Another question about funerals

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I have always had a huge phobia of being buried in the ground. So that was never an option for me. When I got married my husband said he would purchase a mausoleum for me and I thought that was just great! Last year I didn't like that option anymore either and now want to be cremated.

Its either that or a nice glass box that seconds as a coffee table in the LR. The kids arent going for it.

I think Evita's husband kept her in a glass case for a few years. And either Stalin or Lenin. I always get confused. So it's not unheard of!

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Cremation. No wake, service of Celebration. I have requested that my ashes be put with my husbands and or sprinkled in my back yard. You have to understand, my backyard is the cemetary, so it will be okay.

I think we will buy a crematory spot for our immediate family though. I don't want anyone to have to worry like others have stated for upkeep or even to come visit.

Now, while I do believe once I am gone I may or may not be able to look down and see what's going on, there will be nothing I can do if the kids/hubby feel the need to change my plans. They would be grieving, so I would understand. Yes I hope they go along with my plans though.

 

[lisajl]

Cremated. I don't want to buried in the cold, cold ground.

We went to my friends funeral on Thurs. and it just made it more clear that I want to be cremated.
I can't stand the thought of be buried.
I think it has to do with losing my dad when I was 15. It was when Ohio had the blizzard. We lost him in Dec of 1977 and Jan 1978 we had the huge blizzard that shut everything down.
All I could think of was that he was in a casket, flowers blowing all over the cemetery, etc.
Not a good thought for a 15 year old, that loved her dad very much.

I know some people can't handle cremation and that is fine,but for me and DH we both want it.
Although, he wants a viewing first. I don't want it for myself, but my kids may need it.

 

[lisajl]

I have always had a huge phobia of being buried in the ground. So that was never an option for me. When I got married my husband said he would purchase a mausoleum for me and I thought that was just great! Last year I didn't like that option anymore either and now want to be cremated.

Its either that or a nice glass box that seconds as a coffee table in the LR. The kids arent going for it.

Very Funny!! LOL!!

 

[Rora]

I don't want to be buried or cremated. Both don't sound too appealing.

I wish their was another option.. like, not dying?

I guess in the end I'll be cremated because I don't want to be in a casket in the ground.

 

[MELSMICE]

That's the way to do it, if you are gonna be buried. I don't know if anyone has mentioned the effect that a burial with embalming is bad for the environment, but it is. Those chemicals seep out into the ground and potentially water sources.

I want to be cremated and disposed of. No marker or anything. I don't want people feeling like they have to come "visit" me or feel guilty if they don't. Just toss me in the dumpster. Seriously.

ETA: I want to be an organ donor. I feel very strongly about this and I pray my family will honor that.

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. I want people to just remember me & think about me. Not feel guilty if they don't come "visit" on a birthday or holiday.

 

[CaliforniaDreamin]

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. I want people to just remember me & think about me. Not feel guilty if they don't come "visit" on a birthday or holiday.

It's amazing how many people are now choosing cremation. It seems to me like it used to be the "odd" thing to do.

And I too am glad I am not the only one who doesn't want to be "tended to" after death. If my family can't bare the thought of tossing me in the trash, just scatter me in the backyard.

I'm another one that HATES the idea of 6 feet under. A PP mentioned snow after her dad died, I keep thinking of all the rain we have had since Megan died. And just the thought of the natural decomposition of the body. Just cremate me. It's SO much cheaper and easier. I'm going to have a real discussion with DH tonight so that he knows I'm serious.

 

[Disney Doll]

But for some of us, having a "place" to go to isn't a guilt-poducing thing, it's nice.

I must admit that I have found great peace with having my in-laws buried across the street from me. I go tend their grave, not out of a sense of obligation but because I loved them and want it to look nice, want to honor them for all they did for me when they were alive and I found it very helpful to me for my grieving process to have them there to visit. Sometimes I do a "drive-by" wave...silly, I know, but it brings some sort of comfort.

Personally, I would feel as if something was "unfinished" if I didn't have a place to go & visit.