Thanks for the replies, guys.
I appreciate all the suggestions-- they're getting me thinking now. (But y'all are still going to think I'm a whiny punk with all the stupid reasons I have for not getting out more.
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TinkerBell424 said:
My advice to you is find something that make's you happy but also requires interaction with other kids. Besides internet things.
Well, I have been trying to find for a Star Trek fanclub around here, but apparently with the Internet being a much more accessible and focused place to gather, there isn't any real need for fanclubs anymore. Especially not in little places like this, where there probably wouldn't be enough fans to make the effort. But I still may try to start one myself, sometime soon, if possible. I've also considered joining a book club; there are two held in our library system, one adult club at my library and a YA book club at the main branch. The adult one seems to be mostly older women and I dunno that I'd have anything in common with them, but the YA group might work better. Even though their books don't interest me as much, it'd prolly be worth it.
STOPxmicketime said:
But really, I know you said you weren't interested in this, but if you really want some company, go out there and find some!
Try having friends connect you with some of their friends, or maybe a sibling's friends or something.
And it might be a little scary, but you can always approach someone at the beach or pool, too.
Oh no, it's not that I'm uninterested-- I'm very, very interested in meeting people. It's the doing that I have trouble with.
This sounds really stupid, but I can't just get up and walk out of the house. First of all, I'd have to ask, and that would lead to one of two things: A) flat-out denial, or B) being told that we, the whole family, will go out at a later time. Sometimes this happens, sometimes it doesn't, but even when it does, family's presence = total inability to socialize. Really. It's impossible to do
anything while they're around, and they insist that we *need* do things together. I'm not at all sure why the emphasis on being 'together' all the time, but it makes things much harder than they should be. (And don't ask why-- That's the way it's always been and
I'm still confused.
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So if I had a choice, I'd be on the very next bus to someplace where people hang out. But I don't, so I can't. Hence the
Actually, I wouldn't know where I'd go, anyway. But I could ask you all where kids like to hang out these days, right?
The only local gathering that I know of is underneath the "No Loitering" sign at Taco Bell. And you'd think that they'd prefer the mall across the street, but no. Sure, the mall's tiny and sort of lame, but is a parking lot really that much better?
Princess_Dot]Last summer my best friend went to this intense summer long Musical Theatre programm for 8 weeks and I was left alone. I learned to cope. First, I got a job so that took up some of my time and then I volunteered at a local day camp. Between working and volunteering my time was filled. Also, I became closer with friends that I perviously was not as close with. Youd be surprised how fun people are once you give them a chance.
Give yourself some responsability like cleaning your room or walking your dog. And then reward youself when your done (like icecream or soemthing).
If you keep busy you probably wont realize that your lonely. Try a sport or other activity....who knows maybe youll meet new people you can hang out with.
That's why I like my job. Keeps me occupied for eight hours at a time, and I love having the responsibilities, even if they're a tad menial. (But really, we pages are like the grease keeping the library running-- where would they be if no books were shelved? Thinking like that keeps me upbeat.
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And like I said, getting out and about is sort of hard. I would be volunteering if I didn't have a full-time job, though. But I'm not sure about activities I can do... I am in orchestra most of the year, but then it's mostly about playing and there's not much interaction besides small talk between the people who aren't at the same school. There are a few pairs of friends and one group of kids who like to talk, and most of them in this group go to the same school and already know each other and can talk about school things, too. I do talk to people, but it's hard to work up any in-depth conversations when we only have fifteen minutes. I do have this one girl's , but she's never online. (That's the problem with most of my MSN contacts-- they're never online at the same time as me. A lot of the time it's from time zone conflicts. And then sometimes I just don't notice when they're online, so it's my own stupid fault.)
And about Internet contacts, I really am trying at that, but somehow I never seem to hit it off with people. There's one girl that I've been talking to for about two years (ILU, Andrie
) but on forums I'm invisible, don't have much to contribute, and feel uncomfortable jumping into places with lots of friends and groups and an established community. People are usually friendly and welcoming, but I'm still not sure. I am trying, though.
And again, thanks so much for replying. It does mean a lot to me. :]
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