Am I invisible - or just paranoid?

[Mrs Dazzle]

It seems that every time I ask a question (or respond to one) on a thread, my question/response gets completely ignored. Is it that people just don't see the response if they only read the last few replies or do you all know something I don't. Feeling a bit paranoid now - who said that

ETA that it is happened four times now in three days - other people who have made comments/asked questions have been responded to.

I often feel this way, perhaps this is why I don't spend so much time on the boards these days

I too used to get very frustrated by the one or two responses I'd get, knowing other people would get heaps, or you'd see other people getting loads of thanks when you've spent just as long answering a question One time I got myself all in a twiddle about a comment that was made, but then I decided as long as I get the answers to questions I'm looking for, then that's fine. However, that's not really why I joined these boards all those years ago. I guess I'm not part of "the clique", or witty or funny enough

 

[Hilary]

I often feel this way, perhaps this is why I don't spend so much time on the boards these days

for you, Annie.

I know I'm always pleased to see your input on the board, and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Please keep posting

 

[lexie32]

i feel this way too sometimes, although i spend alot of time reading peoples threads ect, i struggle to reply because as much as i know what i want to say i find it difficult to put into words as i am dislexic and my spelling and grammar is not too good!

please don't stop posting as i have no life either!!

Alex

 

[angel659]

You put a comment recently on a thread where you said 'sorry but I have to disagree with Johnny' cannot remember which one it was now..?
And I responded directly to your quote Joh, saying something like 'fair do's we all have different opinions' or something...so , you do get responses

I kill threads all the time with some of my responses but couldn't care less - I like to think my comments are that great nothing else needs to be said

I have a hitlist of people to ignore on this site Joh , trust me you are not on it!!

Ha Ha Hope I am not on it. Needed all your advice on villas. Thanks again

Wilma, I have threads that takes days to get responses, but you find its been read. I sometimes click on the thread thinking I know that one, then find actually I dont so I wont reply.

Try not to be paranoid honestly its a hit and miss sometimes.

 

[AlanUK]

Personally I wouldn't let it bother me.

Sometimes questions get asked and the answers are very short and simple and one or two responses say all that needs to be said.

Sometimes people just can't help and whilst some users might post and say so, others, like myself might simply just choose to say nothing to avoid filling the thread up with a lot of 'I don't knows'. Usually the exception to this is if a thread is sinking without response then it's often worth replying just to bump it up the board again

Other times you might post to a thread that has been going a while and people have already replied and feel that they have nothing more to add and so don't check back on it even though another question may have been asked.

There are many many users of these boards and whilst certain small groups of users may get very friendly with each other and exchange regular e-mails/PM's I find it hard to believe that everyone, except for a small minority, is in some sort of exclusive club where they only reply to one anothers questions.

We all like to see responses to our posts but sometimes for whatever reason it just doesn't happen. Please try not to feel to upset by it, I am sure it is nothing personal against you

 

[JohnnySharp2]

Ha Ha Hope I am not on it. Needed all your advice on villas. Thanks again

Wilma, I have threads that takes days to get responses, but you find its been read. I sometimes click on the thread thinking I know that one, then find actually I dont so I wont reply.

Try not to be paranoid honestly its a hit and miss sometimes.

Thanks

 

[wilma-bride]

the posts that i remember you posting all seemed to have had responses...
but in any case, even if it were true, it's very important to let stuff like this go...

even in real life if someone blows you off, you should take the attitude that "it's their loss".....life's too short to let other people get you down like this...

Thank you for your comments. Although I'm inclined to agree with most of what you say, unfortunately, I guess I'm just a sensitive soul It's not so much threads I've started, it's more when I reply to another thread and ask a question of the OP or respond to a comment someone else has made on that thread, other people who ask questions or make comments appear to get responses but my comments occasionally seem to be ignored. I suppose it's just frustration, partly, when I've put a lot of thought into giving someone advice or posting a nice reply and then they don't respond. Disclaimer: I know everybody can not ALWAYS respond to EVERYONE'S comments but it had just happened a lot lately.

Anyway, I am over it so no worries

 

[wilma-bride]

I often feel this way, perhaps this is why I don't spend so much time on the boards these days

I too used to get very frustrated by the one or two responses I'd get, knowing other people would get heaps, or you'd see other people getting loads of thanks when you've spent just as long answering a question One time I got myself all in a twiddle about a comment that was made, but then I decided as long as I get the answers to questions I'm looking for, then that's fine. However, that's not really why I joined these boards all those years ago. I guess I'm not part of "the clique", or witty or funny enough

I'm sorry you feel that way too. I used to frequent another (non-Disney) forum and one of the main reasons people left was because it was so cliquey. One of the things I liked about the DIS is that I never felt it was like that, however (as in real life) there are always going to be people who are more 'popular' and, therefore, get more responses. That, I accept, as part of life. I don't really want to turn this into a debate about whether or not the DIS has 'cliques' as that was not my intention. I will just accept that perhaps my posts were not seen or they didn't know what to say in response.

Kaylee, thanks for your comments too. I would rather not point out which threads as I wouldn't want to make specific people feel bad if they genuinely didn't see my posts.

