acejka
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So I've always brought my brother a small gift back from every trip I've ever gone on. We didn't bring him back anything from this trip and he's a little mad at me right now, as is my mother.
Keep in mind the fact that he's 13 and full to the max of that p&v attitude that teenagers seem to have (he has a little much, and I think there needs to be some parental intervention going on there-thank GOD my grandparents raised me-that's another story for another time)
In Sept 2008, we went to Disney, and we were asking him some questions about what kind of gift he would like, a hoodie, a pin etc. He said that he liked jack skellington, so we tried to find stuff like that. Got him a pin or two, and a hoodie with jack skellington on it, nice gift right? Wrong, he wanted to know why we didn't get him more pins, why didn't he get this or that, and was that all we got him, we didn't even get a thank you. I nicely told him that maybe sometime if we ever take him to disney (my mother and stepfather have already told him that they won't ever take him, they won't vacation,) we would get him some extra pins to trade and he could pick out his own shirt or whatever he wants, but that I got him a nice hoodie and 2 pins and we thought it was appropriate given the things he said he'd like.
July 2009 we did another roadtrip, this time stopping through Memphis. I went to Graceland because I'm a huge Elvis fan, and he tries to be too. We got him a shirt and some signed drumsticks (he plays drums) When we came back he threw an attitude about the gift again, was that all, the shirt is too small (this is partially my moms fault, she was insisting on a certain size, and he's a tiny kid, and I have horrible judgement in sizing so I went with what size she said to get) and why didn't I get more than just a shirt and drumsticks. Well let's see, you are a little too old for the toys they sell in gift shops, I can buy the same cd's for you at home and you don't want postcards, cookbooks or those kinds of things, so I figured a shirt and some cool drumsticks to practice with would be better than nothing so thats what we got you. He didn't even take the gift home, no thank you, nothing-it is still sitting on my bookshelf.
We just got back from another trip, this time we brought him nothing, the last two trips the gifts weren't appreciated, so we figured why waste the money. Now of course that starts drama. My grandmother and I both explained to him the reason why we didn't get anything for him but he is still mad at us, my mom is being weird too.
So the question is, did I handle this the wrong way? Should I have continued to bring gifts to someone who can't even give a simple thank you, and continue to reward such bratty behavior?
Keep in mind the fact that he's 13 and full to the max of that p&v attitude that teenagers seem to have (he has a little much, and I think there needs to be some parental intervention going on there-thank GOD my grandparents raised me-that's another story for another time)
In Sept 2008, we went to Disney, and we were asking him some questions about what kind of gift he would like, a hoodie, a pin etc. He said that he liked jack skellington, so we tried to find stuff like that. Got him a pin or two, and a hoodie with jack skellington on it, nice gift right? Wrong, he wanted to know why we didn't get him more pins, why didn't he get this or that, and was that all we got him, we didn't even get a thank you. I nicely told him that maybe sometime if we ever take him to disney (my mother and stepfather have already told him that they won't ever take him, they won't vacation,) we would get him some extra pins to trade and he could pick out his own shirt or whatever he wants, but that I got him a nice hoodie and 2 pins and we thought it was appropriate given the things he said he'd like.
July 2009 we did another roadtrip, this time stopping through Memphis. I went to Graceland because I'm a huge Elvis fan, and he tries to be too. We got him a shirt and some signed drumsticks (he plays drums) When we came back he threw an attitude about the gift again, was that all, the shirt is too small (this is partially my moms fault, she was insisting on a certain size, and he's a tiny kid, and I have horrible judgement in sizing so I went with what size she said to get) and why didn't I get more than just a shirt and drumsticks. Well let's see, you are a little too old for the toys they sell in gift shops, I can buy the same cd's for you at home and you don't want postcards, cookbooks or those kinds of things, so I figured a shirt and some cool drumsticks to practice with would be better than nothing so thats what we got you. He didn't even take the gift home, no thank you, nothing-it is still sitting on my bookshelf.
We just got back from another trip, this time we brought him nothing, the last two trips the gifts weren't appreciated, so we figured why waste the money. Now of course that starts drama. My grandmother and I both explained to him the reason why we didn't get anything for him but he is still mad at us, my mom is being weird too.
So the question is, did I handle this the wrong way? Should I have continued to bring gifts to someone who can't even give a simple thank you, and continue to reward such bratty behavior?
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