Another wedding thread

[pigletgirl]

Uggh, sounds horrible to me. There isn't any way I'd attend. Maybe if no one shows, she'll get the message!

 

[Scurvy]

I'd have to regretfully decline this invitation due to another commitment.

My thoughts exactly. . . I have a previous committment to the idea of never supporting anything that rude and tacky!

 

[tomthebarncat]

I would not go and just put a plant on her desk at work. This is beyond tacky and is just plain greedy. If you cannot afford your expensive wedding then do not have one. The last time I recieved a wedding invitation, I had to call my mom and ask if we know this person? family acquaintance and we barely knew them. Two other family members also recieved invites, and the invite did state cash only gifts. I sent her a note asking her if she was getting married or having a fund raiser as I was confused, and no I would not be coming as I live in Europe!! This really is a new low in wedding etiquette.

 

[GirTheGecko]

That's so tacky. I'd politely decline. Also, you hardly know her. It's amazing to see someone so greedy. TWO greenback parties?!

Though, the pp who mentioned a bride doing a dollar dance for charity, I think that was wonderful. A unique way to honor the sister and help others.

 

[XTinabell]

I'm surprised to hear so many people think it's tacky. I was actually considering asking my guests not to bother with gifts but if they want to give us something cash will be fine. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years so we don't need gifts and we're having a destination wedding. But I think I'll just tell everyone no gifts and not mention the cash thing, I didn't know it was so faux pas.

 

[Bren's Mom]

Oh my gosh op, yes that invite is tacky, tacky, tacky!! I wouldn't attend.

BUT, I totally think YOU should! I love the 'go green' idea. Bring them something environmentally friendly wrapped in old newpaper and placed in a reusable grocery bag. Tell them you thought it was 'so wonderful that they put no boxes on the invite in order to save on trees, how special!!!!!'.

I want you to go because I can't wait to read the update...LOL!

 

[Bren's Mom]

I'm surprised to hear so many people think it's tacky. I was actually considering asking my guests not to bother with gifts but if they want to give us something cash will be fine. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years so we don't need gifts and we're having a destination wedding. But I think I'll just tell everyone no gifts and not mention the cash thing, I didn't know it was so faux pas.

That sounds like a better plan. Gift info should never, ever, ever be on or in a wedding invitation. Especially if you're having a destination wedding as attending your wedding may BE their gift since they will have to spend a considerable amount of money just to get to you, for hotel, meals, etc.

 

[Scurvy]

Gift info should never, ever, ever be on or in a wedding invitation.

I agree. You shouldn't ever mention gifts on the invitation, or include anything about gifts (like registry information) in the envelope with the invitation. You shouldn't even mention that you don't want gifts on or in the invitation. You definitely are free to mention your registry if someone asks what you want or need, and you can tell them you have everything you need in the hopes that they'll get the hint and give you cash. But gift information really should never be transmitted through the invitation - it should be communicated through word of mouth, and then only if someone specifically asks for suggestions.

 

[okeydokey]

This is the best idea EVER!!!!!!! This shower invite, by the way, is for a girl I work with, don't know well, and from what I have heard they have invited about 300 people to their shower, and only 150 are getting invited to the wedding. It is sufficient to say it is a gift grab shower.


I think I will skip the shower, but I might send a "go green" gift hahahaha I think that is hysterical.

Wow, that's so awful. Yeah, I'd skip it too.

 

[XTinabell]

That sounds like a better plan. Gift info should never, ever, ever be on or in a wedding invitation. Especially if you're having a destination wedding as attending your wedding may BE their gift since they will have to spend a considerable amount of money just to get to you, for hotel, meals, etc.

Indeed. I wasn't ever planning to put it in the invitation, my mother wanted to throw me a shower and I told her no because I didn't want gifts. She suggested the cash thing, most people aren't able to make it to the wedding but have said they still want to give a gift.

 

[Disney Doll]

If they still want to give a gift, they will.
I have given gifts to bridal couples even when I wasn't invited to the wedding. If I liked the couple, I understand that sometimes the line has to be drawn somewhere as far as inviting....

I was always able to find out their address so I could send a gift. They would have had no need ot inform me how to find them or to suggest what I should give.