 

[disneyholic family]

Thank you for your comments. Although I'm inclined to agree with most of what you say, unfortunately, I guess I'm just a sensitive soul It's not so much threads I've started, it's more when I reply to another thread and ask a question of the OP or respond to a comment someone else has made on that thread, other people who ask questions or make comments appear to get responses but my comments occasionally seem to be ignored. I suppose it's just frustration, partly, when I've put a lot of thought into giving someone advice or posting a nice reply and then they don't respond. Disclaimer: I know everybody can not ALWAYS respond to EVERYONE'S comments but it had just happened a lot lately.

Anyway, I am over it so no worries

oh, if you're talking about posts within other posts, i think that happens a lot...that is people not responding.....I agree with what AlanUK said....the lack of response is just that people forget to go back or forget to respond...
i don't think it's anything specifically against you...

there are many posts in which i've initially responded and then i just don't get back here for a few days so i never go back to see what else was posted...
it's not that i'm trying to favor certain people, it's just that i didn't happen to be around...

really i don't think it's you (or anybody)....

 

[mandymouse]

Hi Joh, I'm sorry that you've felt ignored, as I've only been back a couple of days, my brain is still a bit scrambled (what d'ya mean you can't tell the difference ) so if I have ignored you at anytime, then I apologise and send you a big hug

 

[WDWfan uk]

... just wanted to say a big "Hi!" to you Joh ........... and to you Annie

I haven't been around very much for some months, so can't comment on the lack of response to your posts but suffice it to say, if you've been feeling that way, you deserve a boost and re-assurance..... and thanks for your contributions !

Annie I know from way back and have had the great pleasure of meeting - there is NO WAY that your posts "are not funny and witty enough", and you have always posted GREAT planning advice so I'm sad that you feel that way.

GROUP HUG

 

[Joanne UK]

I know exactly what the OP is experiencing. I used to post alot on the DLP board but although I still look at it most days I rarely post now as I felt my posts were just ignored and disregarded. Posts above and below mine would be commented on but regardless of what the thread was about mine hardly ever was.

I spend more time on here now as, to me anyway, it seems less cliquey.

 

[Netty]

Joh and annie, everyone feels like this now and again, i know i do.

 

[Frances999]

Joh, I really would not worry about it. I think it happens to most people some time or another. I for one really enjoy your posts and friendly nature.

I know exactly what the OP is experiencing. I used to post alot on the DLP board but although I still look at it most days I rarely post now as I felt my posts were just ignored and disregarded. Posts above and below mine would be commented on but regardless of what the thread was about mine hardly ever was.

I spend more time on here now as, to me anyway, it seems less cliquey.

I felt like that on the DLP board as well.....

 

[stevie-wonder-boy!]

hey wilma: the same thing happens to me on any disney forum website!!
i always thought they didnt like me! but it turned out in the end they did!!
good luck,ill always answer your posts!

 

[Ware Bears]

Joanne and Frances

I am really upset you feel that way about the DLP board. I thought we were a really friendly crowd on there, if we have come across as cliquey and excluding anyone I am really really sorry. Please come back and chat with us, we do really value your input.

 

[Bexx]

I'm really sorry that anyone thinks the DLP board is too cliquey. I admit that it's the place I feel most comfortable on, and sometimes there is a bit of off topic banter! And being a comparitively small board may make it seem more cliquey. But the main reason I go there is to help with, and talk about other peoples DLP holidays - and the more people that join in, the merrier.

I'm sure we've all felt ignored at some point or another. I don't know if you can still do this - but I know at one point I assumed several people must have selected to "ignore this poster" But the problem is that it's not like talking face to face. It's quite possible that although someone may actually comment on somebody else's remark, they're also nodding and agreeing with something you've said - you just can't see them do it!!!

 

[nicola]

I know exactly what the OP is experiencing. I used to post alot on the DLP board but although I still look at it most days I rarely post now as I felt my posts were just ignored and disregarded. Posts above and below mine would be commented on but regardless of what the thread was about mine hardly ever was.

I spend more time on here now as, to me anyway, it seems less cliquey.

I too am really sorry you feel that way about DLP board. I am relatively new to the DIS and haven't been on it much recently but I always remember thinking you were really nice and friendly when I joined the DLP board. You were very welcoming to me and I distinctly remember you answering a lot of my questions about the Christmas season there. I really hope I didn't come across as ignoring you in any way! Maybe you'll come back and give it a 2nd chance. I think if people are aware of it, the problem may be fixable.

 

[Cyrano]

Guys I can't recall anyone ignored on DLP board. I recognise both your posts so hopefully with everyone comments you'll come back

 

[diberry]

Just to add my two cents Joanne and Frances, I'm really very sorry that you feel the DLP board is too cliquey. I think because we're a small community the same group tend to talk to one another a lot and those of us at home in the day tend to tease each other now and then but I'm absolutely sure nobody deliberately intends to sideline or exclude anybody. Please be assured you are always very very welcome and your input is valued. You two have both been very supportive of me in the past and I'm so sorry if you feel you weren't appreciated.