Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Blech. My "baby" sister just called, and she's pregnant. She and her DH have been trying for a while, and she was diagnosed last fall/late summer with PCOS. To be honest, I've not thought it was great timing for them, since she's the only one with income right now while her DH is finishing up his PhD, but I also didn't think it was my place to tell them what they should or shouldn't do. She's 28, they've been married 5 years, and they have a nice townhouse-style place that they've been renting with more than enough room for a baby.

Sigh. I know I should be happy for them, but I just really really wish I could get that BFP. And I confess that it drives me crazy that my younger sister beat me to this. I didn't mind when she got married before I did, although she did go out of her way to make a point of reminding me that she beat me to the altar on every occasion possible. (the reminding part bugged me, the actual marrying first didn't...) Now I'm sort of afraid I'll have to listen to her going on about how she got pregnant before me, and that does bug me. Not sure why, exactly, but it does.

This weekend DH and I are going to visit my old roommate who just had her first baby in December. I'm looking forward to meeting the baby, but it is bringing up all those feelings of "why don't I have my own baby yet?!"

BLECH!

vent done...

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

Blech. My "baby" sister just called, and she's pregnant. She and her DH have been trying for a while, and she was diagnosed last fall/late summer with PCOS. To be honest, I've not thought it was great timing for them, since she's the only one with income right now while her DH is finishing up his PhD, but I also didn't think it was my place to tell them what they should or shouldn't do. She's 28, they've been married 5 years, and they have a nice townhouse-style place that they've been renting with more than enough room for a baby.

Sigh. I know I should be happy for them, but I just really really wish I could get that BFP. And I confess that it drives me crazy that my younger sister beat me to this. I didn't mind when she got married before I did, although she did go out of her way to make a point of reminding me that she beat me to the altar on every occasion possible. (the reminding part bugged me, the actual marrying first didn't...) Now I'm sort of afraid I'll have to listen to her going on about how she got pregnant before me, and that does bug me. Not sure why, exactly, but it does.

This weekend DH and I are going to visit my old roommate who just had her first baby in December. I'm looking forward to meeting the baby, but it is bringing up all those feelings of "why don't I have my own baby yet?!"

BLECH!

vent done...

So sorry

 

[helenabear]

Hi everyone!! I've just been busy here lately. Since I admit we aren't really paying attention to stuff anymore, I never have much to report. Couldn't even tell you what CD I am on I'm actually okay with the thought of not having a child myself, which is why I am not putting much pressure on it all. I'm still tiptoeing around with the state adoption with my husband, but sometimes he isn't so receptive on it. I suppose I'll bring it up agian in a month or so to see if he has digested more of it. Something in that one feels right... and if we have a baby of our own too, then even better. I just don't know if it will happen again.

Imarried, that is so sweet that he is actually trying to do more when it comes to TTC. Hopefully his willingness will help you out some I am sorry that your little sister beating you to it does hurt. Being the youngest and the first one to get pregnant in the family makes me wonder if I should shut up (I also beat my sister to the alter, but I don't think she wanted to be married as young as I was). Hopefully none of that will be an in your face kind fo thing.

Rebecca, so sorry about the old hag showing up. Keep your chin up though. Hopefully the appt with the doc will go well for you and you can figure out if there is something that they can correct or help with.

Desnik, I am so sorry again for your loss. I remember that all too well as it was just about a month before we lost our baby. I am glad you are feeling some closure on it

Michelle, good luck with the orientation. I will be interested to hear all about it!!!

 

[skuttle]

I'm still around, too! Just waiting around until I get close to my O day.

Imarriedgrumpy, I'm so sorry! I'm sure it is very hard for you. That is my fear...that my best friend will get pregnant with her 2nd before me! I don't think they are trying yet, but I'm so afraid it will happen and I'll struggle with being happy for her. I don't want that...I want to just be happy for her if it happens.

Michelle...Are you feeling like after orientation?? I bet it's a lot of information to digest!

 

[lovinwdw]

I am on CD 31. My last cycle was 33 days. I am feeling a little cramping and some low back pain, but i have heard that those can also be symptoms of pregnancy. If i don't get my period by saturday (day 33), should i take a pregnancy test?

 

[DisneyGirl4188]

I am on CD 31. My last cycle was 33 days. I am feeling a little cramping and some low back pain, but i have heard that those can also be symptoms of pregnancy. If i don't get my period by saturday (day 33), should i take a pregnancy test?

I would. I would probably wait until Sunday (if you can). I hate seeing BFN's, so I like to wait. Good Luck!!

