another pregnant, non-married celebrity

[Rock'n Robin]

Gwyneth Paltrow is pregnant according to E! online. Good for her, but I wish these people would remember to get married first. Is it any wonder the institution of marriage is getting such bad press? It really drives home the point that these people are NOT role models.
Robin M.

 

[MAC3]

Sorry Robin, but I was not married when DH(now) and I decided (yes decided) to have a child first.

If we had waited maybe we wouldn't have the beautiful child we have now, seeing as we were never fortunate enough to have a second.

I thank God everyday that I had the major urge/want to have a child when I did. I'm not sorry for that! Even coming from a very Catholic upbringing.

Edited to add that I am not trying to start a debate on whats right or wrong. It's a personal preference.

Lisa

 

[ToyStory Fan]

With the tax brackets the way they are it is better not to get married. Unfortunate but true.

 

[caitycaity]

With the tax brackets the way they are it is better not to get married.

tell me about it.

 

[Robinrs]

I can't throw stoness either since I LIVE in that glass house.

 

[battricia]

I'd rather someone decide to have a child on their own rather than decide to get married into a sham of a marriage just to have a child, and then get devorced... THAT is what is giving marriage a bad rap...

 

[goofygirl]

Is she pregnant by that guy from Coldplay she was dating?

Yes, I agree it would be nice if people got married first before they got pregnant. Birth control isn't that hard to use, especially if you are a star and you can afford plenty of it! I guess I am too "old fashioned" anymore! It annoys me not just when stars do this, but when anyone does this, as I don't buy the "well these things DO happen" excuse. What gets me is when women who do this say, "Well we didn't want to get married, its too much of a committment." Well, what do they think having a child is? I also don't get why a woman would want to have a child with a man she doesn't even want to marry. In that case, she may as well use a sperm bank, or adopt a child.

 

[Lewski709]

IS this a debate board topic?

 

[Keli]

Robin,
I thought I was the only person that felt that way. Good to see there are others that hold that point of view.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Why can't we discuss these things here?

I would rather she have the baby than some of the other decisions she could make. None of us are perfect, and for me it's not my place to judge.

 

[noel]

Since Gwyneth Paltrow being pregnant and unmarried has no impact on my life I could care less what she does. The important thing is that her child is loved, nurtured and well cared for whether it's her raising the baby on her own or with the Dad.

Everyone's idea of what makes the perfect family is different and I think we all should respect that.

 

[CBRorBust]

I agree that you *should* be married before children, but I do not think that is as realistic as it once was in the past.

I think people need to not worry so much about the fact that others are having children before marriage and worry more about the health of the child and mother.

I'm sorry if I am being rude, but my SIL lost her first baby earlier this year, and it has made me think twice whether or not being married by that point is even worth relevance.

 

[snoopy]

The important thing is that her child is loved, nurtured and well cared for whether it's her raising the baby on her own or with the Dad.

Yup.

 

[preshi]

I'm happy for her... I don't see anything wrong with it. She's in love and she's been with him for a year and she seems like a very well educated and stable individual. Plus she's in her 30's correct? She's not 15 or anything.

Plus it's not my job to judge what others do with thier lives.

Congrats Gwenyth.

 

[Lewski709]

It's a very sensitive subject. It was not a choice for me, but it is not a choice I can judge.

 

[Jaimee]

"It really drives home the point that these people are not role models"


OUCH! I guess I should tell my DS to find someone other than me to look up to I think that was a VERY harsh statement. Marriage isn't always an option for everyone. I think a loving SINGLE parent household can be just as good as an "ideal" 2 parent household.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I know some two parent households that are less than ideal.

 

[Arabella Figg 2003]

Maybe it's better to get married "for propriety's sake" and go through a nasty, messy, horrible divorce sometime down the road?

 

[Tinks]

Wow! I guess I'll go there...just because so many people in society are/ have done the single parent thing doesn't make it an ideal. I am not bashing anyone who has done it.....raising a child alone must be a terribly hard thing to do, but I would never, ever glorify it.
I don't think the O.P. meant this post as criticism to any single parent out here...I think the point is that society is taking a very blase attitude about marriage and family. I think it's a shame.

 

[Bichon Barb]

I understand both sides of the argument and have nothing to add except that I think being a single mom would be a lot easier if you are a millionaire who can afford a few nannies, housekeepers, etc.