Any other DISers trying to concieve? Reread OP for the QOTD!

[lil mermaid]

I need some MIL advice.

She is driving me crazy! She keeps track of my CD and keeps calling and asking if AF is here yet, if I have taken a HPT, what are my symptoms, etc. It is really getting on my nerves. I only want me and DH to know this information! I will tell her when I get a confirmation from my OB that indeed I am pregnant, but until then, I don't need the added stress. She is VERY sensitive, and I know she will be asking again in the next few days. How can I tell her in the nicest way possible to quit asking and we will let her know when we are pregnant?

ICK! I don't think you should tell her at all! She is your Dh's mother, make him do it. Have him tell her that you both know that she is excited to have a grandchild, but that you really want to keep these things private, and that when you have some news, she will be the first to know!

 

[arizonacolbys]

Well, we're just back from a magical 2 week stay at WDW together. It was a much needed trip to spend quality time together after we spent so much time apart this summer while my hubby was away for Army Officer Training for the National Guard.

So, while at our favorite place in the world, my hubby told me that he thought our next trip (after our already scheduled January trip to use those AP's) to the World shouldn't be alone!! We've been together for 10 years & married for 6. I was SO excited to hear this on our trip - it made our vacation that much better!! We even bought a little baby souvenir to mark the day that we officially decided to start trying for a little one. We've always said we wanted to try someday, but with school, jobs, the house, the Army National Guard, etc, etc - it has never seemed like the right time. I think we finally decided it doesn't really matter anymore, if we want to start a family, we should just go for it! LOL

We're keeping this to ourselves - not planning on telling any family or friends until we actually conceive. We both agree that will bring less stress to the situation. So, you all are the only ones other than me & hubby that will know! I'm currently enduring a visit from AF after going off my BCP for the first time in about 10 years now. I've just started reading this thread & am finding it very informative - I'll be checking out some of these websites tonight on the couch for sure!

So, while I want to take a relaxed approach to all of this, I'm also excited to get things going! I'm considering trying to chart my temps for a couple months to at least get an idea of when everything is happening with my body. After being on BCP for so long, I really don't have a clue about anything like that.

So, thanks for having me here - this is a very informative & fun place to be!! Can't wait to get to know all of you & learn more about babymaking!

 

[fanofdisney]

I'm miserable today! AF is SO heavy these days! Last night, I doubled up with a pad and tampon, and woke up around 4 or 5 to a terrible mess everywhere! I have undies in the trash now, pj bottoms in the sink, and as soon as ds goes to kindergarten, I have to get some peroxide and try to clean a sheet and a mattress. I work 7p-7:30 a tonight, and need to take a nap sometime! Dh got up this morning before work and just asked if I was feeling alright. He must've know what the all the noises were about. It's bad enough that I'm not pregnant and AF is here, but she has to go and make her mark! I have cramps from hellll and feeling pretty beachy right now!


Sorry, had to vent!

 

[TAKitty]

I need some MIL advice.

She is driving me crazy! She keeps track of my CD and keeps calling and asking if AF is here yet, if I have taken a HPT, what are my symptoms, etc. It is really getting on my nerves. I only want me and DH to know this information! I will tell her when I get a confirmation from my OB that indeed I am pregnant, but until then, I don't need the added stress. She is VERY sensitive, and I know she will be asking again in the next few days. How can I tell her in the nicest way possible to quit asking and we will let her know when we are pregnant?

Can your husband tell her to stop? How does she know what day you are even on to begin with? Another thing you can do, this is what I did with my family and friends, is I told them that we weren't trying anymore. Life was too crazy and we were taking some time off.

On a side note, I took my first opk today and it came out at two lines for day 11. So, tonight is going to be a busy night . I thought being positive on day 11 is early.

 

[TAKitty]

I'm miserable today! AF is SO heavy these days! Last night, I doubled up with a pad and tampon, and woke up around 4 or 5 to a terrible mess everywhere! I have undies in the trash now, pj bottoms in the sink, and as soon as ds goes to kindergarten, I have to get some peroxide and try to clean a sheet and a mattress. I work 7p-7:30 a tonight, and need to take a nap sometime! Dh got up this morning before work and just asked if I was feeling alright. He must've know what the all the noises were about. It's bad enough that I'm not pregnant and AF is here, but she has to go and make her mark! I have cramps from hellll and feeling pretty beachy right now!


Sorry, had to vent!

My dh works from 10 pm until 7 am so I know how difficult that schedule can be to begin with. Spend this time eatting and drinking all the things that you wouldn't do while pregnant and get sympathy from your Dh.

