Am I crazy for saying no to some pixie dust? Has anyone else did anything this crazy?

[GPC0321]

I would've done the same thing as the OP. I would've felt silly having two extra unused beds in a suite like that, not to mention the very blatant constant reminder that the kids aren't there.
I think it's wrong to criticize the OP for making the decision that felt right and comfortable for him and his wife. Some people aren't obsessed with taking, taking, taking everything they can get and wallowing in unnecessary excess just because they can. That isn't a character flaw or some symptom of low self-esteem as some here seem to suggest. He simply doesn't see the point in all that extra space for two people and figures someone else will be thrilled to get the room.
Unfortunately, OP, what you did is very rare in this day and age.

That said, if someone calls me and wants to upgrade me to a super swank suite at a deluxe from my humble standard room at a moderate, I'll be all over it like white on rice. I won't hold my breath though! LOL!

 

[GPC0321]

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[CinderElsa]

I'd have taken the upgrade in a second, and I wouldn't have asked the internet to validate the decision I knew was right for me.

 

[kangamangus]

We would have taken it....but we have six kids in tow hahaha, just hubby and I...nah we too would have passed on that. I like the goldilocks quote that is me as well. I would not be concerned with what they will do or not do with the room, I have enough of my own worries in life. And I don't believe in Karma so I wouldn't have that even factor in to my answer. Have a great trip!

 

[larryz]

I'd have taken the upgrade in a second, and I wouldn't have asked the internet to validate the decision I knew was right for me.

In fact, I might have come here to brag about it just a little bit...

 

[itchin2go]

I would have taken the upgrade if only for the view.

I agree with PPs that while it would have amounted to pixie dust for you, Disney wasn't trying to "pixie dust" someone; they were trying to solve a problem, likely with overbooking some segment of the rooms.

But if you're happy with your decision, then you did the right thing.

 

[Angel Ariel]

I am going to have a conversation with my husband
"dear, if Disney ever calls and wants to up-grade us and I'm not available you say yes, its always yes"

I just had that conversation with my dh

 

[DisMom1981]

You are going kid free and staying at GF- sounds like you already have a once in a lifetime opportunity (maybe that's a little exaggerated- but we just had baby number 3 and won't be doing anything alone for some time lol) !!!

I think you are super considerate. Neither choice was right or wrong. Don't let this be the focus of the amazing trip you are going to have.

 

[LetsTalkWDW]

I would have taken the upgrade - for a few reasons. They likely "needed" your room category as it is easier to book than the room you were offered. So they looked through the reservations to see who was celebrating something and would appreciate the upgrade so they offered it to you.

I think @tjmw2727 got it right. Disney is most likely looking to free up a room category that is easier to book and after you declined they probably went to the next person on the list, most likely another club level guest.

That said, it all comes down to what works for you and your wife.

We stayed CR Club Level last May and it was great. I think I would have taken the upgrade just to see what its like to stay at that level.

 

[Happy_2_B]

Keep the comments coming, I love them! But as I asked in the original post to anyone else ever say no so some pixie dust?

There are gonna be crickets on this one- niroc. Most people never get the chance to experience pixie dust of any real significance, and when they do they don't turn it down.

On to some additional comments since you asked...

I don't know where the comments are coming from that he already has a suite- he doesn't according to the OP- and those comments are continuing to be posted so just want to clear that up. He booked a standard king club level room with a standard view- it's a nice room, but it's basically the same room everyone else in the resort has- except for food and a concierge. Most club level rooms in the resorts are not suites- there are only a handful of suites in each resort that are non DVC- and they have the same or similar floor plan to all the other regular rooms in the resort. My wife and I are AKL club level this December- it's the same room as everyone else in the resort, except for the amenities. Another poster mentioned that most people choose club level because they plan to stay at the resort a little more to take advantage of the amenities. That is why we stay at club level- this is my 28th visit- and the parks are not the focus of our vacations anymore. I would love to have the space that a suite affords since we will spend quite a bit of time at the resort, but they were sold out- and yes, it's only the two of us- and we are also celebrating our anniversary.

I also am not sure about the comments that Disney needs the room- and that this is self serving on their part. He is leaving in a few days. The month of September after Labor Day is one of the very slowest times of the year at WDW- and the resorts are nowhere near capacity. He is leaving soon, the room is empty, the concierge staff decided to do something nice for his anniversary and upgrade him. That's what probably happened given historical crowd patterns- it had nothing to do with Disney needing the room- it was going to be empty anyways.