 

[helenabear]

I just saw your other thread and answered there as well. I still would try to wait 14DPO before you test. Only you know exactly when that is. But if your normal cycle is 33 days, then I would wait until that day to test. I just find pregnancy tests $$$ and I would hate to see the BFN. I personally have only tested once (as a married adult... I had paranoid b/f in HS & college) when I wasn't sure if I was pregnant or not and got the BFP. I would hate to see the negative otherwise

 

[exwdwcm]

i agree at waiting til 14DPO to test. i was never a 'gotta test right now' kinda person. if that means at CD33, then do it! good luck!!

Elaine- good to hear from you. i am so glad you are relaxed and all. i would definitely continue to bring up the adoption thing in time....it sounds like you just seem to know that it is right for you. i get the feeling that maybe that was in a plan for me all along too, so we will see. even if we have our own, i would like to adopt someday.

imarried grumpy- so sorry about your sister. i mean congrats to her, but sorry about the feelings.....we all get them. and then we feel guilty for having them. it's tough. my younger sister (i am oldest of 3) has 2 little ones- one is just 5 months old. so that wasn't easy. she had no problems getting pregnant, got prego the first month they tried both times and they have awesome kids that never cry or fuss. then again, i know how strong i am and that i can get through this one way or another. you will too. put on your happy face when you have to, but don't be afraid to let out your emotions too. I talked to my sister about my feelings and she is much more open now to hearing all my venting and being more careful about what she says regarding her kids (how she loves being a mom etc etc....even hearing that can hurt). it helps. just hang in there.

well orientation went well- the embryologist showed us all the embryo stages- what is good quality, bad etc. Told us how they monitor them in the lab etc. It's just amazing how this all happens. so i am excited to get started. success rates are close to 70% for this clinic and it is ranked in the top 10 in the country. so i am going to hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. i don't have a next step plan in place. We don't know what we will do next if we don't get prego. I would either have to ask Grandpa for more money for a second try or save up. or seriously go the adoption route and save up for that (or consider adopting through CPS which is free). if we are in the 20% that has leftover eggs to freeze, then we can at least afford another try on our own with a frozen transfer- it is much less expensive since you don't have to do th drugs all over and pay for the retreival and anisthesia. so who knows. like i said, i will hope for the best!

 

[mickeyboat]

Lots and lots of luck for you!

Denae

 

[mousehouselover]

HI all......... I've been in a funk since getting back from WDW. I had a great time and didn't want to come home. AF didn't spoil my fun; thankfully. Unfortunately, that also means that I'm more than a week late and I didn't O. I might have O'd right after I got home, but I'm not sure as I didn't temp while we were gone. DH has been in a mood, he was in a lot of pain when we came home and his physical therapy hasn't left him feeling any better. On top of that, my boss found out his DW is pg, after their second month of trying. Of course, as soon as he got in on Mon, he couldn't wait to share the news and now he's talking about the u/s and her ms and mood swings. I really like the both of them and it upsets me that I have a hard time being happy for them and listening to what is going on. It's almost like a train wreck though, you can't help but look even though you know it's gruesome. I feel like I'm being punished because I can't get away from it but I really want to be happy for them. It's hard going to work now, knowing he'll have something cute to say. I think I should just get a book and curl up in bed for the night and blow off everyone and everything.

Sorry to be a downer, I had to get it out somewhere. I hate IF, it sucks and hurts.

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

HI all......... I've been in a funk since getting back from WDW. I had a great time and didn't want to come home. AF didn't spoil my fun; thankfully. Unfortunately, that also means that I'm more than a week late and I didn't O. I might have O'd right after I got home, but I'm not sure as I didn't temp while we were gone. DH has been in a mood, he was in a lot of pain when we came home and his physical therapy hasn't left him feeling any better. On top of that, my boss found out his DW is pg, after their second month of trying. Of course, as soon as he got in on Mon, he couldn't wait to share the news and now he's talking about the u/s and her ms and mood swings. I really like the both of them and it upsets me that I have a hard time being happy for them and listening to what is going on. It's almost like a train wreck though, you can't help but look even though you know it's gruesome. I feel like I'm being punished because I can't get away from it but I really want to be happy for them. It's hard going to work now, knowing he'll have something cute to say. I think I should just get a book and curl up in bed for the night and blow off everyone and everything.

Sorry to be a downer, I had to get it out somewhere. I hate IF, it sucks and hurts.

I'm so sorry...I can totally understand as most of us here can. IF does SUCK big time and please come here and vent whenever you feel like it...You have friends here that feel your pain and are going through what you are going through. But please don't give up hope!!!! That is the only thing we have!!!!

We are here for you and if you feel like curling up with a book or having a good cry...Do it! We need to decompress or else we will go crazy.

