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[tinkermell]

My parents have to go on a business trip and will not be able to spend Thanksgiving with us. My mom is sad and she and my dad would love to be here if they could. They need to visit a customer along with our overseas office.

My aunt gives my mom a hard time. She says things to my little sister like: "Oh your parents don't care about you. They are always travelling and they never take care of you." She says stupid comments like this to my mom. She wouldn't dare say it to my dad. My little sister never listens to my aunt and argues back (this is her way of defending my parents). It's just ridiculous and wrong. My mom asked my aunt if she thought they were going on a vacation because it was for business and they need to go.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Here's the e-mail my mom wrote to my aunt:

Dear XXX:
Just for your information. Rochelle will be the one who takes X to school every morning when I am gone. Please do not say anything to X about why your dad and mom always go together on trips. We are not taking a vacation. If we do that, we must have our reasons.


My mean aunt's response which makes no sense at all

Dear XXX, I will not say anything anymore.

However, I do think this is a critical time for X's age that If parent spent more time with her guiding her in the normal moral and traditional life. Iit is better than going with the society flow such as "it is ok for marriage that is between man and man or woman and woman. I though the traditional way, woman and man, is a common sense and good sense for a normal child, etc.


She is growing up quickly!



Whatever you do, God bless.



WHAT THE HECK IS SHE TALKING ABOUT?? So my mom e-mailed this to me, my older sis and my brother:

I am sorry that we won't be home for the Thanksgiving this year. I need to take care of business and visit XXX (customer) immediately. I thought it would be good if we use the holiday so I don't have to miss taking your little sister to school or away from the office for too long. It is very hard for me not spending the Thanksgiving holiday with you kids. I am so thankful that I have good kids. Please take care of each other when we are gone and do not fight. I am sure X and Rochelle's cooking will be much better than mine.

The below e-mail was from Aunt X. She is not a bad person. She has different opinions on things. Please do not argue with her. I just want you to know what she thinks.

 

[tinkermell]

Hi Melody! How was the mall? Oi, you guys are making me want to go to DL even more than I already want to. I'm going to try to go this weekend if possible.

Hey Pix!!

We loved it!!!

My feet hurt after 2 solid days of walking. But we had so much fun, and got alot done!!

 

[staley7580]

Soooo...Because your parents go away, your sister is going to marry a woman? Im confused.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I sent the following e-mail to my mom in hopes that it would help her feel better. My aunt is an evil pain in the rump!!



Mom:

We understand that you and dad have to travel overseas. We know you both would much rather spend Thanksgiving with us if you could. I know that X understands this as well. She is a smart kid and she doesn't listen to those type of comments from Aunt X and Grandma X. That is why she argues back. That is her way of defending you and daddy.

I know Aunt X thinks differently on many things. I'm almost certain that most of our family does not understand the way she thinks. Please do not let her comments make you feel bad. When you are not a parent, it is easy to make snap judgments on how others raise their children. You are a good mom!


Love,
~Rochelle~

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Soooo...Because your parents go away, your sister is going to marry a woman? Im confused.

I don't know! I was thinking: "WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT WOMAN??"

 

[funnygarcia]

hmmm 2 pounds is pretty good for twins at 26 weeks. The closer you are to 30 weeks the better the survival rate and less side effects from prematurity.
All very scary stuff there is a "honeymoon" period for premies where they do exceptional well for a few weeks after birth-- then the bad stuff starts to happen. Preemie parents need more support in the months after the birth than in the first few weeks. I think people kinda forget that the lil ones are not quite out of the woods until they are home and growing.

Lil guy had ear protection while on ventilator, he was on a type of ventilator that has a high pitched frequency and works slightly different than your typical vent. The less time on that type the better. The very young preemies are more likely to need that type.

But even with the ear protection he has moderate loss in one ear and not picking up some of the very low frequencies in the other. He ha been fitted with a hearing aid that he tolerates. .. well tolerates enough for his mom to push it back in a 100 times a day

His recent serial casting was a sucess but he still needs his orthotics (just up to his knee). Now they think he has a lazy eye, hoping it self corrects.

Sis was upset but laughing at the whole of it.. she said he's going to look like some poster child for March of Dimes with hearing aid, orthotics and eye patch.

oh yes, and they think he has an inguinal hernia.. oh boy!

Young preemies are likely not able to get home until months AFTER their due date as they have such a long road to climb before they can be growers.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I think she's nuts! She makes strange and completely false assumptions and just lets it take over her thoughts. You can argue with her till the end of time and she will always think she is right. She has crazy assumptions about everything and anyone. She's the most difficult and impossible person to get along with in our family.

 

[funnygarcia]

Thanks to Bernice I have now managed to turn my free JC Penney gift cards into double the face value...

SWEET!

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Hey Pix!!

We loved it!!!

My feet hurt after 2 solid days of walking. But we had so much fun, and got alot done!!

Cool! I'm glad you had a good time. I was there for a bit on Saturday evening but only briefly.

 

[sameyeyam]

Its looking okay so far. Geesh. Its just so soon, you know?

Hey Pix!

Try not to worry too much. You are taking care of yourself and doing what the doctor's recommend. That's all you can do. Your body is going to do what it wants to do.

The "What If's" can drive you crazy. You are you, and the lady that had her babies early is NOT you. Think positive thoughts!

I know this is not the same, but when you deal with any type of medical problem you can sit and worry all the time. I have several friends on the Komen message board that have had their cancer come back and one that has passed away. I know that 15% of us will die from our breast cancer. I am always very saddened when someone that was diagnosed the same time as me has their cancer come back. But I just tell myself...that is them, this is me...we are different people...I will be in the 85% that survive.