My concern was the lack of discussing it ahead of time. Of course she is going to be OK with it after the fact- there is nothing to be done at that point. Partners that don't discuss big decisions with their partners aren't really partners now- are they? They are 2 people living in the same space doing their own thing- and they wind up not being in that same space together for much longer. You are at 10 years- I made it 12 in my first marriage- and lack of communication tends to be one of the big issues when the chips start falling. This was a big decision. That one person in a couple feels they have the 'right'- or whatever you want to call it- to make that decision without consulting the other party indicates to me that it is probably a pattern, and those types of patterns don't wind up working out well in a relationship. Yep- big assumption on my part- but after I told my wife about this, it was my wife (she does not participate on the boards and could care less about planning a Disney vacation) who asked if it was going to be his last anniversary- not me. I edited my post and added her comments to underscore how important communication with your partner is. I sincerely hope your wife is really OK with this after getting there and seeing what you turned down.

 

[ChimCher-ee]

Our pixie dust has always come in ways that weren't a "yes/no" choice, so I can't regret or second guess, but here goes.

When my mother, DD and I went on our three-generation "trip of a lifetime," I asked for a special accommodations room at ASMu (Mom needs the roll-in shower) and specified that we needed two beds. When we got the text at the pool that our room was ready and went up, we thought there had been a mistake. The special accommodations room had only one, king-sized bed! We noticed that the door to the adjoining room was open but assumed that it was a housekeeping mistake. I charged up to the front desk and explained (but calmly, with restraint) that we needed two beds. The CM looked it up and, with a puzzled expression, said, "But I'm showing that you have a total of three beds? Isn't the room next door open?" You could have knocked me over with a feather! Not just a roll-in shower and two beds, but two whole rooms, with three beds and two bathrooms! We danced the happy dance that afternoon, let me tell you! (And I apologized to the CM for my ignorance/mistake...)

During that same trip, we made a beeline for our favorite snack at Sleepy Hollow. I no sooner arrive at the round table DD and Mom had found in the sun (the only space open), balancing three steaming paper plates bearing what can only be described as the best waffles in the universe, than what comes down the street but the noontime parade! We are not parade people so I don't plan for them, but this was spectacular pixie-dust viewing! Especially the dragon...

When we took DD to MK for the first time (DD then 4yo), we had the 8:00 am reservation for breakfast with Cinderella. We somehow ended up alone on Main St. and I have a shot of DD in front of the castle, as if she were the queen and her subjects were all home in bed. The dust lasted all the way through the beginning of breakfast--she was first and alone with Cinderella, and she was announced as "Princess Ixxx, who will now lead the guests up the staircase to the dining hall." She was so proud! And she remembers it to this day.

When we saw Mickey and Minnie (that same trip, at Storytime Circus/Big Top), we were the last family through and had some private pixie-dust moments with them. Their interactions were priceless and I fell in love with them all over again. Next to my (regular) moment in the sun with Mary Poppins, this stands out as my favorite m&g.

And last, when DD and I returned this summer, I chose MM for the first time. (I was trying to break myself of the "record every moment" habit by letting someone else do it for me. It worked.) Anyway, at about 2 pm we were heading to Tomorrowland after the Teacups and saw a photographer all by herself (dust in itself). We asked her to take our picture and she positioned us with the castle in the background. Just as she snapped, we heard pops from behind us and saw a look of surprise come over the photographer's face. Just at that moment! The fireworks from the Dream Along with Mickey show (? not sure of the name--we're not big outdoor show people yet, either)... she quickly snapped the other two pix just to make sure. There's no finer pixie dust than that.

Now I'm all verklempt and have some albums I want to open up.

 

[niroc]

OP here. It amazes me how the boards bring out the worst in people and how people just assume they know what the OP thinks. I did not post because I needed "validation from the the internet" or because I wanted to "brag" or I didn't take the upgrade because I have low self-esteem... LOL. I simply wanted to know what others would have done in that situation. I am glad I did what I did and I am glad I was able to pass that opportunity to someone else.

Like I said before there is no right or wrong. If you would have chosen the upgrade then great if not that's great for you too.

 

[niroc]

My concern was the lack of discussing it ahead of time. Of course she is going to be OK with it after the fact- there is nothing to be done at that point. Partners that don't discuss big decisions with their partners aren't really partners now- are they? They are 2 people living in the same space doing their own thing- and they wind up not being in that same space together for much longer. You are at 10 years- I made it 12 in my first marriage- and lack of communication tends to be one of the big issues when the chips start falling. This was a big decision. That one person in a couple feels they have the 'right'- or whatever you want to call it- to make that decision without consulting the other party indicates to me that it is probably a pattern, and those types of patterns don't wind up working out well in a relationship. Yep- big assumption on my part- but after I told my wife about this, it was my wife (she does not participate on the boards and could care less about planning a Disney vacation) who asked if it was going to be his last anniversary- not me. I edited my post and added her comments to underscore how important communication with your partner is. I sincerely hope your wife is really OK with this after getting there and seeing what you turned down.