I'm glad you had such a good time at WDW What your favorite thing that you did? Where did you eat and stay? I always love hearing about peoples trips...ours is still 95 days away

 

[DisneyDreamer8]

well orientation went well- the embryologist showed us all the embryo stages- what is good quality, bad etc. Told us how they monitor them in the lab etc. It's just amazing how this all happens. so i am excited to get started. success rates are close to 70% for this clinic and it is ranked in the top 10 in the country. so i am going to hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. i don't have a next step plan in place. We don't know what we will do next if we don't get prego. I would either have to ask Grandpa for more money for a second try or save up. or seriously go the adoption route and save up for that (or consider adopting through CPS which is free). if we are in the 20% that has leftover eggs to freeze, then we can at least afford another try on our own with a frozen transfer- it is much less expensive since you don't have to do th drugs all over and pay for the retreival and anisthesia. so who knows. like i said, i will hope for the best!

Yeah Michelle...70% is pretty good odds

So when do you go in for your egg retieval? I have watched Baby Lab a few times and still find the whole thing amazing. I hope everything works out for you!!!!!!!

 

[skuttle]

Good luck, Michelle!! 70% sounds like great odds to me! I hope it all works out for you.

mousehouselover: I'm so very sorry! I haven't been through it yet (the recent pregnancies in my family were before we really started trying), but it's my biggest fear...that one of my girlfriends will get pregnant soon and I'll struggle to be happy for them. I hope things get easier for you. Whatever you feel like you need to do, just do it! Don't feel guilty. TTC is a very emotional experience all the way around. :hugs:

lovinwdw: I'd wait as well. I have 30ish cycles as well. The past three were 31, 32, and then 33. Each time I was so excited because I was a day late, and then AF showed up. Each time I took a HPT...I'm tired of wasting the money so I think I'd wait as long as possible! I hope your symptoms are pregnancy related!! I had the worst lower back pain last cycle, but unfortunately mine was just PMS related. I hope you have better luck!!

Elaine: You sound like you've found such a "happy place." It's great hearing from you!

 

[KariC]

Well, I am one of the major infertility success stories! Just posting a bit of my story to give some of you hope...

DH and I started trying after being married for 2+ years. Went through Clomid and timed "baby dancing", unblocking the fallopian tubes, to injectibles and IUI (intrauterine inseminations), to IVF (in vitro fertilization or test tube babies). There were several other procedures that I'm leaving out, and don't get me started telling you about my crazy hormonal behavior! My poor DH. Our doctor's office donated several thousand dollars of drugs for us to be able to afford the IVF. We thought we'd have to wait a year or more to continue to pay off our debt from the previous attempts. We almost moved to MA or England because IVF is covered (and DH could get transfers to both locations). We had a miscarriage with our first IVF attempt. We then had a second attempt resulting in twins. It took 5 years from going off BCP to the twins' birth. I went off the pill (on it just to regulate cycles), and went almost a whole year with no AF. Thought I might be slipping into menopause, but doctor said that I was slipping back into adolescence! (I think he just meant I'm still totally anovulatory without drugs.) Now, after our third attempt, we're pg with one. Here's the interesting part...all of my pregnancies are from the same batch of eggs! The twins and the singleton are from frozen embryos, and we still have two more in the freezer! So, genetically...all of my eggs were from my 28 year old body...which means the doctors aren't even worrying about some of those "35 year old issues". Of course, we'll be trying again...we know what freezer babies/embryos can be.

So, feel free to PM me if you have any questions. I've been through almost everything. I share my "story" because I think it's one of the ways I can pay it forward, I guess. It truly was/is the hardest thing to deal with, the most faith-testing experience in my life. And, what's odd, is this past year was tough...with no AF, I started to feel all the same insecurities about my body/femininity. Good luck to everyone!

 

[lovinwdw]

Well...no need for the pregnancy test this month. I ended up getting my period yesterday. The only good thing is that my cycle is getting back on track since going off the BCP. It was originally 37 days, then 33 and now 31. I found out that a close friend of mine is pregnant after 3 months of trying. I am happy for them, but sad for myself. DH & I are trying to keep our chins up, but each month that goes by it gets a little more difficult.

Hoping for a good month in February...

 

[mickeyboat]

Well...no need for the pregnancy test this month. I ended up getting my period yesterday. The only good thing is that my cycle is getting back on track since going off the BCP. It was originally 37 days, then 33 and now 31. I found out that a close friend of mine is pregnant after 3 months of trying. I am happy for them, but sad for myself. DH & I are trying to keep our chins up, but each month that goes by it gets a little more difficult.

Hoping for a good month in February...

Somtimes it really does take time to get your cycle on track. Lots of luck to you.

Denae

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Augh! FF hasn't shown it yet, but I think I O'd 10 days earlier than usual on CD14!! I had noticed a change in CM, but usually I have 7-10 days of that before O, so I wasn't starting on the OPK's yet. Then all of a sudden I had all my PMS symptoms, and a very small rise in temp (97.4 instead of 97.1), so I did an OPK and had a very faint line. Today my temp has jumped to 97.7, and the OPK's are back to negative and PMS symptoms are in full force. Grrrr...I hate being so stinking irregular, and I hate that OPK's are so expensive, and of course I have PMS so I'm crankier about this than usual!

