Anyone else book a Disney trip to cheer themselves up?

[jliucci]

My DH & I took our DD (2.5yo) to Disney this past November and it was so much fun! We figured it would be our last trip as a family of 3 because we knew when we got home we planned to have a 2nd baby. Fast forward to the present and we unfortunately had an ectopic pregnancy in Jan. While going through the recovery and being sad I decided I wanted to go back to Disney this year & booked a Sept trip. I figured we weren't going to have a baby this year like we planned so why not take our daughter back. Also, I think selfishly it gives me something to look forward too and plan. My husband wont come out and tell me to cancel it, but he makes comments about how we were just there, and that there are things around the house we could use the $$ for instead. I get where he is coming from but suddenly i feel like life is too short and i want to make the memories with my family now. I guess i am just feeling guilty and was wondering if anyone else books trips to there happy place to cheer themselves up too.

 

[SG131]

Yes most definitely. Sometimes in life you need something to look forward to. I did a two week long trip solo last dec to recover and help me get through the Christmas season. After almost two years of having my foster daughters that we were all told from day 1 would be staying there forever they were forced to move to a distant relative who initially said she didn’t want them (esp the one that isn’t related by blood to her and you could tell by her treatment of her the feeling on that hadn't changed). It was rough especially knowing the kids were being sent back to poverty and for one an unloving environment. The kids were a wreck started having some significant behavior issues and the county said tough. I’ve done kinship care before of old friends children, but when they moved on it was to a good home. So this one was a bit tougher. The trip definitely helped me and I’m so glad I went even though there’s plenty around the house that would’ve been a better use of my money.

 

[jliucci]

Yes most definitely. Sometimes in life you need something to look forward to. I did a two week long trip solo last dec to recover and help me get through the Christmas season. After almost two years of having my foster daughters that we were all told from day 1 would be staying there forever they were forced to move to a distant relative who initially said she didn’t want them (esp the one that isn’t related by blood to her and you could tell by her treatment of her the feeling on that hadn't changed). It was rough especially knowing the kids were being sent back to poverty and for one an unloving environment. The kids were a wreck started having some significant behavior issues and the county said tough. I’ve done kinship care before of old friends children, but when they moved on it was to a good home. So this one was a bit tougher. The trip definitely helped me and I’m so glad I went even though there’s plenty around the house that would’ve been a better use of my money.

Thank you for your response! I know the money would probably be better served to a new roof or something, but I can't let go of the feeling that I really just want to go and have a good time with my daughter.

 

[tinkerjo]

I did this and ended up having to cancel it. I think it made me sadder!! I have called Disney reservations before to “check prices and availability” just to hear the Disney music and to hear them tell me to “have a magical day” (usually in the dead of winter when it’s cold and dark) I’m sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy and hope things work out for you. You know, sometimes you just need something to look forward to. Talk to your husband about it.

 

[tinkerjo]

Yes most definitely. Sometimes in life you need something to look forward to. I did a two week long trip solo last dec to recover and help me get through the Christmas season. After almost two years of having my foster daughters that we were all told from day 1 would be staying there forever they were forced to move to a distant relative who initially said she didn’t want them (esp the one that isn’t related by blood to her and you could tell by her treatment of her the feeling on that hadn't changed). It was rough especially knowing the kids were being sent back to poverty and for one an unloving environment. The kids were a wreck started having some significant behavior issues and the county said tough. I’ve done kinship care before of old friends children, but when they moved on it was to a good home. So this one was a bit tougher. The trip definitely helped me and I’m so glad I went even though there’s plenty around the house that would’ve been a better use of my money.

That’s so sad!!! The system really sucks!!!!

 

[princessebird]

Yes. We booked a trip (our first and so far only trip) on relatively short notice when the fifth and final round of IVF failed. The brief planning helped me take my mind off of things. DH and I brought DD (4 at the time), and it made me realize that we were going to be just fine as a family of 3.

 

[ArielDreams]

Three years of infertility led me to a “cheer up” trip last August where we fully enjoyed Food & Wine. We had been twice before that thinking it would be our last trip as just the two of us. Our next cycle worked so now I am planning baby’s 1st trip long before he’s born

 

[stephk1981]

I am so sorry for your loss,lots of good thoughts coming your way. I am going to encourage you to go on the trip. Having previous memories with DD before a sibling is born is important. I understand where your DH is coming from, my husband tends to not join us often ( not due to cost, but because he doesn't care for Disney a ton.) After a loss, no matter how far along you are, you do need a bit of cheering up! I really hope you go and have a magical time.
We had a miscarriage about 8 months after DD was born, complete surprise pregnancy...and DD was still so young that I think it helped me find peace quickly.... I will say that it helped having a Disney trip upcoming to look forward to!

 

[Disneyfan754321]

I think it's the husbands job to worry about money. If you found away to offset the price of the trip maybe he would come around. Like us we first started on swagbucks I make 50 a month or so I in turn have been buying visa cards. Then I just started doing doordash I do one or two in a day with my kids in the car. I make about 6-10 a delivery. It all adds up. We stay offsite and shorten our days at disney to lessen the ticket price. I really think that a vacation is just thing you need. I am glad you are ok, best luck to you and your family. There is a reason for everything you just dont know what it is yet.

 

[moose81]

Yes. We took our first trip after I had my 3rd miscarriage. We had a 2 year old at the time and I really wanted a 2nd child but couldn't decide if we should keep trying b/c it was so hard to keep going through that. We decided to give ourselves our break and so we booked a trip to WDW for 3 months later and told ourselves we wouldn't worry about trying anymore until we came home. Plus we wanted to spend some real quality time with our little one. We ended up getting a delightful surprise a week or two before our trip and I spent that whole trip nauseous and exhausted with morning sickness but I will always think of my youngest as my "Disney baby." I'm so sorry for what you are going through and I hope you get to take your trip.