 

[kellyf2626]

Emily - Welcome! I just recently joined this thread as well, and have learned so much from everyone! I am sure you will find the same thing!

fanofdiney - I'm sorry you had such a bad night. When AF came for me this month, it was also verrrryyy heavy. Much more than usual. I started thinking maybe we got close to conceiving...but my body decided not to let it stay. Who knows.... I hope you feel better, and are able to sneak a nap in sometime.

 

[helenabear]

Hi y'all... went to the doc and the vet, so I am dead tired!

The doc office just drew blood for another quant and they gave the the RhoGAM shot. They have nothing they really can do until they do the ultrasound on Thursday. I'm still bleeding, but not as heavy as AF, but there is clotting. I'm not a happy camper

I'm pobably ignoring some, but I feel like taking a nap

Kellyfan, sorry that your flow was that bad! I've never had one quite that bad in my life and I can be a heavy bleeder!

Mickeybar, I would tell her kindly to butt out. And if she doesn't have your DH tell her to. This is kind of the reason why my family has no idea

Welcome Emily!!

Oh our vacation, yes it is a Disney vacation. At this moment, I cannot wait for it to come. I am just so dang tired of this all... the ups and downs of it.

I think I am off to nap

 

[mickeybar]

Can your husband tell her to stop? How does she know what day you are even on to begin with? Another thing you can do, this is what I did with my family and friends, is I told them that we weren't trying anymore. Life was too crazy and we were taking some time off.

After my m/c, she knew that it would be 4-6 weeks for my first period, so she kept asking then when I got it I made the BIG mistake of telling her, so I actually think she must be charting it because she knew to ask me yesterday if I got my period. I'm too nice and I hate to hurt her feelings. Next time she asks I think I will say something like, "I don't want to talk about it, I know your really excited but I think it's best that we don't because it makes it more stressful and we will let you guys know when I am pregnant". I know it will hurt her feelings but it's really annoying having someone ask you everytime you see them...."Did you get your period?" which really means, "Are you pregnant yet?" I think if I have my DH say something, who has never witnessed any of these conversations, she will be offended, but I have no idea.

Uggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! The only reason she knows anything is because I was pregnant and then we had a m/c so she knows we are trying. My advice to my fellow TTC'ers, don't tell anyone!

 

[beckmrk04]

I woke up with a case of the Mondays. DH and I have to sit down and work out a budget today and I am dreading it, because I know it's going to mean shutting off the internet. And probably the satellite. They are things we don't HAVE to have, and since I can't work, we need to be saving all the money we can.

But it sucks.

 

[fanofdisney]

After my m/c, she knew that it would be 4-6 weeks for my first period, so she kept asking then when I got it I made the BIG mistake of telling her, so I actually think she must be charting it because she knew to ask me yesterday if I got my period. I'm too nice and I hate to hurt her feelings. Next time she asks I think I will say something like, "I don't want to talk about it, I know your really excited but I think it's best that we don't because it makes it more stressful and we will let you guys know when I am pregnant". I know it will hurt her feelings but it's really annoying having someone ask you everytime you see them...."Did you get your period?" which really means, "Are you pregnant yet?" I think if I have my DH say something, who has never witnessed any of these conversations, she will be offended, but I have no idea.

Uggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! The only reason she knows anything is because I was pregnant and then we had a m/c so she knows we are trying. My advice to my fellow TTC'ers, don't tell anyone!

Lie to her. That's how I got my sister off. When she asks if you've started, tell her yes. She'll be way thrown off your schedule then. Tell her your periods are irregular.

 

[DMickey28]

Becky - HUGS! I HATE dealing with money situations... DH and I have a rough budget but I did out some numbers this weekend and realized that we were spending about double our weekly spending allowance. No wonder savings isn't growing... I need to work on it everyday for a month to get it in control. I am horrible at it....

Sometimes I get mini anxiety attacks when checking our account balance b/c I belong to the ignorance is key party...

 

[helenabear]

Okay y'all, can I seriously roll my eyes now? I am still bleeding with some clots, but not massive like on Sat. I went to the doc to get the shot (wanted to do it as a precaution since any mixing of blood could be bad for the future) and to get blood drawn. My numbers are rising the way they should. I am seriously sick to death of this. The numbers are doubling about every 70 hours which is considered normal. Seriously, just kill me now! I do have the ultrasound on Thursday. We'll see what that brings *sigh*

Becky I am sorry you are going through the money woes. I do hope you can figure something out that will work for y'all

mickeybar, I am sorry that the miscarriage made your MIL find everything out. I might be a twit and say to her (the next time) why does she care when AF comes, it's not like we are trying to have a kid or anything I would probably try to throw her off as well. It just would drive me crazy to deal with that.

