fewer baby pictures and political memes in my feed.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

I know I have no reason to be jealous, we vacation regularly. But I have FB friends who are vacationing in WDW and Cozemel. They are posting pics and updates about how much fun they are having. Maybe because we aren't doing WDW this year? Also, maybe because I can't make people equally jealous as we don't post vacation pics/updates for safety reasons.....

Not really. I don't even bother to read them or post them. I just don't see why anyone would give a flip about my vacation other than my family.

If I have a picture of something worth posting like say beautiful Yosemite Falls, I'll post it. But not because we're on vacation and I wouldn't post it while on vacation.

 

[lifesavacation]

I love seeing vacation pictures. Maybe I'm weird, but most of the people I follow on Instagram are travelers who post their pictures. I really do enjoy seeing different parts of the world and it gives me travel ideas.