Am I Overreacting AGAIN?

[AKL_Megs]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

My DH and I moved into our first house yesterday. After 12 long hours of moving, we are 100% moved in.

Unfortunately, I am now at work until 10pm tonight.

DH's mom has been over before, but when we weren't moved in, and she had planned on coming over today to see everything now that we are moved in. Fine.

Now, however, DH has called me and informed me that he also invited his GRANDPARENTS over to see the house.

I am sort of pissed - as his wife and co-owner of the house - that he would invite his grandparents over to see our first house without me.

I don't know WHY he would invite people over to see the house for the first time without me, but he seems to be forgetting that it is also MY house! Hello... remember ME? Your WIFE??? That's MY house, too! I am proud of it and want to show it off too!!!

As a wife and homeowner now, I sort of wanted to play "hostess". I wanted to have warm appetizers and wine and a candle burning or something! But all laughing aside, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

 

[ReneeA]

You won't have a very long OR happy marriage if you let things like that get under your skin.

I can see disappointment, perhaps...but not mad.

 

[Mickey's Minion]

Am I justified?

No.

It is just family coming over to see the place for goodness sakes. Think of it as a "soft opening".

Plan an open house where you can be the official hostess and serve the appetizers and have the candles burning.

 

[mickeyboat]

You are overreacting. Working weekends makes it tough coordinating visiting schedules with people excited to see your new home.

If you want to be a hostess, wait until you are all unpacked and the house is decorated. Then have them over for dinner and give them the tour.

Congrats on your new home!

 

[Mickey's Minion]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

My DH and I moved into our first house yesterday. After 12 long hours of moving, we are 100% moved in.

Unfortunately, I am now at work until 10pm tonight.

DH's mom has been over before, but when we weren't moved in, and she had planned on coming over today to see everything now that we are moved in. Fine.

Now, however, DH has called me and informed me that he also invited his GRANDPARENTS over to see the house.

I am sort of pissed - as his wife and co-owner of the house - that he would invite his grandparents over to see our first house without me.

I don't know WHY he would invite people over to see the house for the first time without me, but he seems to be forgetting that it is also MY house! Hello... remember ME? Your WIFE??? That's MY house, too! I am proud of it and want to show it off too!!!

As a wife and homeowner now, I sort of wanted to play "hostess". I wanted to have warm appetizers and wine and a candle burning or something! But all laughing aside, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

oops - should have quoted the whole thing, new rule and all.

 

[disney1990]

Be thankful. You're not there. You don't have to play hostess; you don't have to cook dinner and entertain. After moving and working, aren't you tired? You should be relieved that your husband took it upon himself to do this.

 

[diznygirl]

No.

It is just family coming over to see the place for goodness sakes. Think of it as a "soft opening".

Plan an open house where you can be the official hostess and serve the appetizers and have the candles burning.

 

[princess momma]

You're overreacting.

Have a housewarming when you're all moved in. That's your opportunity to play hostess.

 

[Evil Genius]

He's a guy, he doesn't think of things like appetizers, wine, candles. Get over it. Have a proper housewarming once you get settled. That way the IL's can oooh and aaaah over what you have done with the place.

 

[susykt4]

Yeah, let this one go. Honestly, if it was convenient for YOUR parents/grandparents to visit while he was working would you deny them entry until he was available? This just sounds like overexcitement by your MIL. I seriously doubt you are being excluded. Just bad timing...

 

[AKL_Megs]

Be thankful. You're not there. You don't have to play hostess; you don't have to cook dinner and entertain. After moving and working, aren't you tired? You should be relieved that your husband took it upon himself to do this.

True! And I don't have to see MIL!!! Still, it would have been nice to show it off with him!

You won't have a very long OR happy marriage if you let things like that get under your skin.

I can see disappointment, perhaps...but not mad.

I am mostly disappointed! I would have made sure he was there if the tables were turned!

 

[Magic Mom]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

No, you aren't justified. You are over reacting, again. Cut it out.

 

[AKL_Megs]

No, you aren't justified. You are over reacting, again. Cut it out.

Gotcha!

 

[Magic Mom]

I would have made sure he was there if the tables were turned!

Repeat after me...."I am a woman, he is a man...we do things and see things differently."

Repeat daily or as needed for headaches.

 

[Disney Doll]

Don't die on this hill. There will be bigger things that will come along.

 

[ReneeA]

True! And I don't have to see MIL!!! Still, it would have been nice to show it off with him!

I am mostly disappointed! I would have made sure he was there if the tables were turned!

Your DH wouldn't care in the least if you had your family over while he was at work...because he's a guy. Males are different than females and that sort of thing wouldn't even hit his radar. Which is another good reason to tone down the drama.

 

[wdwfan16]

I tend to overreact a lot so if I am AGAIN, somebody talk me down!

My DH and I moved into our first house yesterday. After 12 long hours of moving, we are 100% moved in.

Unfortunately, I am now at work until 10pm tonight.

DH's mom has been over before, but when we weren't moved in, and she had planned on coming over today to see everything now that we are moved in. Fine.

Now, however, DH has called me and informed me that he also invited his GRANDPARENTS over to see the house.

I am sort of pissed - as his wife and co-owner of the house - that he would invite his grandparents over to see our first house without me.

I don't know WHY he would invite people over to see the house for the first time without me, but he seems to be forgetting that it is also MY house! Hello... remember ME? Your WIFE??? That's MY house, too! I am proud of it and want to show it off too!!!

As a wife and homeowner now, I sort of wanted to play "hostess". I wanted to have warm appetizers and wine and a candle burning or something! But all laughing aside, I am really, really sad and hurt and MAD!

Am I justified?

You really need to get over this power trip. It is his house and if he wants to invite his grandparents over when you are not there so be it. Are you worried they will touch your special towels?

If he invited them over and told you to cook dinner, then you have a gripe.

You work late and he was along, so why not have company. Would you rather they come over at 10 pm?

How long have you been married. Like a PP said, keep this up and your marriage will not be a long one.

 

[alexandria674]

A little annoyed, maybe but it is no big deal. It isn't a dinner party, its just the family coming over.

 

[yoopermom]

I think having a new house is like having a new baby, you should have a certain amount of time with just it and your spouse to get settled in and used to the new situation! All company should hold off until you're "settled", both physically and emotionally. So, I don't blame you, but also don't think you should take it out on your DH who just "didn't think", I'm sure...

Hugs...

Terri

 

[wdwfan16]

Be thankful. You're not there. You don't have to play hostess; you don't have to cook dinner and entertain. After moving and working, aren't you tired? You should be relieved that your husband took it upon himself to do this.

You signature confuses me. It says your 2009 vacation was canceled yet you have a ticker in your signature. Are you going on vacation or did you cancel another 2009 vacation?