Another question about funerals

[MELSMICE]

After reading the sad thread about open or closed caskets it got me thinking about burials.

I have also told my family that I do not want to be buried. I want to be cremated or have my body donated to science. Maybe I'm too much of a realist, but I don't want to be put in the ground because I think it's a waste of green space & I also don't want my family members to feel guilty if they don't come "visit" me - which I find rather strange to say anyway, as I'm not really there.

On a more selfish note, after my immediate family members are also gone there will be no one that would take care of the burial plot & it will then be in disarray.

So what about you? Also, in connection with the other thread, the decision to have an open or closed casket will be decided by my family. In that case they can do whatever they find more comfort in.

 

[low-key]

I hate the thought of being in a cold dark casket, underground, and my body rotting away. But that's probably what will happen

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Open casket and cold & dark 6ft under for me all the way.

 

[Hannathy]

Open casket and cold & dark 6ft under for me all the way.

Me to. I do not want to be cremated and have told my family that repeatedly. I have also threatened to come back and haunt every moment of their lives if they do. And as my DD has said "I know you would, believe me I know you would"

 

[LadyZolt]

I told my family to donate my body to science. When they're done with it, I will be cremated and I want my ashes placed in as many small canisters as possible (like those 35 mm film canisters), and then I'm going to make a list of places to have my ashes scattered, one canister for each successive generation, so I can even have my great-great-great-great-great grandchildren involved. LOL! I doubt this will really happen, but I think it would be funny if it did.

I also told my family that I think it would be funny if med students played practical jokes with my remains -- like leaving a hand at the toll booth like the urban myth says. LOL! Again, I don't think this actually will happen, but I'm totally cool with it if it does. I'm here for the humor, after all.

-Dorothy (LadyZolt)

 

[Agri]

After dealing with my mother's illness, if I have children I'm going to ask what they would want me to do and take that into consideration. I'm an only child and my mom is my closest family and we usually donate our bodies. As silly as it sounds, I really hope my mom changes her mind and wants to use one of the burial plots we have so I can sort of go and visit her. I didn't really feel like that with either of my grandparents - mostly because they were both no longer the person I knew for months before they passed.

Funerals and burials and all that stuff I think are more for those you leave behind, so I would want to take their wants into consideration

 

[LadyZolt]

After dealing with my mother's illness, if I have children I'm going to ask what they would want me to do and take that into consideration. I'm an only child and my mom is my closest family and we usually donate our bodies. As silly as it sounds, I really hope my mom changes her mind and wants to use one of the burial plots we have so I can sort of go and visit her.

I'm pretty sure when you donate a body, after the body is done being used, it will be cremated and returned to the family. So you can donate her body and then bury the ashes when you receive them back, so you could visit her as you desire while still fulfilling her wish to be donated.

-Dorothy (LadyZolt)

 

[hereyago]

DF donated his body to science then had his ashes sent to his home town to be scattered in a river.

DM will donate her body as well.

I will donate my body to science then 1 or 2 things: another Dis'er think it was Ember had her mom's ashes become part of a artificial reef in Florida or I'd like my ashes scattered of the coast of Oahu in a ceremony. heck or both.

 

[Pigeon]

I want to be cremated, with no service. About six months later, I'd like a big party, with lots of good food, drink, and laughter.

 

[PigletsPal2]

I want to be cremated, with my ashes mixed with the Diamond Dust and scattered on the pitchers' mound at Oriole Park at Camden Yards after a rain delay. Family is fine with this; don't know how the Orioles feel about it. DD#1 has promised to research the possibility.

Queen Colleen

 

[Disney Ella]

Cremation and no funeral. All of it done as cheaply as possible.

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

My mother has said for years that she wants to be creamated. The idea used to put me off, but as time has passed, it doesn't seem like that bad of an idea.

We (my side, not DH's side) don't visit gravesites of close family members (my mother OTOH does, but it's purely for genealogical research). We just don't. I'd hate to have to pay for a plot and it's not used.

 

[tlbwriter]

My preference is to be either cremated or buried naturally (no embalming, no coffin, available in a few areas) but ultimately I want my survivors to do whatever makes them happiest.

 

[Gigi22]

I want to be cremated, DH doesn't--I guess whoever sticks it out the longest gets to choose! One of DH's friends donated his body to science, and his wife was seriously not OK with it--she desperately needed to have a memorial service to get closure. Because her late husband had donated his body, the memorial service was postponed for about a year.

 

[okeydokey]

My family always had the open casket viewing and burial, so I never really thought any differently. Then I lost a dear friend when she was 39 and had a 7 year old son. She was cremated and her family displayed pictures of her in happy times at the service. I can't imagine how hard a traditional open casket service would have been like.

I then changed my mind about cremation. I want my loved ones to remember me as I am now now, alive and full of life, not embalmed and overly made up. They can do what they wish with my cremains afterward. I told my Mom this is what I want now and she was not thrilled with my doing it differently, but it is my choice.

 

[LIDisneyFan]

We have both decided on creamation-and having our ashes (secretly, since it is not allowed) scatted on the shores between the Boardwalk and EPCOT -a place with some of our happiest memories. Our families can come and remember us there if they choose.

 

[Shyvioletisme]

Cremation and no funeral. All of it done as cheaply as possible.

This. I want it to be as inexpensive as possible for DH (if he outlives me). I've never had any interest in the expensive funeral/burial thing. Seems like a huge gigantic waste of money, IMO.

as a side, I don't think I could ever go to a funeral with an open casket. I don't know anyone who's done that here(even though I usually skip the funeral anyway), but the idea of it just skeeves me out.

 

[CKBear]

I want a natural burial, which is a regular pine casket, with me wrapped in a muslin sheet, no chemicals. I would prefer to not be viewed, but I guess I could leave this up to the family that is still here.

 

[tlbwriter]

One of DH's friends donated his body to science, and his wife was seriously not OK with it--she desperately needed to have a memorial service to get closure. Because her late husband had donated his body, the memorial service was postponed for about a year.

Why couldn't she have a memorial service without the body? I thought that was the whole point of a memorial (as opposed to a funeral) - the fact that the body was not present.

 

[Evil Genius]

If you are cremated you still need to let your wishes known as to what you would like to have done with your ashes.