Am I being a Worry Wart?

[TaraPA]

what if the 14 has hooked up with the ex-BF of the mom? Never know.

That instantly crossed my mind too but I didn't want to be the first to say it! If I had a 14-yr old daughter there would have to be some pretty extenuating(sp?) circumstances to send her to live with my EX boyfriend!

 

[Bluestars]

The biggest red flag to me is that the girl is living with her mother's ex boyfriend. In what alternate universe does this happen!? If the mother broke up with him, why in the world would she let her daughter move in with him? That is crazy.

I would have to pass on the birthday party for that reason alone. Who knows what is going on in that house.

 

[EthansMom]

Not only would I say "No!" but I'd say, "Heck No!"

 

[Rebelmom67]

I can't imagine any normal parent letting their kid go!!

 

[december]

Hard to say.

Ask yourself, "Am I overprotective? Am I a worry wart?" If you know you are and you know your husband loves his kids and wouldn't send them off to worse than death, let him go.

That's my advice. I think I'm normoprotective. My best friend is overprotective. She knows it. She consults her husband and I when she wonders if she's being overprotective or just plain normal. One time when her son was eleven - ELEVEN YEARS OLD and almost 12 - she wasn't sure if she should let him walk half a mile down to the basketball courts to play a game with friends.

If you read that and thought, "That would be me," at least consider what your husband tells you.

Ummmm.....my kid wouldn't go to this party, and no way in hell would my 11 yr old (who'll be 12 in July) walk 1/2 mile by himself to the basketball courts either! Maybe we live in different areas

 

[Rebelmom67]

Ummmm.....my kid wouldn't go to this party, and no way in hell would my 11 yr old (who'll be 12 in July) walk 1/2 mile by himself to the basketball courts either! Maybe we live in different areas

Same here and I don't consider myself "overprotective" at all, just normal and well grounded with a strong dose of common sense!!

 

[budmonster]

Thanks guys I feel a lot better about telling him No, I know it hurt his feelings because now all his friends will be talking about the party at school Tuesday. But I guess thats just me and I am who I am and he is just going to have to accept that. He's a great kids and it's not him that I don't trust, it's all these nut jobs out there who could care less about what there kids do. He's also not a leader, he a follower. that worries me because I think it will eventually get him in trouble or god forbid hurt. Well thank you so much for letting me know I did the right thing, I promised him I would take him to the arcade Monday since they are off school, he was happy with that.

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I always have a pic of my DD on this site, because she a disney fanatic like me, so I thought I share a picture of my DS 12 with you.

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[budmonster]

Ummmm.....my kid wouldn't go to this party, and no way in hell would my 11 yr old (who'll be 12 in July) walk 1/2 mile by himself to the basketball courts either! Maybe we live in different areas

I glad I wasn't the only one who felt this way.

 

[Rebelmom67]

Thanks guys I feel a lot better about telling him No, I know it hurt his feelings because now all his friends will be talking about the party at school Tuesday. But I guess thats just me and I am who I am and he is just going to have to accept that. He's a great kids and it's not him that I don't trust, it's all these nut jobs out there who could care less about what there kids do. He's also not a leader, he a follower. that worries me because I think it will eventually get him in trouble or god forbid hurt. Well thank you so much for letting me know I did the right thing, I promised him I would take him to the arcade Monday since they are off school, he was happy with that.

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I always have a pic of my DD on this site, because she a disney fanatic like me, so I thought I share a picture of my DS 12 with you.

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He is a very handsome boy!! I love his hair, it reminds me of my son's so much.

 

[budmonster]

He is a very handsome boy!! I love his hair, it reminds me of my son's so much.

Thank you, he is such a wonderful and lovable boy, all the little girls at his school love his hair too. He is just so shy around girls it's just to cute.

 

[Rebelmom67]

Thank you, he is such a wonderful and lovable boy, all the little girls at his school love his hair too. He is just so shy around girls it's just to cute.

LOL, mine is shy too! He lives and breathes X-Box Live right now and I'm thankful, girls can come later.

 

[Shelton123]

Sounds like she's trying to trick him into sex, if you ask me. I might know, cause I'm around that age. You say he's shy, so she'll think "she = pushover" which is almost never true. Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions too quickly, but it's a possibility.

 

[teacups]

Ummmm.....my kid wouldn't go to this party, and no way in hell would my 11 yr old (who'll be 12 in July) walk 1/2 mile by himself to the basketball courts either! Maybe we live in different areas

and I'm normo too.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Too many oddities and red flags. The party would be a no-go, but I would do something special for him.

You have a beautiful boy, Budmonster.

 

[wall*e2008]

Too many red flags for me. I would just RSVP back with a no.

 

[mjkacmom]

Ummmm.....my kid wouldn't go to this party, and no way in hell would my 11 yr old (who'll be 12 in July) walk 1/2 mile by himself to the basketball courts either! Maybe we live in different areas

There is NO way I'd let my child attend this party, but I let my ds10 and dd12 walk 1/2 mile in this town alone. Dd walks that far to and from school every day, with a gf, but I'd let her do it alone. I've lived in this town my entire life, and there have been 0 cases of child abduction, and we've had many conversations on safety. I think there has been 3 cases of murder here in the past 40 years, 1 a mob hit, 1 a spouse, and I can't recall the 3rd.

 

[december]

There is NO way I'd let my child attend this party, but I let my ds10 and dd12 walk 1/2 mile in this town alone. Dd walks that far to and from school every day, with a gf, but I'd let her do it alone. I've lived in this town my entire life, and there have been 0 cases of child abduction, and we've had many conversations on safety. I think there has been 3 cases of murder here in the past 40 years, 1 a mob hit, 1 a spouse, and I can't recall the 3rd.

That was my point. The post I quoted made it sound like anyone who wouldn't let their kid do this was overprotective. In my town, this would be insane. I'm glad others agreed. I don't consider myself overprotective at all! But I know my area, and you know yours. There are many factors at work when we make decisions for our kids.

If the op had said the older sister was living with her father, my response may have been different. But mama's ex boyfriend kinda changes the equation!

 

[MoniqueU]

I feel sorry for the girl because it doesn't sound like she will be having any guests at all.
I wouldn't let my children go either mainly because the lack of address.
Also I wouldnt let my 12 year old daughter walk to the park about a half a mile away mainly because of the crazy drivers around here, it just isnt safe.

 

[budmonster]

Too many oddities and red flags. The party would be a no-go, but I would do something special for him.

You have a beautiful boy, Budmonster.

Thank you, I would have to agree with that.

 

[budmonster]

Sounds like she's trying to trick him into sex, if you ask me. I might know, cause I'm around that age. You say he's shy, so she'll think "she = pushover" which is almost never true. Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions too quickly, but it's a possibility.

??? not sure what your talking about here.