NeuroCindy
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I have the firm belief that if you're going to make a joke, be clever. This isn't a clever joke. It's old and inaccurate.
I have the firm belief that if you're going to make a joke, be clever. This isn't a clever joke. It's old and inaccurate.
Now this I can agree with. The joke wasn't terribly funny or clever but it wasn't something to be reported to management either.This^^^^ I'm not offended at all by the schizo joke. I just thought it was stupid and definitely not funny.
Sorry, but to me, those "gentle" jokes aren't even funny. If that's the only kind of "jokes" they can tell to prevent offended someone, they might as well abandon jokes altogether.
We wanted tap water...
I think that is a very difficult situation. It is an actual quote from a show and it is not talking about the people who have lupus but rather making fun of doctors who go there for every unexplained illness. If you are a doctor who diagnoses lupus for everything remotely weird and don't look further into it and you are offended... well... good! But someone who HAS lupus has no reason to be offended about it because it is not about someone who has it.Yep. Lighten up and laugh.
I once had someone walk up to me to chew me out over my shirt.
It had a picture of Dr House (from the TV show) and it said, "It's not Lupus." She was all upset because her friend had lupus and if I had any compassion, I wouldn't wear a shirt that makes fun of people with lupus. If you watched the show, Dr House, would always say, and sometimes yell, "It's NOT lupus, it's never lupus." She ended with, "If you had lupus, you would understand."
After she was done, I very calmly said to her. "I have lupus." And I turned and walked away.
So she got into this tirade defending someone that wasn't even there, all without checking my status. My shirt didn't effect her whatsoever. But she somehow felt the need to go off on me.
Be interesting to find out if the server's parent or child has schizophrenia. Or maybe the server himself has a mental health issue. And the joke was self deprecating.
absolutely....but not at others expense.....they call those laughs, cheapPeople need to laugh more.
and this is what disney has always been good at. Humor without making fun of anyone. Like I said before, the humor in the Jungle Cruise is corny, hokey and has a lot of bad puns. You can do all of that without making fun of stereotypes.absolutely....but not at others expense.....they call those laughs, cheap
agreed....i have a bunch of friends that i argue with constantly about "language"...not swearing per se, but just not being lazy with language. Words cut like knives at times, and i can only imagine if you are a person suffering with a debilitating and horrifying condition like schizophrenia, and you where at that table, how uncomfortable hat would be. How isolating it would make you feel, and frankly how it could ruin your dinner......If you would not make a joke about the condition of mental retardation, why would another cognitive condition be OK to joke about???and this is what disney has always been good at. Humor without making fun of anyone. Like I said before, the humor in the Jungle Cruise is corny, hokey and has a lot of bad puns. You can do all of that without making fun of stereotypes.
Okay, I can understand the sentiment behind "don't joke about mental health," but the bolded is just...Well, golly. OP here.
As reported before, the server was not our server. I asked the manager if I could make a comment regarding the joke line up. I did not identify the server by name. And made it clear that I was not personally upset, but was providing an observation.
Which gave her a lot of latitude in how to respond.
The server introduced himself with the rhyme to a neighboring table, which had 2 parents, and 3 children, 2 of them preschool age. As has been pointed out, a problem with the rhyme is that it has nothing to do with actual schizophrenia. And I continue to be strongly of the opinion that it is up to parents to decide how to handle humor about disabilities or other "differences" with their children.
We were a table of 2 adults and 2 college student young adults. The ta water comment would not have been appropriate with preschoolers either. Who are literalists.
Okay, I can understand the sentiment behind "don't joke about mental health," but the bolded is just...
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my kid is on the spectrum and also very literal. he is learning (very slowly) not to be but it is by practice. So I don't find the river thing to be inappropriate at all and in fact it might end up being a very useful discussion for us. I guess the lesson is if you have a thin skin don't go to Skipper's Canteen. I do think the original joke was not appropriate though, for many reasons mentioned. I think Disney is capable of doing better and keeping the jokes silly and fun and punny and not offensive to anyone. I know they are which is why I expect them to be. And believe me, I laugh at some very very wrong humor so I am not unable to see the humor in things. Heck, I might even laugh at that if it were actually funny! But Disney should be held to a higher standard. JMHO. I would also not want to have to explain to my very literal and curious child what schitzophrenia is and why that joke was supposed to be funny either. He would be asking and it would be another conversation like "why are some kids mean to other kids" and "why does being mean to people make some kids feel better about themselves" and "why do people think just because you are different you are weird" and those kinds of questions. none of which I have an answer for beyond "because some people do."Okay, I can understand the sentiment behind "don't joke about mental health," but the bolded is just...
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