 

[disneydreamer1980]

Making memories is the most important thing you can do in life. No one while on their death bed would ever say “Gee I wish I would’ve got that roof instead of going on a trip and making great memories with my family”. Now, if your roof were caving in obviously that would be more important but otherwise, experiences are the most important things.

 

[lorenni]

I’m sorry to hear about your pregnancy ending.

I absolutely have booked a disney trip (and other types of trips) for cheering up and having something to look forward to. Just last month, knowing I was in for a brutal 4 weeks leading to a March 1 deadline, I booked a March cruise just for me and DS (we left DH at home!) and it was terrific.

Have fun planning and looking forward to your September trip. Life IS short and you should take every opportunity to enjoy it.

 

[Tiggerlover91]

My DH & I took our DD (2.5yo) to Disney this past November and it was so much fun! We figured it would be our last trip as a family of 3 because we knew when we got home we planned to have a 2nd baby. Fast forward to the present and we unfortunately had an ectopic pregnancy in Jan. While going through the recovery and being sad I decided I wanted to go back to Disney this year & booked a Sept trip. I figured we weren't going to have a baby this year like we planned so why not take our daughter back. Also, I think selfishly it gives me something to look forward too and plan. My husband wont come out and tell me to cancel it, but he makes comments about how we were just there, and that there are things around the house we could use the $$ for instead. I get where he is coming from but suddenly i feel like life is too short and i want to make the memories with my family now. I guess i am just feeling guilty and was wondering if anyone else books trips to there happy place to cheer themselves up too.

How sad for you. I cannot imagine how that feels. I only have one son...he's 11 and I cannot imagine my life without him. I have never booked a trip to cheer me up...it's unfortunate the money just isn't there for that kind of cheering up. But if that's what you need to do, then you do you sweetie! I DO however book trips when a "reward" is WELL overdue. My current year teaching has absolutely stunk! Administration isn't the best. I LOVE and ADORE the majority of my students, but the school I am in is draining! My son, however, rocked out his elementary years K-5 so I decided this trip was more for him as a congrats from me on a job well done. This trip in small part is for me too as a I will get through the year and I'm moving on to something MUCH better in another district.

 

[elsbit]

First, I'd like to say sorry for your loss. Much love to you and your family.

Our first family trip to Disney was booked after my father died. I had a "you only live once, have fun" mentality going on when I booked it and thought it would be a one time trip. Instead, I loved it so much, we have been back. I could understand wanting to go back to someplace that makes you very happy. I don't think you should feel guilty. Find ways to save money to make yourself feel better about spending the money.

 

[friedela]

So sorry to hear about your loss We had 3 losses before my kids were born, it's a hard road. We just went to WDW in Feb 2018 so it also feels like we were just there, but we planned a DL trip because I'm homeschooling for the first time and this year has been rough. I admit having a trip coming up is the only thing getting me through this next month, lol.

 

[familyman123]

My DH & I took our DD (2.5yo) to Disney this past November and it was so much fun! We figured it would be our last trip as a family of 3 because we knew when we got home we planned to have a 2nd baby. Fast forward to the present and we unfortunately had an ectopic pregnancy in Jan. While going through the recovery and being sad I decided I wanted to go back to Disney this year & booked a Sept trip. I figured we weren't going to have a baby this year like we planned so why not take our daughter back. Also, I think selfishly it gives me something to look forward too and plan. My husband wont come out and tell me to cancel it, but he makes comments about how we were just there, and that there are things around the house we could use the $$ for instead. I get where he is coming from but suddenly i feel like life is too short and i want to make the memories with my family now. I guess i am just feeling guilty and was wondering if anyone else books trips to there happy place to cheer themselves up too.

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I’ll just chime in that your husband may be dealing with grief in a different way then you want to, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t greiving in his own way.

If you haven’t already, I think talking to him directly about how he is feeling and what he is thinking. Men tend to internalize things a lot.

 

[1911]

these boards,planning and researching a trip are my diversion from the "real world". so... yes

 

[Bellex917]

Yes actually.... I'm going in April due to the loss of my father in February. We weren't planning to go until 2020, but decided to push it up bc I needed a distraction. I won't lie, I'm a little worried about what I'll do when this trip is over lol, but it's been a great distraction.

 

[ktlm]

Yes. Sometimes, you just need something else to focus on and to get away to help with healing/grieving. I've heard comments about "we were just there" from my DH too-- or "we were just at DLH, why do we need to go to WDW". I typically ignore them because I know he loves Disney and has fun there too.

Keep it booked, you can always cancel it as it gets a closer if you change your mind.

Kids change so much at your DD's age. We took DD when she was 2, and then went again every year for her pre-school years. They change so much in those years, that each year has different highlights. I wouldn't trade those trips for anything.

What I remember most about my childhood are the family vacations and the holidays. I even have some vague memories of the ones when I was very young- and I definitely remember the feelings. My DD just turned 13, and she still has specific details of her 2 and 3 year old trips that she remembers. Plus, even though your DD may be too little to remember, you will remember.

Life is too short, and kids grow up way too fast. It seems like we were just on that first 2 year old trip, and now I only have 5 years left until college. Unless it is going to cause you financial hardship, I say make the memories!

 

[Christina Johnson]

I’m so sorry. I’ve booked a Disney trip to help with cheering me up.