another wedding scenario

[beanjean]

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[JimmyPicker]

Receptions cost money. It's quite possible that the bride and groom couldn't afford to have a big reception, and that's why it was for immediate family only.

I will say that they should have made the reception details more clear to their guests.

 

[scottishduffy]

As long as the other people knew ahead of time they were not being invited to a reception, and only attending a wedding, I don't see a huge issue. The Bride and Groom may have been short on cash. It should have been clear to the guests that this was the plan, but the Bride and Groom can do as they please.

I went to a wedding where the wedding had many more people than the reception. The Bride and Groom were members of a huge dance studio and said whoever wanted to come to the wedding itself could attend (200 members). However the reception was solely for family as they could not afford to pay for that. It was clear upfront and there were no issues. At the end of the dinner part of the reception (family only) the hall opened up for the Dance club so everyone could dance but no food was provided.

 

[mjkacmom]

Here, weddings are open to the public, so anyone can technically bring kids to the ceremony, but you need an invitation for the reception, which is all adults most of the time. It does seem strange to actually invite kids to the ceremony - I would've just left them off the invitation entirely..

 

[Jennasis]

Not rude, but seems a miscommunication.

 

[Evil Genius]

Not rude they had what they could afford. People should not assume that they are invited to the ceremony AND the reception.

 

[MELSMICE]

In our area, if you are invited to the wedding ceremony then you are also invited to the reception, so I guess I would find that strange/rude. If you were not invited to the reception then you wouldn't receive an invite.

I don't find it rude that kids wouldn't be invited to the reception.

 

[beanjean]

money was of no concern. they just didn't want any kids at the reception. around here it is rude to invite to wedding but not the reception.

 

[Andy B]

If the family from out of town had been invited to the wedding and travelled some hours then I think it was rude not to include them in the reception.

 

[Jennasis]

money was of no concern. they just didn't want any kids at the reception. around here it is rude to invite to wedding but not the reception.

YOU think it's rude, and that's ok too. You don't really care if others think it wasn't rude, you are just looking for people to sympathize with you...and that's perfectly ok too.

Out of curiosity, how do you know "money was of no concern."?

IMO, if they don't want kids at the reception regardless of size, then that;s their choice. Whether it's a financial decision or a matter of personal preference.

I think it's odd to invite people to your ceremony but not the reception, but not rude.

 

[Pigeon]

when hubby's sister got married we were all invited to wedding, kids included, but the reception was just for adults only and it was only for immediate family and wedding party but kids were not welcome. does anyone think that is rude. there were several family members that came from out of town and got word there was a reception afterwards that they were not invited too. needless to say there were a lot of mad out of town guests. good enough to drive 3 hours for wedding but not good enough for reception.

Honestly, why on earth would these out of towners have come?

If the no-kids at the reception thing bothers you, politely decline the invitation.

 

[Stacerita]

I have been to many weddings where all were invited to attend the ceremony and not all to the reception. I don't see the issue. If you got an invite to a wedding, and you choose to attend thats great. And if you didn't get an invite to a reception, thats just how it is. The out of towners should have declined if they did not want to attend just a ceremony. And I don't see any problem with not inviting kids to a reception.

 

[Disney Doll]

Seems odd, but I am not sure if it is rude, depending on what the invitation was like.

In my area, you get an invitation to the wedding ceremony, and then usually included in it is a separate card inviting you to the reception. There is also usually a reception response card where you can say "yes we're coming" or "no we can't" and sometimes it also has a spot to choose your meal, if you can attend.

Truthfully, if I didn't get the reception card or the response card, I would know that I was not invited to the reception. Then it would be my decision as to whether or not I wanted to go to the wedding ceremony.

 

[wilderness01]

I have never ever heard of being invited to the wedding ceremony and not the reception. Maybe it is a regional thing?

 

[corndog]

does anyone think that is rude.

No, of course not.