Am I Overreacting AGAIN?

[MAKmom]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

My DH and I moved into our first house yesterday. After 12 long hours of moving, we are 100% moved in.

Unfortunately, I am now at work until 10pm tonight.

DH's mom has been over before, but when we weren't moved in, and she had planned on coming over today to see everything now that we are moved in. Fine.

Now, however, DH has called me and informed me that he also invited his GRANDPARENTS over to see the house.

I am sort of pissed - as his wife and co-owner of the house - that he would invite his grandparents over to see our first house without me.

I don't know WHY he would invite people over to see the house for the first time without me, but he seems to be forgetting that it is also MY house! Hello... remember ME? Your WIFE??? That's MY house, too! I am proud of it and want to show it off too!!!

As a wife and homeowner now, I sort of wanted to play "hostess". I wanted to have warm appetizers and wine and a candle burning or something! But all laughing aside, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

You are over reacting. He can't tell his family they have to wait until your home to come over.

 

[phorsenuf]

Have you been under a lot of stress lately? You're posts lately have been, shall I say, a bit over-dramatic. I don't remember you normally being this way. Don't mean to sound offending, but I think you need to just take some deep breathes and calm a bit.

 

[princess momma]

Your DH wouldn't care in the least if you had your family over while he was at work...because he's a guy. Males are different than females and that sort of thing wouldn't even hit his radar. Which is another good reason to tone down the drama.

I was thinking the same thing. He could care less if she had the whole extended family over. Men are different, which is a good thing.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

overreaction

I had the same thing happen - we built a house in Florida and husband moves there from Chicago. At this point I had not even SEEN the finished house.

Hubby invites his parents down for a week - yep they saw the house before me.

You know what - I did not care.

It is just a house - not a big deal.

 

[sbsteel]

You need to chill out and learn not to sweat the small stuff. I would have a certified anxiety issue if I stressed and overreacted the way you do.

Be happy he's taking pride in something you BOTH accomplished together and took initiative to show it off.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Repeat after me...."I am a woman, he is a man...we do things and see things differently."

Repeat daily or as needed for headaches.

You're funny!

I think having a new house is like having a new baby, you should have a certain amount of time with just it and your spouse to get settled in and used to the new situation! All company should hold off until you're "settled", both physically and emotionally. So, I don't blame you, but also don't think you should take it out on your DH who just "didn't think", I'm sure...

Hugs...

Terri

And I just called him and apologized... I think 12 hours of moving followed by a 12 hour work day equals strange emotions.

Thanks everyone... AGAIN!

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Aww, he is just excited to show off the house. You will have plenty of opportunities to play hostess. Don't sweat it.

 

[FayeW]

After 8+ years on the DIS, I have come to the conclusion that anytime somebody has to ask if they are overreacting, they usually are.

This was nothing. No big deal. Now that your husband apologized to you (for nothing, by the way, as he did absolutely nothing wrong) I hope that YOU apologized to him for behaving like a ninny.

 

[AKL_Megs]

Have you been under a lot of stress lately? You're posts lately have been, shall I say, a bit over-dramatic. I don't remember you normally being this way. Don't mean to sound offending, but I think you need to just take some deep breathes and calm a bit.

Ya think!!! LMAO! You aren't offending me at all. I hate to make myself sound like such a, well, you know... because you are right, this is NOT my norm! I feel like this lately...

 

[wdwfan16]

Don't worry the elderly will not stay long. 56 is too cold for them.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I think having a new house is like having a new baby, you should have a certain amount of time with just it and your spouse to get settled in and used to the new situation! All company should hold off until you're "settled", both physically and emotionally. So, I don't blame you, but also don't think you should take it out on your DH who just "didn't think", I'm sure...

Hugs...

Terri

A new material possession is the same as a new human being, a child?

 

[AKL_Megs]

Don't worry the elderly will not stay long. 56 is too cold for them.

I forgot! DH will freeze them out!

No, he'll turn the heat up for his mom, just not his wife!

 

[laurie31]

Deep breaths. He just invited HIS grandparents, not the whole neighborhood, not even the whole family! (I presume there are siblings, cousins, your parents, co-workers, friends, etc. that you would like to invite to a formal housewarming).

You can still have your candles and appetizers. Be glad your DH is proud of your new house. Maybe he won't leave wet towels, dirty socks, and underwear on the floor or dirty dishes lying around. Count your blessings!

 

[phorsenuf]

Deep breaths. He just invited HIS grandparents, not the whole neighborhood, not even the whole family! (I presume there are siblings, cousins, your parents, co-workers, friends, etc. that you would like to invite to a formal housewarming).

You can still have your candles and appetizers. Be glad your DH is proud of your new house. Maybe he won't leave wet towels, dirty socks, and underwear on the floor or dirty dishes lying around. Count your blessings!

What have you been smoking?

 

[brockash]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

My DH and I moved into our first house yesterday. After 12 long hours of moving, we are 100% moved in.

Unfortunately, I am now at work until 10pm tonight.

DH's mom has been over before, but when we weren't moved in, and she had planned on coming over today to see everything now that we are moved in. Fine.

Now, however, DH has called me and informed me that he also invited his GRANDPARENTS over to see the house.

I am sort of pissed - as his wife and co-owner of the house - that he would invite his grandparents over to see our first house without me.

I don't know WHY he would invite people over to see the house for the first time without me, but he seems to be forgetting that it is also MY house! Hello... remember ME? Your WIFE??? That's MY house, too! I am proud of it and want to show it off too!!!

As a wife and homeowner now, I sort of wanted to play "hostess". I wanted to have warm appetizers and wine and a candle burning or something! But all laughing aside, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

It wouldn't bother me in the least bit if my DH showed off our new house to his side of the family without me...in all honesty, I'd probably prefer it. It's his side of the family, you'll get to show it off to your side of the family/friends, and would you want to wait around until there was a time scheduled that both you and dh would be able to do it together??? I don't know, I just don't see the big deal, and even if I did care, I wouldn't let it bother me for more then a minute. It's really not that big of a deal.

 

[bubie2.5]

After 8+ years on the DIS, I have come to the conclusion that anytime somebody has to ask if they are overreacting, they usually are.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Yes, you are overreacting.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Yes, you are overreacting, however, you have taken all the criticisms very well.

Here's a for you for feeling left out. I'm glad you apologized to your dh. I'm sure he's proud of the house, and having his wife scold him for showing it to his parents & grandparents had to have been a real downer for him, and I'm sure you want positive memories to look back on for the both of you for this time in your lives.

Congratulations on your new house. Hopefully, you'll be able to relax at home soon and really get to enjoy it.

 

[laurie31]

What have you been smoking?

Hey, I said MAYBE!

 

[RitaE]

Maybe you should just concentrate on throwing a house warming party in a couple of weeks - you can candle and wine and appetizer to your heart's content then.

Or I know, volunteer to host Thanksgiving. That'll smack all those hostess wannabee urges right out of your system.