Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[AllyandJack]

Me, too. Why is it that EVERYONE knows SOMEONE who got pregnant as soon as they stopped trying/adopted?? Fab for them, but they're the lucky exception and not the rule.

I'm at work. I have no idea what set me off, but when I get upset, I run to Au Bon Pain and get a big bunch of stuff....I just ate it all in under 5 mns and now I am so sick. DH, who just got home, is on his way to get me. I got my stomach pills, but left them home. I think he's bringing them.

 

[7beasley]

NO!! You can't give up. You have come to far and expanded way too much hope and effort to give up now. This is your dream and you deserve this dream. Keep pursuing it...

Seriously - have you thought about a surrogate? Since you create perfectly healthy eggs and embroys but for whatever reason you just can't carry - that seems like a realistic and viable option. At least look into it - you just never know.

I am working with Robert Nichols, Esq. in Massachusetts - he runs an egg donor/surrogate practice. You can find him if you google "Bob Nichols egg" - at least read his stuff. I am almost positive he does surrogates. If not, I will check through my stuff and send you someone elses name.

BCBS sucks but you have been down the insurance road before - I am sure your doctor's office has people who get paid to deal with all the BCBS crap - let them handle it.

I know the decision of what to do is very personal and it is infuriating to have conversations like the one you described with your mom but you can't let other people's ignorance stand in the way of your reasonable, possible and realistic dream.

When people make ignorant comments to just relax and that it will happen naturually or you are doing it wrong...I just want to scream. People don't understand that women like us have something physically wrong that is preventing us from getting pregnant - it has nothing to do with the position of our legs after sex or our anxiety levels - it is our bodies. If someone told a cancer patient to just relax and there cancer would go away that person would be labelled an idiot and a fool.

But yet, people can just say those things to us. Unfortunately you have to be the bigger person and just ignore them.

Whatever you and your husband decide to do it will be okay - and none of us have been through even half of the pain and hope and depression that you have gone through during this whole process so who are we to say what to do....but I say keep trying! Don't give up. If the door is closed - find a window to go through. There ARE other options. Even adoption!

You are in my thoughts.

~Nicole

 

[2bemarried]

Carla don't give up!!! I know this is a royal pain to go through but at least try one more time now that you know what could possibly be causing the implantation failures.

Don't let your mom get to you either. Mom's are just completely clueless about this for some reason. I had to explain to mine last week that NO...it's not possible for me to get pregnant naturally..not unless I have an affair. That thankfully shut her up.

Gypsy....I loved My Little Ponies growing up. I think my parents still have one of mine in their hope chest along with my Strawberry Shortcake and Raggedy Ann doll I hope your sinus infection goes away quickly now that you're able to take the medications.

Lisa good luck trying naturally this month. You know we're going to have to tease you about being "one of the ones" if this works j/k

Nicole have fun in Vegas

I've been a complete bum this weekend. The only thing that I have done is fold laundry that was done earlier in the week Although I need to see if DH has clean shirts for this week.

 

[LisaB]

I know wouldn't it be funny if I got pregnant this month. Diana was conceived in August

Carla Again you have come too far to let the insurance companies win

 

[LisaB]

Good morning all ladies. At least the sun is sining in sunny SE Mass. How is everyone doing this morning

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Nevermind, beckmrk04 has checked-in.

 

[beckmrk04]

Nevermind, beckmrk04 has checked-in.

Thanks Miss Jasmine!

Hi to all my TTC girls. I have been MIA- I had tobe hospitalized for a couple of days.

I have hyperemesis gravidarum, which is extreme morning sickness, and I had to go have IVs and blood work and all kinds of fun stuff.

I got new medicine, and it's kind of a crapshoot to see if it'll work. I'm exhausted, but I haven't thrown up in 3 days, so I'm better.

I hope everyone is doing well. I have been thinking about all of you.

 

[Jen_in_NH]

Becky - Good luck with the new meds. Hopefully these will do the trick.

LisaB - have fun trying this month..... Your DH will be so happy

Carla I'm so sorry for all of this. Don't listen to anything your mother has to say on this subject. It's just further proof that mother doesn't always know best. And BTW, how does one do it wrong? I've always though it was pretty self-explanatory.

