Liberty Belle
<font color=green>I was going to reply, but I see
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I've spoken with a teacher I know, but I would like to see if her opinion is biased. This is going to be long and I really appreciate you reading it and giving me any input you can. 
My son will be going into 2nd grade next year. His first grade year was not so great. He was diagnosed with ADHD and is about to be diagnosed with SID (his clinician is sure of it, but he's not had a formal evaluation yet). His behavior was very off and on and when it was off, it was really off. Let me also preface the rest with saying I do not think my child is a "special snowflake."
He's a very smart boy (unbelievable sense of humor, learns quickly, retains amazingly well, etc). His kindergarten teacher recognized this and he was in accelerated groups the whole year. His behavior in kindergarten was ok, his bad days were way better than his bad days last year. At most he lost a couple stars or got a note sent home. His teacher never suggested we talk to his doctor or anything, though.
Anyway...his spring MAP test scores in reading (196) and math (207) were in the 99th percentiles. His growth for the year was 26 points in reading and 30 points in math. Well above the typical growth.
His teacher, though, is discounting the scores and says he is academically behind. When asked for specifics, she mentions handwriting and spelling (I agree) and reading (fluency). How he reads at school (as described by her) is not how he is reading at home. I think it's probably the environment, but I don't know.
When she first told us about the MAP scores (the winter scores which were 97% and 98%) she said she was shocked. When we ran into his kindergarten teacher and told her the scores, she didn't bat an eye and said she was not surprised.
Now when we ask her about the scores (with the latest ones being particularly high) she just says, "The tests are read to them!" Ok, yes, but isn't there a reason they're read to the first graders? And this is not when we're specifically talking about reading.
We had a 504 meeting for him near the end of the school year and (he was approved) in it she was very cold and rude. At one point she snapped at my husband (who is very calm and polite), "Did you not hear what I said?!" At the end of the meeting the counselor said she wanted to assure us that they put a lot of thought into who would be his teacher next year. Afterwards his principal (who we love) pulled us aside and told us she thought it would be a great fit for my son, that the teacher is "kind of like him." Which leads me to believe that they recognize his first grade teacher was a bad fit. And I can tell you many other things she said, too, which just infuriated me (many times giving my son false information). And ways in which she seemed to purposefully escalate bad behavior.
So, basically my questions are:
1. Could he score in the 99th percentile and not be (at least) on grade level (except for handwriting which the test can't score)?
2. She mentioned the MAP test scores could have been so high due to "splinter skills." I thought the test was pretty thorough, though, and don't really understand how this could be true. Can it?
3. Could boredom be contributing to his bad behavior? (His clinician and principal said he should be given more challenging work, but teacher never did this as far as I could tell).
4. What can we do next year to foster a better relationship with his new teacher? And how can we emphasize that yelling at him and deliberately antagonizing him (ripping up his paper in front of him and throwing it in the garbage, because "You have to understand, I told him three times to stop writing") only makes things worse, it doesn't "scare him into shape."
I hope I'm not coming across as anti-teacher. I am a para and love education and have worked with wonderful, caring teachers. I also realize my son's behaviors would be frustrating and that (among other things) is a big reason we had him evaluated as soon as they suggested it. We've been very supportive.
Thank you so much for reading this. I'm just feeling very frustrated and can use all the help I can get.

My son will be going into 2nd grade next year. His first grade year was not so great. He was diagnosed with ADHD and is about to be diagnosed with SID (his clinician is sure of it, but he's not had a formal evaluation yet). His behavior was very off and on and when it was off, it was really off. Let me also preface the rest with saying I do not think my child is a "special snowflake."
He's a very smart boy (unbelievable sense of humor, learns quickly, retains amazingly well, etc). His kindergarten teacher recognized this and he was in accelerated groups the whole year. His behavior in kindergarten was ok, his bad days were way better than his bad days last year. At most he lost a couple stars or got a note sent home. His teacher never suggested we talk to his doctor or anything, though.
Anyway...his spring MAP test scores in reading (196) and math (207) were in the 99th percentiles. His growth for the year was 26 points in reading and 30 points in math. Well above the typical growth.
His teacher, though, is discounting the scores and says he is academically behind. When asked for specifics, she mentions handwriting and spelling (I agree) and reading (fluency). How he reads at school (as described by her) is not how he is reading at home. I think it's probably the environment, but I don't know.
When she first told us about the MAP scores (the winter scores which were 97% and 98%) she said she was shocked. When we ran into his kindergarten teacher and told her the scores, she didn't bat an eye and said she was not surprised.
Now when we ask her about the scores (with the latest ones being particularly high) she just says, "The tests are read to them!" Ok, yes, but isn't there a reason they're read to the first graders? And this is not when we're specifically talking about reading.
We had a 504 meeting for him near the end of the school year and (he was approved) in it she was very cold and rude. At one point she snapped at my husband (who is very calm and polite), "Did you not hear what I said?!" At the end of the meeting the counselor said she wanted to assure us that they put a lot of thought into who would be his teacher next year. Afterwards his principal (who we love) pulled us aside and told us she thought it would be a great fit for my son, that the teacher is "kind of like him." Which leads me to believe that they recognize his first grade teacher was a bad fit. And I can tell you many other things she said, too, which just infuriated me (many times giving my son false information). And ways in which she seemed to purposefully escalate bad behavior.
So, basically my questions are:
1. Could he score in the 99th percentile and not be (at least) on grade level (except for handwriting which the test can't score)?
2. She mentioned the MAP test scores could have been so high due to "splinter skills." I thought the test was pretty thorough, though, and don't really understand how this could be true. Can it?
3. Could boredom be contributing to his bad behavior? (His clinician and principal said he should be given more challenging work, but teacher never did this as far as I could tell).
4. What can we do next year to foster a better relationship with his new teacher? And how can we emphasize that yelling at him and deliberately antagonizing him (ripping up his paper in front of him and throwing it in the garbage, because "You have to understand, I told him three times to stop writing") only makes things worse, it doesn't "scare him into shape."
I hope I'm not coming across as anti-teacher. I am a para and love education and have worked with wonderful, caring teachers. I also realize my son's behaviors would be frustrating and that (among other things) is a big reason we had him evaluated as soon as they suggested it. We've been very supportive.
Thank you so much for reading this. I'm just feeling very frustrated and can use all the help I can get.