alcoholics :(

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

We don't know it was snuck in. All we know is a grandmother offered her ex some out of her bottle.

I, personally, don't serve alcohol at children's parties because I'm concentrating on the children having a good time, but would have no problem with someone supplying their own. As long as there is a designated driver, that is.

She wasn't offering him any, she was showing it off. He had his own stash. You didnt see in on the tables anywhere, yet they were drunk, loud and drunk

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

She never mentioned that the people were sloshed. Just that they had a bottle and were adding it to their drinks. And that one woman's breath smelled of alcohol.

How does anybody know that the host did not provide the bottle of alcohol. The OP didn't say the grandmother was pulling it out of her purse - just that she waved it at the grandfather. Was she just asking the grandfather if he wanted some? And she just saw the grandfather "drinking something." What was he drinking?

It depends on what slant you want to take on the OP's post. All I read was somebody having a drink at a party.

I just think the OP was quite judgemental on one incident.

And - oh my gosh - they were drinking on a Sunday

She actually did pull it out of her purse and held it down under the table to fill her drink and then put it back in the purse.

The daughter did not bring liquor to be served, that alone says something.

 

[kdudley3]

All I know is that I'm glad that they served it at a party I attended at Chuckie Cheese !!!!

 

[ButchJohnson]

I drink, weekends only for me, but it can and does ruin people. One of my best friends is a severe alchy, drinks every day, all day, sneaks it at work, he's a mess and will probably die soon because of it.

Its also just annoying to be around people that can't handle their alcohol. I pride myself in the fact that my DW can't even tell when i'm drinking, because my personality doesn't change, but it turns some people into maniacs. Some get mean, others just get obnoxious.

 

[Maleficent13]

They ARE alcoholics. It is no doubt. Not because they were drinking that day, because I know they are from their daughter who was raised by her Aunt because of it.

You left this out of the OP and left us to draw our own conclusions. My conclusion was (and still is) that drinking at a party does not an alcoholic make. Even if it's brought in by someone other than the host.

 

[lillygator]

All I know is that I'm glad that they served it at a party I attended at Chuckie Cheese !!!!

 

[CEDmom]

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a drink at a kids party and doing so doesn't make one an alcoholic. However, I don't think it's the place to over do it.

Most people who do drink socially have done so in front of their children.

 

[Jpgirl]

I would be very very careful about making judgements OP. Glass houses and all. I am the daughter of an alcoholic who literally died of liver disease on top of breast cancer and heart disease. She drank all of her life and if she had been at that party you would've NEVER pegged her as an alcoholic. She never drank during the day nor would she have EVER served alcohol at a children's party, but an alcoholic she was and she never appeared drunk in public. Her friends never knew. If you had such a problem with it, you should of left. If the duaghter had a problem, she shouldn't have invited her. After all these years I've learned 2 things: 1) The family memebers often become more sick emotionally because of the alcoholic and 2)This is a very wretched disease, and like any disease, the person who has it can no more help having it than a cancer patient. This is not a matter of controlling or wanting to control the desire to drink, it's a disease that stems from an addiction. So please don't be so judgmental of the alcoholic or their family. It's a lonely road for us children of alcoholics because of people who are sooo judgemental and it's very hard for some people to seek help because of people's judgement. You would never be judgemental if someone was fighting cancer and didn't look or act like you think they should. These people may very well be alcoholics but it's not your place to judge them. Try to be supportive to the friend who is their daughter and not gossip and judge.

 

[kribit]

YIKES...we had a luau/pool party for my kids party last year and we had wine and beer for the adults. No one at the party joined AA the next day.

 

[Dr.Snark]

I would be very very careful about making judgements OP. Glass houses and all. I am the daughter of an alcoholic who literally died of liver disease on top of breast cancer and heart disease. She drank all of her life and if she had been at that party you would've NEVER pegged her as an alcoholic. She never drank during the day nor would she have EVER served alcohol at a children's party, but an alcoholic she was and she never appeared drunk in public. Her friends never knew. If you had such a problem with it, you should of left. If the duaghter had a problem, she shouldn't have invited her. After all these years I've learned 2 things: 1) The family memebers often become more sick emotionally because of the alcoholic and 2)This is a very wretched disease, and like any disease, the person who has it can no more help having it than a cancer patient. This is not a matter of controlling or wanting to control the desire to drink, it's a disease that stems from an addiction. So please don't be so judgmental of the alcoholic or their family. It's a lonely road for us children of alcoholics because of people who are sooo judgemental and it's very hard for some people to seek help because of people's judgement. You would never be judgemental if someone was fighting cancer and didn't look or act like you think they should. These people may very well be alcoholics but it's not your place to judge them. Try to be supportive to the friend who is their daughter and not gossip and judge.