So we only have one BD in the O window...ya never know...but I'll just crack up if this is the month we get the BFP - the one month we just happened to BD at the right time without knowing it was the right time!

Well, now we're in the 2ww...the countdown to testing is on!


lovinwdw: sorry to hear AF showed, but glad that your cycle seems to be getting back on track. It's hard to be patient, I know. Hope next month brings the BFP!!

KariC: thanks for sharing your story! It's always an encouragement to hear from people who have struggled with IF as well, and to hear the success on the other side of the journey. I'm still early in the quest (this is month 6 of TTC), but it gives me hope and helps me keep the big picture in mind when folks like you share your story. Thanks!

mousehouselover: Don't worry about being a downer - that's why we're here. It's a safe place to vent and be as grumpy as we need to be! It helps me to be happy for my sister and my friends over their babies when I can vent all my yucky jealousy and sadness here. Hope you find the same comfort and encouragement, and hang in there.

Michelle: wow, 70% is great! what does your time line look like from here?

And to everyone else, thanks for being part of this group, and good luck to everyone wherever you are in your cycle!

 

[mtakac]

Anyone try the ovulation predictor sticks? I've been using them for a few days and according to the stick, I won't be ovulating within the next 24 - 48 hours. However, my cervical fluid certainly seems like I am. I think I should go with my CF more than the sticks but I'm wondering if I should keep buying the the sticks. I'm also tracking my BBT but I'm still trying to get a handle on that since I stopped my BC pills just about 3 months ago. I know that 3 months is nothing but I'm 33 so I'm a little antsy.

I did get a really good laugh from the illustration in the instructions for the sticks. It describes in words how to pee on the stick. Apparently, that wasn't enough. There is also a little drawing of a woman peeing on the stick. I mean, if you can't figure that one out you've got way bigger problems than not being able to get pregnant.

I feel myself trying to avoid people who always ask if I'm pregnany yet. I've always had people do that (we celebrated our 10th wedding anniversay at Disney in October) but now that I'm actually trying to get pregnant I find it really upsetting. I don't know how you gals do it. It takes a lot of grace and strength to keep your composure.

 

[exwdwcm]

Kari- thanks for sharing your story- it does give me hope! this is my first IVF and i am so nervous, but excited at the same time. they say only 20% of women have embies left to freeze, i hope i am one of them. wow, twins, that is awesome, i am secretly hoping for 2, but my DH would probably freak! lol


mousehouselover- hang in there- it is so hard dealing with pregnant people around you. i know it is a torn feeling, wanting to be happy for them and then being a bit jealous and feeling so sad. it is only natural.

Imarriedgrumpy- well we can hope that one time did the trick! all it takes is one right time!!

well i did my first acupuncture session this am. it was nice- very relaxing. 3 needles in each foot, one in my forehead, one in each hand and 2 in my belly- it should increase blood flow to my uterus etc. and help relieve stress....which is really important during IVF. sad that the most stressful situation like IVF requires you not be stressed! it's impossible!

well my timeline is looking like this, but it all depends on how many follies i have and when they mature---sometime the week of 2/12 will be the ER/ET.
1/28- this weekend stop my BCP (i've done 3 weeks)
next week- get my period- continue my lupron shots (started them 2/22)
2/1- next thursday,baseline bloodwork w/ RE
2/2- next friday, baseline u/s with RE- should have started my new cycle
2/4- start follistim and menopur injections (i'll be doing 3 shots a night)
2/12- i am thinking i might be ready to trigger ovulation around this time
2/14- Egg retrieval (36 hours after trigger shot)
2/19- 5 day transfer (is the plan, but i could need a 3 day of my embies don't make it to 5)
2/26- beta!

of course this is just a guess on my past response to follistim etc.

 

[kjs1976]

Hi
New to this thread...we're planning to TTC this summer. I'm a teacher so *ideally* would want to TTC from June-Nov., but all the infertility stories and miscarriage stories make me soooooo nervous! I also hear so much conflicting info that I don't know what to do!

I've been of BC since Oct. because my doc, and a lot of things I read, say it can take a few months for it to get out of your system, so I just went off early to hopefully make it easier. I'm 30 and healthy with no present or past medical issues. I lost about 20 lbs. three years ago so that helps to be at my ideal weight. I eat healthy, am taking vitamins, seem to be doing all the right things. One thing that worried me this month is that I had no CM any time during the month. And last month I had EWCM in the days before my period. I've not been sick or under any great stress. Do I need to be concerned?

All of this can be so confusing! With everyone's wealth of various experiences on this board, should we start trying now and not wait until the ideal time in terms of my summers off just in case there are unforseen problems? Any advice would be great!