I just think it's a shame that us poor people can't spend a few nights at an upscale resort once in a while without having to forgo entire nights of a normal vacation.
LOL, If you are able to plan ANY vacation, you are not poor!!! It's a shame I can't have a million dollar home without selling my soul and working so much that I never see my family

If the deluxes were ''easy'' to obtain, they wouldn't be all that special.
Everything comes at a cost. WDW, like anything, is about choosing what matters to you and finding a way to make it happen. To us, the resort does matter. We would rather not go every year and have a 'big' WDW trip at a deluxe resort every 3 years or so.
The first few times I visited WDW, it didn't matter where I stayed because all I cared about was the parks. Now, the trip is about the entire experience...the room, the resort, the service, the surroundings, the dining choices, the convenience.
So, like every other decision in our lives, we have to find a way to make that work for us (within our financial means). For us, that means there is no WDW every single year. We don't vacation on credit. So, we set aside money little by little and look forward to treating ourselves.