Best post of the day

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

You left this out of the OP and left us to draw our own conclusions. My conclusion was (and still is) that drinking at a party does not an alcoholic make. Even if it's brought in by someone other than the host.

Sorry, I thought this was in the OP. I edited that.

 

[Mrs Quackmore Duck]

I would be very very careful about making judgements OP. Glass houses and all. I am the daughter of an alcoholic who literally died of liver disease on top of breast cancer and heart disease. She drank all of her life and if she had been at that party you would've NEVER pegged her as an alcoholic. She never drank during the day nor would she have EVER served alcohol at a children's party, but an alcoholic she was and she never appeared drunk in public. Her friends never knew. If you had such a problem with it, you should of left. If the duaghter had a problem, she shouldn't have invited her. After all these years I've learned 2 things: 1) The family memebers often become more sick emotionally because of the alcoholic and 2)This is a very wretched disease, and like any disease, the person who has it can no more help having it than a cancer patient. This is not a matter of controlling or wanting to control the desire to drink, it's a disease that stems from an addiction. So please don't be so judgmental of the alcoholic or their family. It's a lonely road for us children of alcoholics because of people who are sooo judgemental and it's very hard for some people to seek help because of people's judgement. You would never be judgemental if someone was fighting cancer and didn't look or act like you think they should. These people may very well be alcoholics but it's not your place to judge them. Try to be supportive to the friend who is their daughter and not gossip and judge.

This is not gossip or judging. It is a fact of what alcoholism does to families, how it hurts people. The girl was raised by her aunt because of it. I have seen people die of it too! My point is how sad it was and how uncomfortible I was due to seeing it. There is judging and there is facts. I stated facts. Please don't jump on me. I would help anyone that wanted my help, as you know, most of them don't want it.

 

[drgnfly30]

Best post of the day

Ditto!

 

[inaminute]

I stated facts.

But you left a number of important "facts" out of your original post.

 

[lillygator]

But you left a number of important "facts" out of your original post.

exactly and if you were so uncomfortable with what was "going on" why stay?

 

[MagicalMom]

Okay - we must be the odd balls here.. We never serve alcoholic beverages at a child's birthday party - nor does anyone bring their own or expect it to be served..

Same here. I've never seen alcohol at a child'sparty before.

 

[bjgrazi]

Same here. I've never seen alcohol at a child'sparty before.

I think some people define childrens party differently.

It could be a party for a child that the adults are also invited or it could be a childs only party where the adults drop off and pick up.

I have a family that no matter what the occasion is, there is wine, beer, mixed drinks. It's just the way it is. Doesn't make it wrong or right.

 

[cybrkitn]

Okay - we must be the odd balls here.. We never serve alcoholic beverages at a child's birthday party - nor does anyone bring their own or expect it to be served..

Nope, you're not the only one. Prior to last weekend where DS4 attended a bday party for one of his classmates, I had never seen alcohol served either. I was a little shocked at first when I saw it, but the adults who were drinking it were very responsible and no one had too much. Me, I just drank a can of iced tea then had water.

 

[Jpgirl]

OP I am not jumping on you, I am merely trying to enlighten you from someone who has been in the trenches first hand. If you want to be a support you need to get over your discomfort and sadness-as that will be of no help to anyone in the situation. Not all people have their lives ruined (your words not mine). I went through some tough times and I used to feel self pity, but in the long run I used those challenges with my mother to make myself a stronger person. And let me assure you that every single person on this planet is dealing with some sort of dysfunction in their family. All my friends thought I had the perfect family. As an adult that has dealt with many challenges and met many people with challenges I have not met a person yet that I would trade dysfunctions with. I will pray for this family and I'll pray that you can over come your discomfort and sadness.

 

[lg3]

I think some people define childrens party differently.
It could be a party for a child that the adults are also invited or it could be a childs only party where the adults drop off and pick up.
I have a family that no matter what the occasion is, there is wine, beer, mixed drinks. It's just the way it is. Doesn't make it wrong or right.

Right with you here.