Gypsy - I loved My Little Ponies as a kid. Have you seen the ones at WDW where you can buy pieces for them, kind of like Mr Potato Head? They're wicked cool.

Have a great day kids!

Jen

 

[ImarriedGrumpy]

Wow, Becky! I hope this medicine works and you feel better soon. Glad you are home again. One of my friends had the same thing for both of her pregnancies. She still tells people that it wasn't easy or pleasant to go through, but it was worth it. Hang in there!

 

[LisaB]

I went to my friend's house today for another round of healing touch. She goes I can't promise you anything but you do know that this month you may get pregnant. I figured even if it doesn't work to get me pregnant then it will at least relaxing. Hopefully I will be in a better place this month and I am going to try to do it every day between 8-12.

 

[Syrreal]

Becky, I am so sorry that you are so sick. I hope that the medicine works for you.

 

[AllyandJack]

Becky, I hope you feel better soon. A woman I worked with had it so bad she was sent home with a portable IV. But, she was back to work and perfectly fine at around 14 weeks. Hopefully, you only have a few more weeks to go before you feel like yourself again.

Nicole, BCBS would pay for a surrogate, but only if there is something wrong with me - and there isn't. They'd rather pay for me to keep trying since all of my tests are negative. I'm thinking it's my RE's billing office that hasn't put the paperwork in.....which REALLY annoys me since my own mother works for her billing office. Once my RE's DH puts it all together, he hands it off to the private billing office, not the hospital billing office. The private billing office has been a thorn in my side since the very beginning. I just don't have any fight left and DH is useless - he thinks making the one phone call to BCBS is "helping". How many people have told you that when you're drunk and relaxed in Vegas you'll get pregnant?

Kristy....have an affair. I might have to use that one. Did you have your appointment with your doctor yet?

Jen, that's our problem. We're doing it wrong. I guess my excuse is that I went to Catholic School until 8th grade, so I never got public school sex ed.


I got SO SICK Sunday. DH came and got me and brought me to my parents' house because they're closer to my work. I had aches and a high fever. It hit me in 2 seconds. He finally piled me in the car and brought me home. I slept for 3 hours and then the fever was gone and the aches were gone. What the heck was THAT?! I don't feel GREAT, so I've taken the last 2 days off, but it's the strangest thing that's ever happened to me. I got my stomach pills Friday and I got some Xanax, too. Take 2 Xanax and here's me: "Insurance, what insurance? Who's infertile? Baby? What about a baby?"

 

[AllyandJack]

"At a June fertility conference in Prague, Israeli doctor Shevach Friedler reported on research showing that women who'd been entertained by a clown for 15 minutes following an embryo-transfer procedure had a conception rate nearly twice as high as women who'd undergone the procedure but no clown treatment."




So, if I have another transfer, I'll have to hire a few

 

[LisaB]

I read that article also It was pretty good. Day six past af

 

[7beasley]

That is funny about the clowns (I will file that little nugget away for future use)!

Sorry about BCBS and that hassle. Sorry too that a surrogate is not really an option becuase all the tests say you are fine. On the bright side - all the tests say you are fine.

My law school roommate emailed me pictures of her new baby (born last Tues) last night...those came in the middle of me and Tom doing egg donor stuff and applying for a home equity loan on line -- they kind of set me off and made me start crying.

I am okay now!

Carla - no one has told me that when I go to Vegas and relax I will get pregnant....thank god though because I am going to Vegas not with my husband but with my DAD...that would sure start some tounges awagging if I came back from that trip pregnant!! HA HA - LOL!!

Anyway - we are going to Disney (me and Tom) in Sept. and I have gotten that line about that - people are ignorant and stupid.

Hang in there.

~Nicole

 

[2bemarried]

Becky I hope you start to feel better.

Carla I think I would have bigger problems if I had an affair OMG at the clown article. That's TOO funny!!

Nicole we would have to break out the if you got pregnant while in Vegas

Lisa I'm sending you lots of pixie dust for this month to work.


Tomorrow is my last day of Lupron. From there I have to wait for AF to show up again. When she shows I have to call the office and go in for day 3 blood work. From what I was told yesterday several doctors reviewed my file and they want to do a 3D sonogram before doing a Lap.
I'm just physically and emotionally drained at the moment from dealing with this and my mother. Carla you are my hero I don't know how you deal with it.

