I agree with you, C.Ann. I think anyone who puts "conditions" on their money is selfish. What they're saying is not "here, have money for the wedding of your dreams because i love you"; they're saying "here you can only have money, if you do what i say." Then, some brides and grooms are unhappy because they are forced to have that kind of wedding-- maybe they don't have the $$ to do things the way they want. Why would anyone wish that on their kids/grandkids?.