Am I being evil...sigh

[krcit]

I feel so bad. My SIL just called and wanted to know if I could babysit her ds tomorrow b/c he just started throwing up and she has a comittment tomorrow. I kind of said no I have 3 kids and I do not want that running throughout my house. I said if she was really, really stuck I would do it. I feel terrible but I'm also remembering the virus/food poisoning I had a month ago and don't want to relive that anytime soon.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Is the commitment something she has to do? As in, is it something you could help her do? That way she can stay home and you can help out and not get sick.

 

[JessicaR]

I hear you! My nephew is in daycare and catches just about every illness that goes around. When he gets sick he cant go to daycare so I get called. I caught the worst stomach virus I ever had from him a few months ago. I also have two kids that I don't want catching these viruses either.

I hate saying no cause my sister is a single mom that has to go to work but UGH! its a difficult situation sometimes. My mom thinks that I am the go to person for the entire family since I dont work. God forbid I should ever say no.

I know how you feel but the throwing up thing is so different from the cold thing! I hope you dont have to do it.

 

[krcit]

It's jury duty.

 

[momof1princess]

a child who is home throwing up might be a valid excuse to get out of jury duty, if your SIL needs to be with him and your DB has to work. my DH has been excused before, b/c we were a single income family at the time, and he was scheduled to work. it really depends on the judge-some are more compassionate than others. and no, you're not evil-i wouldn't want anyone bringing sickness into my home, even my nephew, whom i love dearly.

 

[JUJU814]

It's jury duty.

She can get out of jury duty. You call first thing in the morning and explain you have a very sick kid and must reschedule. They'll easily reschedule and use an alternate.

BTDT in a busy Mass court

I'd stick with NO...puke is no fun.

 

[EMom]

Here, we are exempt from jury duty if we have a child under age 10 that is in our care. (not in daycare all day) We don't even have to show up. We just call and punch the appropriate button and are taken off the list. Has she checked to see if she's exempt?

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I would think/hope that a vomiting child would be a valid excuse for jury duty. When DSs were babies, I got out of JD twice because I was a SAHM and had literally no one to take care of them, because DH worked and we knew no one well enough to ask.

 

[krcit]

We're not exempt if you work-they figure if you have child care for your job, you can have it for jury duty. I told my DB that she should call-how can they argue if you have a vomiting child? I don't know what is happening. They might call my mom and then I'll really feel guilty. Ughh. I would take any other illness-flu,strep etc.

 

[JessicaR]

It would be considered an emergency and she can call and be excused. Is she in Suffolk?

 

[krcit]

Nassau. I would think she could call in the morning right?

 

[JessicaR]

Yep absolutely.

Absence/Emergency:
If an illness or emergency prevents you from reporting, please call our office at 571-2913 at 9:00 a.m., on the day you are to report. Your summons lists all of the radio and television stations that will alert you to court closings in case of inclement weather or you may visit www.cancellations.com for information about court closings.

 

[krcit]

THANK YOU jessica!!! I just texted her so hopefully it will work out.

 

[JessicaR]

I hope so too!

 

[bumbershoot]

She can get out of jury duty. You call first thing in the morning and explain you have a very sick kid and must reschedule. They'll easily reschedule and use an alternate.

BTDT in a busy Mass court

I'd stick with NO...puke is no fun.

Not to mention...if her kid has it, she might very well get it next, and she certainly doesn't want to make a whole jury ill!


I think "sick kid" is a different situation than "kid and mom has to work", because really, what daycares allow sick kids to come?

 

[lemondog]

Maybe it's just me, but I can't believe she would ask you to care for a vomiting child knowing you have 3 children of your own at home. I would NEVER knowingly expose other kids, family or not. Hopefully she'll be able to reschedule in the morning.

 

[acejka]

I don't think you are being evil. Just cautious.

I wouldn't want to expose my kid's to extra germs-I mean I know you can't avoid them all, but I'd try to avoid something like that if possible. And I wouldn't want to spend my day cleaning up someone else's kid's puke and possibly catch it myself.

Then again, I am emetophobic, and puke is huge fear for me.

 

[hereyago]

Maybe it's just me, but I can't believe she would ask you to care for a vomiting child knowing you have 3 children of your own at home. I would NEVER knowingly expose other kids, family or not. Hopefully she'll be able to reschedule in the morning.

Thank you, exactly!!

 

[daisyduck123]

Maybe it's just me, but I can't believe she would ask you to care for a vomiting child knowing you have 3 children of your own at home..

I can't believe it either. I don't care if she had jury duty, a doctor's appt, or what...she shouldn't have even put you in that position.

 

[quasar4legs]

My sister and I have called on each other for all sorts of last minute babysitting due to illness, work, cancer treatments, car accidents, sick parents etc.
At no time would either of us have asked the other to care for a child with a vomiting/stomach bug.

You have done the right thing in saying no.