 

[Minnesota!]

Hey gals - fly by! Crazy here at work.

((((Carla)))) what crappy stuff. I wish I could do a *poof* and it would be all better, you know, like in cartoons and sit-coms. Sorry you felt so ill the other day. That is really crappy that they won't look into a surrogate b/c "nothing is wrong". Maybe not, but why should you have to keep going through the heartbreak each time with IVF. This IF coverage crap really chaps me.

(((Becky))) hyperemesis is no fun. I know a couple gals that had it. One was hospitalized for most of her SECOND trimester. UGH. My girlfriend puked from sun up to sun up until she delivered. I hope it gets easier for you. Is there ANYTHING you can keep down?? I have heard lemonheads and lemon jolly ranchers help. I did jolly ranchers for the first couple weeks of my pg, but got sick off them!

(((7beasly))) that stings sometimes - seeing baby pics. My best friend is due in 4 weeks, but I am thrilled for her. It was a different story, though, when I was TTC my son. It would have knocked me down for the whole 9 months.

(((hugs))) to all that need them. IF sucks *** and there isn't much more to say.

I am about 2-3 dpo. Not much hope this month. We weren't really trying anyway, because I am trying to lose weight. But ya never know.

So - we might have had this QOTD already, but thought I would throw it back up there.

What names do you have picked out for a future child?

I was thinking about it after I saw Becky's tag about naming her first Coca-Cola!

My names (right now) are:

Joseph or Theo

Noelle or Grace or Mary or Mairead (I am quite indecisive!)

 

[exwdwcm]

Wow ladies- newbie here to this thread......i'll have to find time to go read all 99 pages to learn your stories.

I'll introduce myself. I am Michelle- i'm 32, DH is 34, we live near Dallas, TX and have been together 13 years, married for 5. No BC for 5 years, actively really trying for last year and a half. I've done the BBT charting, home O-tests, 4 months on clomid, die tests, 2 semen analysis etc. Just got on progesterone 2 months ago (no longer doing clomid- stopped that about 3 months ago, but ovulating on my own now). Just now seeing a real specialist and top notch doc in Dallas. My friend sees him and just had success with IUI for secondary infertility.

Doc suggests multiple problems----DH's slightly below avg motility, eggs not sticking to uterine wall, sperm not getting through into the cervix at all due to thick mucus?, endometriosis etc.

Options were either surgery for endom, which we aren't certain I have. But i do have painful, irregular periods and ovulation. other options were the 'hamster' test to see if sperm are getting through. Other options included IUI, IVF or injectables (at $1k a month OOP? ouch!). IVF is way down the line for us, we aren't even close to considering that yet. I know it is way pricey.

so the IUI it is. AF should be visiting in the next 10 days (of course my periods are so irregular- 21 day cycle one month, 37 day cycle the next)....
If AF comes soon, we will be good and hopefully I'll ovulate around mid month....and we could do the IUI then. We leave on August 18th for Disney though.....so our vacation might interfere if the timing is not just right. We will see how it goes. If not, we'll try it next month.

so there's my story! I can't wait to read everyone else's trials and triumphs and continue to contribute to this thread!! thanks for sharing everyone!

 

[Pollito916]

Hi everyone, just checking in to see how everyone is doing.

Becky, I'm sorry you're feeling sick. I hope the medication keeps working for you.

Yesterday I went on a road trip with a co-worker that I am pretty close with. I told here I am pg, and she was very happy for me, then asked how long we were trying. When I told her, she told me that they have been trying for about 1 year and have had no luck. She is young, only 26, but did not get her period after stopping bc, then coudn't ovulate, so she has been on Provera then Clomid.

I feel really bad, because I had no idea (I wouldn't have told anyone at work if I were in her situation either), and I don't want to seem like I am rubbing it in. It reminded me of the situation of so many of you here, and I really hope everything works out for her and all of you. Sending lots of pixie dust to everyone!

 

[LisaB]

Welcome to our little group Michelle. There is a wealth of information and support.

Answer to the question girl Judith Bernadette or boy not really sure I like Domenic John which Diana was suppose to be Kevin likes Robert Arthur after his stepfather