I've been doing my best to make generalized responses because I truly feel everyone is right no matter what they would have done in my situation but I will respond directly to you because you are so off base and frankly out of line.

There was no discussing this ahead of time. It was a random phone call from Disney when I was home alone. There was no opportunity to discuss it with my wife. So it amazes me to think that you think you have the right to say my marriage has no communication. It fact we have a great marriage and communication is a big part of it. It was not my "right" to say yes or no but I did have to make a decision that I thought was best at the time. Part of the decision was based on knowing my wife and what she would have done if it was she who would have received that phone call. And I was right. She told me exactly what I thought she would have said.

Look guys I love the comments here but please lets not make them personal. I meant this as a fun discussion.

 

[Happy_2_B]

Look guys I love the comments here but please lets not make them personal.

The fact that you posted this without telling your wife- and then asking us whether or not you should tell her- makes it personal. You invited us to comment on this. Would you have worded your post differently, I would not have ventured into your personal life- but it was you who asked whether or not you should tell her. That you feel it is an attack of some sort is off base. We can only respond to your inquiry based on our own personal lives and how we would handle this if put in that situation- and that is what I did. I merely told my wife- she asked if it was going to be your last anniversary (in an 'Oh my God I can't believe this' sort of tone)- and I posted what she said after I asked her. I was simply testing the water to see what my wife would say in this situation. I apologize if you felt it was an attack- it wasn't. I did step over the line making that assumption regarding communication in your marriage- I should have never done this and I regret it- and I really am very sorry for that. Now let's diffuse this and get back on topic.

 

[niroc]

The fact that you posted this without telling your wife- and then asking us whether or not you should tell her- makes it personal. You invited us to comment on this. Would you have worded your post differently, I would not have ventured into your personal life- but it was you who asked whether or not you should tell her. That you feel it is an attack of some sort is off base. I merely told my wife- she asked if it was going to be your last anniversary (in an 'Oh my God I can't believe this' sort of tone)- and I posted what she said after I asked her. I was simply testing the water to see what my wife would say in this situation and report that information. I apologize if you felt it was an attack- it wasn't. I did step over the line making that assumption regarding communication in your marriage- and I am sorry for that. Now let's diffuse this and get back on topic.

Thank you. I also apologize if I misconstrued your comment. Let's move on. The problem with the internet, emails, texts, etc is that you can't always tell how a comment was meant like we do with verbal communication. When I said "now should I tell my wife (with an innocent whistling smiling face)" it was meant as a joke. I didn't mean it as keeping secrets from my wife. Maybe it didn't come across the way I intended it to. LOL

 

[tjmw2727]

I think @tjmw2727 got it right. Disney is most likely looking to free up a room category that is easier to book and after you declined they probably went to the next person on the list, most likely another club level guest.

That said, it all comes down to what works for you and your wife.

We stayed CR Club Level last May and it was great. I think I would have taken the upgrade just to see what its like to stay at that level.

Thanks - and I certainly didn't mean to imply that the OP was somehow inconveniencing the resort LOL. Yes they likely just kept looking for guests to upgrade!

 

[Lisaloo]

lol. You asked strangers on the Internet if you should tell your wife.

 

[Happy_2_B]

Thank you. I also apologize if I misconstrued your comment. Let's move on. The problem with the internet, emails, texts, etc is that you can't always tell how a comment was meant like we do with verbal communication. When I said "now should I tell my wife (with an innocent whistling smiling face)" it was meant as a joke. I didn't mean it as keeping secrets from my wife. Maybe it didn't come across the way I intended it to. LOL

I am glad you are willing to move forward. The more I think about this- and why I responded in such an inappropriate way- finally dawned on me. The communication comments rest with me and me alone- it was an issue in my first marriage, and I projected it onto you and your situation. Again- very sorry.

 

[ArwenMarie]

Chiming in late, I think it was nice of you to decline the offer if you didn't think you needed that much space. Hopefully someone with a bigger party got to enjoy it all!

 

[PetePanMan]

Sorry- wish I could be more supportive, but I am a DH too and there is no way I would make a decision of this magnitude without consulting my DW and allowing her to have equal input in the decision. Happy anniversary BTW- I hope it's not your last...

Let's put things in perspective here. "Decision of this magnitude" "hope it's not your last" You're kidding, right????