I think a few of you are reminding me how glad I am that no family knows about this

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Okay y'all, can I seriously roll my eyes now? I am still bleeding with some clots, but not massive like on Sat. I went to the doc to get the shot (wanted to do it as a precaution since any mixing of blood could be bad for the future) and to get blood drawn. My numbers are rising the way they should. I am seriously sick to death of this. The numbers are doubling about every 70 hours which is considered normal. Seriously, just kill me now! I do have the ultrasound on Thursday. We'll see what that brings *sigh*

I'm sorry

I had a friend whom ER docs while she was on a business trip decided she needed a D&C--were even setting up for it. She finally gets her U/S and it shows a healthy baby.

On a positive note--maybe you had twins and what you are experiencing is the loss of one. (The loss of a baby is never positive..I just don't understand any more than you do while your numbers are rising like normal despite the passed clots).

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I'm miserable today! AF is SO heavy these days! Last night, I doubled up with a pad and tampon, and woke up around 4 or 5 to a terrible mess everywhere! I have undies in the trash now, pj bottoms in the sink, and as soon as ds goes to kindergarten, I have to get some peroxide and try to clean a sheet and a mattress. I work 7p-7:30 a tonight, and need to take a nap sometime! Dh got up this morning before work and just asked if I was feeling alright. He must've know what the all the noises were about. It's bad enough that I'm not pregnant and AF is here, but she has to go and make her mark! I have cramps from hellll and feeling pretty beachy right now!


Sorry, had to vent!

If you can manage a quick trip to walmart--get some oxy-clean or equivilant (several brands sell the double cans of spot remove that work like oxy--one is woolite. ) and use that on the mattress.

Fill the sink with cool water and some oxy clean powder and put the sheets in the sink (or fill your washing machine and just let it soak). DD had a blood nose and I did this with her shirt and ALL the blood is gone. (I'm sure it wasn't as bad as what you have...but it was pretty bloody for a little kid). You can also do this with your jammy bottoms.

 

[beckmrk04]

Elaine- how frustrating! I would just want to know one way or the other- then I could deal. I imagine that's where you are at emotionally.

Well, I'll soon be MIA around here it looks like. DH and I sat down and worked out our bills/expenses/income ratios, and a few things need to go. SO, I think we're getting rid of our satellite, home phone and internet. We don't *need* any of them; and as much as I hate getting rid of the home phone, it'll save quite a bit of money and we have cell phones anyway (we can't break that contract; plus we have free nights/weekends, cingular to cingular customers are free which means everyone in our family, and we have lots of rollover minutes).

UGH. I just don't want to do any of it. But, it'll save us around $150/month, which is a lot when you're scraping by. Plus, with me being sick and having to go to the doctor so often, we've been spending at least $100/month just on co-pays for doc visits. Then throw in meds and other medical bills...

I'm trying to stay positive and remember that all of this is temporary, but I'll have to go back to work soon after the baby is born... I hate it when things don't work out like I've planned.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Becky--are you utilizing short/long term disabilty at this time?

 

[DMickey28]

Hugs Becky....

Elaine ~ My heart goes out to you. Just not knowing one way or another must be so hard. Thursday is light years away too....

 

[beckmrk04]

Becky--are you utilizing short/long term disabilty at this time?

No- the problem is that I was "let go" from my job when I started getting really sick and having stays at the hospital. I had only been working there for a little over a month, and they didn't have a short-term disability program anyway.

And DH has had to take time off because of my illness, and in order to do so without being punished at work, he took FMLA- which is awesome because it protects his job, but then he doesn't get paid for any missed time, which means we've had quite a few "short" paychecks, and now we're trying to play catch-up, which is HARD.

 

[Pollito916]

Becky - I am so sorry you two are going through problems. You'll have to find a way to sneak on the Internet so you can keep us updated!

My DH doesn't get any paid time off at all, ever, so I know how hard those short paychecks can be. It makes it even harder for us to save for WDW vacations, too, when you have to take into account all that unpaid time off!

 

[Syrreal]

Becky, we don't have home phone service either. We gave that up about 3 1/2 years ago and just have our cell phones. Most of our friends and all of our immediate family live in Florida so we need the long distance (and we have some ridiculous amount of rollover minutes). We were spending $30 a month on something we weren't getting any use out so we cut it. That sucks about the internet though.

Elaine- Lots of pixiedust to you. Are you able to just rest for the next couple of days until your ultrasound? I've heard that even taking a few days bedrest can help with bleeding.