Anybody have a short DD?

[Kimberly]

Nothing wrong with being short. If she is done growing, she will "fill out" between the ages of 18 and 21 and gain approximately an inch or two in height. She has nothing to worry about! My older sister is approximately 5 feet tall, about the same height as my mother. My father is no giant at about 5'7". My little brother and I seem to be the odd ones out, me being 5'7", and he being 6'2".

Don't have a clue where that height came from, but weirder things have happened!

 

[MinnieM21]

I'm almost 21 and a little over 4' 11" and weigh 90 pounds. I have a kidney disease and take Prednisone for my kidney disease so I never reached the height I was supposed to be (about 5' 3").
I swear a day doesn't go by where someone doesn't mention how short I am or how I look so young. Sometimes it does really hurt my feelings. I always get the comment, "you're almost 21? wow you look 14!" Then they notice how all of a sudden I look upset and try to make me feel better by saying, "oh but you'll appreciate one day." Yeah but at the moment, I don't like being told I look like a child. Then there are the people who love to go on about how short I am.

I guess it's hard to deal with knowing that if it wasn't for my kidney disease, I'd be taller and wouldn't get so many rude remarks. It's just not about wanting to be taller but just wanting to feel like a 21 year old and not be looked at as a child.

 

[LuvN~Travel]

Ourdaughter is also short, 4'8". Her growth was stunted by back surgery at age 8.5 for Scoliosis. Of course she was always short for her age before, but if she had not had to have the surgery she might have reached 5'. We've talked with her quite a bit, and even though she doesn't like it, she does understand that there was not much choice on that matter. Finding pants is the hardest thing, but with capris out lately, I can get those for her instead.
I think the hardest thing for her to take right now is her younger brother, he is 12, she is almost 17 and he almost tops her by a foot! Not a happy camper.
But, she has learned to deal with it. And, she does not let it stop her from taking on her brother!
Kim

 

[sm4987]

I'm 31 and I'm 4' 11. I get talked about even as an adult. It does bother me to some extent, but hey there are just some ignorant people out there. However, everyone does think I'm extremely young, and even being married get hit on quite often even with boys from high school! Being short does have it's advantages.............She's a beautiful young lady and I don't think her height will be any problems for her!!!

 

[Brier Rose]

It's just that when you put her with her girlfriends, they all look a lot older than she does, and most of them have, shall I say, a lot more to look at in some areas.

She hates it, but her dad and I don't mind at all!

Now that is one problem DD does not have! (can you say 32C)....Shhh..I did not just say that!

DH is very umm...unnerved about it. He's always like...can't you wrap her with an ace bandage or something!

 

[Brier Rose]

I guess it's hard to deal with knowing that if it wasn't for my kidney disease, I'd be taller and wouldn't get so many rude remarks. It's just not about wanting to be taller but just wanting to feel like a 21 year old and not be looked at as a child.

I really think that is THE issue with my DD. She's getting older, and she wants everyone else to know it!

 

[Brier Rose]

I think the hardest thing for her to take right now is her younger brother, he is 12, she is almost 17 and he almost tops her by a foot! Not a happy camper.
But, she has learned to deal with it. And, she does not let it stop her from taking on her brother!
Kim

My DS is 7 and he is almost as tall as my DD. I think that's really when she started to take notice of her height. I just remind her that in a few more years he'll be taller than me too!


Here's a picture of both my kids with their grandmother. You can really tell how close in height they are, and they're 7 years apart!

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[chell]

I'm 32 and I'm 5' and 1/4". Here are the two things I tell others and that I remind myself of when I'm feeling down about it - by the way, yes people can be so cruel! It isn't like I choose to be this short. Sometimes I want to ask them if they choose to be so flippin ignorant!

#1 - Since I'm so short that means I have to look up on everything. So I have a better perspective on life than those of you who have to look down on everything.

#2 - I'm short because I'm afraid of heights.

 

[Brier Rose]

Oops...sorry, didn't mean for that to be so large!

 

[chell]

Oops...sorry, didn't mean for that to be so large!

It is fine. She is beautiful!

Remind her that some of the most wonderful things in life come in small packages.

 

[snowball22]

My dd is 14 and 5 foot 1 and 3/4. She calls herself short and gets down on herself about her size but is also beautiful like your dd. My ds though is another story. He has grown 8 and 3/4 inches in two years. He is 11. I think my dd compares herself to the size of her brother and also to all the fashion models in the magazines who are tall. We also have some smaller women in the family with the exception of a few who were over 6 feet tall. I think it is just important to teach our daughters to feel good about themselves no matter the size!!!!!

 

[MAKmom]

I'm 5'2" , DD 19 is 5 ft & DD 9 will be 5ft... maybe . She is 9 & 50 inches she is very small not even on the chart.

I hope your sister smacked her stupid co-worker.

Girls can keep growing until 16. DD19 cried when the DR said that was it for her.

 

[TinkInPink]

My DD is 2 months younger than yours and she just in the last wk or so is very proud that she is a bit taller(like 1/8 th inch) than me at 5 foot. The only thing she has ever hated about being short was not being able to ride the rides at Disney. When she reads about these kids on here going on things at 3 and 4 she gets mad 'cause she was 6 or so before she made even TOT. She says she actually likes it because it makes her stand out and be remembered at school and stuff. I would ask her but she is at softball practice-made the school team so being short is ok.

thanks mum thats a whole 1/8th of an inch!
i have been the shortest one in the class/ on the team since i started preschool. It is true i like being short, first thing the tall people are noticed, then the short people, if you are average, you are just that average with all of the other people.And it has it advantages at school, (during trips,class etc) my teachers know i cant see over others, so i get a place up front where i can definatly see.
I have a good group of friends who dont care how tall i am and accept me for who i am, that helps alot!
P.S. tell you DD if she needs someone to talk about being short with to PM me

 

[Brier Rose]

thanks mum thats a whole 1/8th of an inch!
i have been the shortest one in the class/ on the team since i started preschool. It is true i like being short, first thing the tall people are noticed, then the short people, if you are average, you are just that average with all of the other people.And it has it advantages at school, (during trips,class etc) my teachers know i cant see over others, so i get a place up front where i can definatly see.
I have a good group of friends who dont care how tall i am and accept me for who i am, that helps alot!
P.S. tell you DD if she needs someone to talk about being short with to PM me

Thanks Tink..you're a sweetie!
BTW..my DD is a horse girl too! She's been riding English for about 4 years now, and loves to do shows. Only small jumps though, those big ones scare me!

