alcoholics :(

[chell]

Okay - we must be the odd balls here.. We never serve alcoholic beverages at a child's birthday party - nor does anyone bring their own or expect it to be served..

The same for my family.

But you left a number of important "facts" out of your original post.

Maybe the OP didn't think that she would have to list every little detail. Maybe she just felt like getting a little something off her chest and didn't want to go into major details.

It is a very sad disease and is so hard on everyone involved. Unfortunately I've seen way too much of it in my lifetime already and I hope and pray I don't have to see any more of it.

 

[Disney Doll]

Am I the only one who thinks this "don't judge" mebtality is ridiculous?

The moment someone posts something slightly negative, someone has to say "don't judge". Well, guess what...we are all making judgements, all the time. need gas? You'r emaking a judgement as to whether to go to this gas station or the one down the street. See a bratty kid in a store...tell me you don't have a brief moment of thinking "My God that kid is a brat" before you think that maybe he is just tired or sick or having a bad day. Realistically people, we all judge.

As far as the OP is concerned...well, here I go. I will judge. People who have to sneak liquor into a children's birthday party and get sloshed have a drinking problem. That's a lot different than "well, we have birthday parties in my neighborhood for the kids, and the adults stay and may have a glass of wine or beer".

I am a social drinker. I have nothing against liquor or alcoholic drinks, and have been known to imbibe in a few myself at appropriate occasions. I would feel no need to sneak alcohol into a child's birthday party to spike my drink.

That's sad behavior.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

OMG!!!! we have this problem too! we had our DDs bday party last year and then the kids' parties this year and we DO NOT servel liquor at these parties, simply because they are kids parties....but needless to say, my not so DFIL ALWAYs manges to bring wine, no matter how much we don't want it there it just drives me crazy!

 

[azgal81]

OP don't believe everything you hear especially when you are hearing things second hand.

Personally I wouldn't bring my own liquour to a kids party but if I did that doesn't mean I was an alcholic.

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

OP I am not jumping on you, I am merely trying to enlighten you from someone who has been in the trenches first hand. If you want to be a support you need to get over your discomfort and sadness-as that will be of no help to anyone in the situation. Not all people have their lives ruined (your words not mine). I went through some tough times and I used to feel self pity, but in the long run I used those challenges with my mother to make myself a stronger person. And let me assure you that every single person on this planet is dealing with some sort of dysfunction in their family. All my friends thought I had the perfect family. As an adult that has dealt with many challenges and met many people with challenges I have not met a person yet that I would trade dysfunctions with. I will pray for this family and I'll pray that you can over come your discomfort and sadness.

Thanks for that! I understand where you are coming from, I too have had bad things happen in my family due to alcohol. That is why I chose to stay away from that type of environment. We live and learn.

Thanks for the prayers and I do hope I meant nothing more than to express the deep sadness for all that has this in their lives. to all.

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

The same for my family.



Maybe the OP didn't think that she would have to list every little detail. Maybe she just felt like getting a little something off her chest and didn't want to go into major details.

It is a very sad disease and is so hard on everyone involved. Unfortunately I've seen way too much of it in my lifetime already and I hope and pray I don't have to see any more of it.

You got what I was trying to say. I know sometimes I do not get my point across well.

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

Am I the only one who thinks this "don't judge" mebtality is ridiculous?

The moment someone posts something slightly negative, someone has to say "don't judge". Well, guess what...we are all making judgements, all the time. need gas? You'r emaking a judgement as to whether to go to this gas station or the one down the street. See a bratty kid in a store...tell me you don't have a brief moment of thinking "My God that kid is a brat" before you think that maybe he is just tired or sick or having a bad day. Realistically people, we all judge.

As far as the OP is concerned...well, here I go. I will judge. People who have to sneak liquor into a children's birthday party and get sloshed have a drinking problem. That's a lot different than "well, we have birthday parties in my neighborhood for the kids, and the adults stay and may have a glass of wine or beer".

I am a social drinker. I have nothing against liquor or alcoholic drinks, and have been known to imbibe in a few myself at appropriate occasions. I would feel no need to sneak alcohol into a child's birthday party to spike my drink.

That's sad behavior.

Yes your right on, we do all judge don't we. I was thinking hard about that word today and if I was being a witch about it. But I know what I saw and how I felt and everything inside me was cringing. Drinking was not right at this place at this time.

I even looked it up


Definitions of judging:


noun: the cognitive process of reaching a decision or drawing conclusions

I didn't draw conclusions by what I saw. I was told by the daughter, that they were alcoholics. She is 22 and sure as heck knows her parents. I didn't reach a decision on my own, although what I saw sure would of made me think that was probably the case and I guess that would of been considered judging. But isn't that what we are meant to do in order to decide on our choices in life?

Wow what a touchy subject. Words can be taken so many different ways. All I know is how I feel

 

[meandtheguys2]

Am I the only one who thinks this "don't judge" mebtality is ridiculous?

The moment someone posts something slightly negative, someone has to say "don't judge". Well, guess what...we are all making judgements, all the time. need gas? You'r emaking a judgement as to whether to go to this gas station or the one down the street. See a bratty kid in a store...tell me you don't have a brief moment of thinking "My God that kid is a brat" before you think that maybe he is just tired or sick or having a bad day. Realistically people, we all judge.

As far as the OP is concerned...well, here I go. I will judge. People who have to sneak liquor into a children's birthday party and get sloshed have a drinking problem. That's a lot different than "well, we have birthday parties in my neighborhood for the kids, and the adults stay and may have a glass of wine or beer".

I am a social drinker. I have nothing against liquor or alcoholic drinks, and have been known to imbibe in a few myself at appropriate occasions. I would feel no need to sneak alcohol into a child's birthday party to spike my drink.

That's sad behavior.

How about "don't give a medical diagnosis based on an incident." That is my definition of the judgement in this thread. It isn't a personal decision/judgement, but a diagnosis.

 

[JunieJay]

Am I the only one who thinks this "don't judge" mebtality is ridiculous?

The moment someone posts something slightly negative, someone has to say "don't judge". Well, guess what...we are all making judgements, all the time. need gas? You'r emaking a judgement as to whether to go to this gas station or the one down the street. See a bratty kid in a store...tell me you don't have a brief moment of thinking "My God that kid is a brat" before you think that maybe he is just tired or sick or having a bad day. Realistically people, we all judge.

As far as the OP is concerned...well, here I go. I will judge. People who have to sneak liquor into a children's birthday party and get sloshed have a drinking problem. That's a lot different than "well, we have birthday parties in my neighborhood for the kids, and the adults stay and may have a glass of wine or beer".

I am a social drinker. I have nothing against liquor or alcoholic drinks, and have been known to imbibe in a few myself at appropriate occasions. I would feel no need to sneak alcohol into a child's birthday party to spike my drink.

That's sad behavior.

Well said Disney Doll! I couldn't agree more.