Am I too young for a mid-life crisis?

[MScott1851]

Last night DH and I went to the movies with another couple, and decided to see "Welcome to Mooseport" since I have a thing for Gene Hackman (don't ask). There are tons of teenagers milling around the theater as usual on a weekend night, lots of young college-age kids, too, on dates, etc. To my horror I remember thinking, 'I hope they aren't going to our movie!'

We walk into the theater, and NO ONE besides us is under 40. I look at Clint and say, "Yep. We've officially crossed over..." It was kind of sad...the end of an era, if you will. We had to fill out a survey afterward, and I realized that I can no longer check the 18-24 box, and had a clutch moment there, too...My friend looked at me, and said, "Honey, welcome to my box, at least you aren't in Clint's!"

So here's my question... If I'm supposed to be all excited about growing up and buying a house and paying bills and being a "big girl" why do I feel sad? Is it possible to have a mid-life crisis before 30? Did anyone else experience this feeling of unrest during the transition to college life of the party girl to working wife? Please don't flame me for being silly, this is bugging me right now.. I had nightmares last night!

P.S. The movie was great, and it was nice not to endure talkers and popcorn throwers.. However, the elderly gentleman besides Clint kept falling asleep and snoring and smacking his lips and belching...so I guess it's a trade-off!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Hey, who doesn't miss those days? I think most folks say college was one of the best times of your life.

I think you are just having a defining moment in your life. It is a longing for the old days and you know you can't go back.
What I do now is smile and thank God I had those days!

I am turning 39 on Fri and I am having a mid life crisis, no doubt!

 

[Disney's Deluxe Princess]

I had that moment after I graduated college and started my career. My friends and I went back to a club we used to frequent in college. I just had this weird feeling that I didn't belong anymore. It was hard to put into words, but I just felt like I was moving on and that part of my life was over now. It was sort of bittersweet.

I was about 25 the first time a salesclerk called me "maam". I was mortified! I don't know why either. Now, I'm 35 and feel very comfortable with my self. I imagine when 40 comes there will be some issues. LOL

You are just growing up and finally realizing it. It's normal.

 

[Christine]

I think there is actually a "term" for this now--the quarter-life crisis. Yes, there is such a thing and you are finally realizing now that you are no longer part of the "young" crowd, although, for me just turning 40, you seem young to me and I had to chuckle when I read your post!

Just take pity on us poor 35-40 year olds who feel like we no longer "fit in" at those places we used to frequent at your age! Our minds are still there!!!

 

[Disney Doll]

LOL!!! I can remember when I went into a bar that we used to frequent in our younger days when I was baout 23 and they RANG A BELL to announce that someone over 21 was there!!!! This was back in the days when the drinking age was 18!

On a more serious note, it is a transitional period in your life, and change and transition always cause some mixed feelings. Try to let go of the "I'm not in college anymore" part of the mixed feelings and look forward to all the exciting things that may happen now that you're older, married, working. It's all the spin you put on things.

 

[Pop Daddy]

you have a thing for Gene Hackman , you would love my grandpa

 

[browneyes]

LOL, you're not that much older than those young college kids.

Gene Hackman?

 

[Pin Wizard]

LOL! I'm with you, Christine...she's YOUNG! I just turned into another age box on the forms. And I'm ALWAYS telling my son...enjoy being a kid because it's NOT fun being an adult! Single parenting is the pitts to me!!

 

[grinningghost]

Originally posted by The Mystery Machine


I am turning 39 on Fri and I am having a mid life crisis, no doubt!

I turned 39 on Thursday and instead of having a mid-life crisis, I decided to make the year worthwhile and plan a Las Vegas trip for the big 4-0. Now I almost can't wait for that day to come. (And being a leap year, I get an extra day to be 39 anyway).

Happy birthday to you Mystery Machine!

 

[Aprille]

If you're having a mid-life crisis under 30 that means you won't see your 60th birthday. So, if I was you, I would hope it's NOT a mid-life crisis.

 

[CBRorBust]

You are having your quarter life crisis!

 

[KristaTX]

What comes between the quarter and midlife crises? I'm older than you - 33 - but I'm having one, too. Glad I'm not alone

Krista

 

[KathyTX]

I'm feeling so old here!!!

Some of us are mature in years but not in spirit. And it kind of shocks my system to read about "old folks" and realize I'm lumped into that over 40 crowd! (I don't FEEL over 40, but gravity keeps insisting that I am.)

 

[nativetxn]

Hey, Kathy....I'm <i>way</i> over 40. Don't call me "old folks"

I don't think there is a certain age when someone goes through a midlife crisis. I'm still waiting for mine. Perhaps when I hit 60?

 

[KristaTX]

Don't feel old anyone !! None of the DISers that I've met (including some of you) seem older than me to me. The DIS and Disney must keep us all young . Anyone at any age can go through these "So now what?" periods of life. Like all phases, they come and they go.

Krista

 

[becka]

I could have written your post (well without Gene Hackman ) a few years ago. In fact there is a book called Quarter Life Crisis that I bought and read about the time I was 25. I still have it lying around here somewhere I think. If you want me to send it to you then PM me your address and I will forward it on.

That age can be so confusing because you don't really know where you belong (not a college girl anymore but you don't fit in with the Mom crowd yet) and if you are like me you really found yourself wondering where you will fit in and what your purpose is. I think I only really came out of that feeling once I realized I was pregnant. It gave me more of a purpose and all of the sudden I found myself identifying with a large group again - the young Mom club.

 

[marymrg]

I felt that exact same way when I turned 29. Once I hit 30, I was ok with it all. Most of our friends are older than me, so that helped to some degree. Eventually, I learned it's better to savor the moment and not worry about the calendar.

 

[ibouncetoo]

So this thread had me thinking.....boy you couldn't pay me to be in my early 20's again (except I'd like that body back)...had a struggle finding my 'place'. But boy, I sure wouldn't mind being 32 again! Now that was a great age and a great year! But like an earlier poster said I think Disney is keeping all of US young!