 

[Sleepy]

At 5ft, I always felt very short. That is until I moved here and found I am average. I see many people UNDER 4-10. Tell her the advantage of being small is you can sneak through crowds really easily. Also, being short gives you a reason to talk to guys. In a grocery store and can't reach that item on the top shelf? Wait for a tall guy to walk past you and beg him to help. They always do. And if you can't find assistance, you can always grab something off the shelf and use it as a "stick" of sorts to reach the other item. Works like a charm. I do it all the time.

 

[paslea_pooh]

My DD is 14..will be 15 in Oct., and she is only 4'10. She had cancer when she was a baby, and had some kidney damage from the chemo and radiation, so we've always known she most likely wouldn't grow to her full height.

It's something she's always noticed , but hasn't been upset about, until today!

We stopped by my sister's office today, and this stupid woman just kept going on and on and on about how short she is!

And this woman KNOWS her history! DD just had this look on her face...OMG..I knew I was gonna start crying again.

She just looked devestated. The other ladies in the office started to get uncomfortable, and just kept commenting on how beautiful they think DD is, how pretty her hair is..etc.

This is SOOO not the right age to be hearing this kind of stuff! DD has always been very strong, and even though I know it hurt her feelings, she'll get over it.

I'm the one with the broken heart!

So what age do girls stop growing anyway???

My daughter is 14 and will be 15 on 9/23, she has Always been petite... she weighs about 80lbs and is 4'11'' right now. I've discussed with her doctor about her growth and what I've been told Over and Over is, if she is continuing to grow at a steady pace ( in other words not losing weight, getting smaller, etc)... even though she is small and petite , that it's okay. She also told me that girls will continue to grow 2 more years past their first period. She just got her period about 2 months ago...so she will be getting taller in the next two years. It also has to do with the parents heights.. I am 38 and only 5'2" and DH is about 5'11".

HTH

 

[tazz23]

Another one here who thinks your DD is gorgeous and from reading your posts it sounds like she may be only 4ft10 (and i'm sure she will grow a few more inches) but she sounds perfectly formed.

I'm 21 in a few weeks and am only 5ft tall. One of my best friends is 21 and only 4ft 11 and maybe we've been lucky but neither of us have had many problems being on the shorter side. However, I still used to hate being small when I was 15 but now I think there are lots of advantages:

Most of my boyfriends have been around 6ft- Ive been told that smaller girls are more attractive, as they're cute-looking and they stand out from the crowd.
Most of my tall friends complain that they can never find a guy that is taller than them, but short girls don't have this problem and can pick any guy they like Short girls can also put a pair of heels or wedges on their feet and grow an extra few inches but taller girls cannot make themselves shorter.

At concerts or gigs, you can play the 'damsel in distress' and most often guys will lift you up to see over the crowds. The same goes for heavy bags, I find guys feel the need to 'protect' shorter girls.

I have no problem with people mistaking me for being younger, I take it as a compliment! As a poor college student, It means that I can get away with cheaper bus or cinema tickets. If I need to be my age, I always carry around ID to ensure I get into bars and clubs.

I'd ignore what that stupid woman said, she's probably just jeolous because she wishes she was young and pretty like your DD!

 

[believe]

My daughter is 8 and in the 5th percentile or less for height and weight. Her sister, 2.5yr younger, is as tall as she is. Like your daughter she is taking it well now, but I am not sure how she will be later. It may help that I am only 5' and she knows that is about where she will end up. Luckily she has the metabolizm for it, unlike me

Before meeting DH is always used my shortness to my advantage....as Sleepy mentioned I am sure you daughter will find advantages to being short.

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

Your daughter looks beautiful! Girls can be petite. I would never question someone about the height of their child. I have a daughter who is 5'10. She would love to be petite. People comment all the time on how tall she is. She hates it. People have no brains sometimes. The most important thing is your daughter's health. As long as she is doing well that is all that matters.

 

[malibuconlee]

Your daughter is beautiful. I totally understand about being short. I think I was done growing by the time I was her age, or shortly thereafter, certainly not a big growth spurt around that time.

I'm only 5-1, so I totally understand being short. You know they make petite clothes for the 5-4 and under crowd? I've just gotten used to wearing my pants a little longer than others.

I also had everyone thinking I was younger than I really was. I remember seeing my mom at work one day the summer after I turned 16. I had my car keys in my hand and some woman my mom had been talking to said "I can't believe you let her drive". Well, I was 16 with a license.

Heck it went into my 20's. When I was a married woman of 23 I was asked at LAX if I was old enough to fly alone. The same day a nice older couple asked if I was running away from home.

Have her find a good taylor, buy some thick soled or high healed shoes and let her have fun with it. You can't change it, so go with it.

Plus, I have a WONDERFUL DH. He's the perfect hight for me (about 5-8). But in high school he actually had a girl tell him he'd be cute if he was 3 inches taler.

Remember GREAT THINGS COME IN SMALL PACKAGES!!!