Instead of worrying about the horrible things that can happen I focus my energy on things I can control. I can't control my cancer or my body. But I can control my medical team, my diet & exercise, avoiding chemicals, keeping a positive attitude and controlling stress, making good medical decisions and keeping up to date on information. So that's where I focus my energy.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is quit worrying, think positive and continue doing all you can for you and the babies.

 

[staley7580]

hmmm 2 pounds is pretty good for twins at 26 weeks. The closer you are to 30 weeks the better the survival rate and less side effects from prematurity.
All very scary stuff there is a "honeymoon" period for premies where they do exceptional well for a few weeks after birth-- then the bad stuff starts to happen. Preemie parents need more support in the months after the birth than in the first few weeks. I think people kinda forget that the lil ones are not quite out of the woods until they are home and growing.

Lil guy had ear protection while on ventilator, he was on a type of ventilator that has a high pitched frequency and works slightly different than your typical vent. The less time on that type the better. The very young preemies are more likely to need that type.

But even with the ear protection he has moderate loss in one ear and not picking up some of the very low frequencies in the other. He ha been fitted with a hearing aid that he tolerates. .. well tolerates enough for his mom to push it back in a 100 times a day

His recent serial casting was a sucess but he still needs his orthotics (just up to his knee). Now they think he has a lazy eye, hoping it self corrects.

Sis was upset but laughing at the whole of it.. she said he's going to look like some poster child for March of Dimes with hearing aid, orthotics and eye patch.

oh yes, and they think he has an inguinal hernia.. oh boy!

Young preemies are likely not able to get home until months AFTER their due date as they have such a long road to climb before they can be growers.

2 pounds is good. Everyone was a little surprised by how big they were. It scares the crap out of me.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Hmm...maybe I should ask Staley to spork my mean aunt!

 

[funnygarcia]

My mean aunt's response which makes no sense at all

Dear XXX, I will not say anything anymore.

However, I do think this is a critical time for X's age that If parent spent more time with her guiding her in the normal moral and traditional life.



WHAT THE HECK IS SHE TALKING ABOUT??

What the heck?? So she basically criticized your mom and dad as being bad parents and not raising your sis in a traditional moral filled way?
But then she went lu lu and wandered into man and man , woman and woman relationships. Weirdness.

I think she needs her meds re evaled


You mom was very gracious about what must have hurt, personally I would have dispatched a "don't listen to your aunt, she's a nutter"

I like your reply to your mom

 

[sameyeyam]

Pix, all aunt's are crazy. It's what they do best. There's a reason why all of my nephews call me Crazy Aunt Alison!


Would anybody like a free subscription to Seventeen magazine? DD just got her renewal notice and it said as a special gift she can send a 1 year free subscription to a friend. But all of her friend's already subscribe. Would you like to know how to find a good kisser? What your boyfriend is really thinking? What shoes styles are in this winter? How to survive those embarrasing first date moments? If so then this magazine is for you.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

Pix, all aunt's are crazy. It's what they do best. There's a reason why all of my nephews call me Crazy Aunt Alison!


Would anybody like a free subscription to Seventeen magazine? DD just got her renewal notice and it said as a special gift she can send a 1 year free subscription to a friend. But all of her friend's already subscribe. Would you like to know how to find a good kisser? What your boyfriend is really thinking? What shoes styles are in this winter? How to survive those embarrasing first date moments? If so then this magazine is for you.

I'm too old for Seventeen Mag. I never did understand their advice tips. "How to get a boyfriend" or "How to get the man of your dreams" and then the next page is: "How to dump a guy in 5 easy steps"

 

[staley7580]

Try not to worry too much. You are taking care of yourself and doing what the doctor's recommend. That's all you can do. Your body is going to do what it wants to do.

The "What If's" can drive you crazy. You are you, and the lady that had her babies early is NOT you. Think positive thoughts!

I know this is not the same, but when you deal with any type of medical problem you can sit and worry all the time. I have several friends on the Komen message board that have had their cancer come back and one that has passed away. I know that 15% of us will die from our breast cancer. I am always very saddened when someone that was diagnosed the same time as me has their cancer come back. But I just tell myself...that is them, this is me...we are different people...I will be in the 85% that survive.

Instead of worrying about the horrible things that can happen I focus my energy on things I can control. I can't control my cancer or my body. But I can control my medical team, my diet & exercise, avoiding chemicals, keeping a positive attitude and controlling stress, making good medical decisions and keeping up to date on information. So that's where I focus my energy.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is quit worrying, think positive and continue doing all you can for you and the babies.

I am trying. I try so hard not to worry about evertthing that could go wrong, and not to stress over the little things. I am just starting to hate this whole thing.

 

[eatmypixiedust]

I am trying. I try so hard not to worry about evertthing that could go wrong, and not to stress over the little things. I am just starting to hate this whole thing.

 

[funnygarcia]

2 pounds is good. Everyone was a little surprised by how big they were. It scares the crap out of me.

Just keep doing what you have been doing. Take care of you and the babes.

really, there isn't much you can control in a pregnancy, heck even the docs can only do so much. The few things you CAN do .. you are already doing.

As for what might happen.. you deal with it when (if) they occur, ya know?

 

[Alex2kMommy]

They are 2 pounds each, and on ventilators.

wow. poor little babies. i'm sure the parents are going through the ringer right now. i hope they are doing well.