Ahhhh, possible Disney trip could be ruined

[yeaitspootie]

Okay, I'm planning to go to Disney World with my friend (18) and I told my parents that i was gonna plan one, and i guess they didn't believe me, cause when I told them that we had everything ready to go, they were a little stunned. Okay, I'm a 17 year old boy and she's an 18 year old girl, and we're planning to drive 10 hours and spend 3 nights alone and miss 2 days of school. I know that sounds EXTREMELY outraguous, but I really wanna go. I just wanted to ask ya'll to pray for me that I'm able to go. BTW I'm somewhat of a Disney buff and she's been once when she was 10 and didn't ride anything, so I'm gonna really enjoy introducing her to everything. So pray for me, hahaha!!

 

[XxStaceFacexX]

Okay, I'm planning to go to Disney World with my friend (18) and I told my parents that i was gonna plan one, and i guess they didn't believe me, cause when I told them that we had everything ready to go, they were a little stunned. Okay, I'm a 17 year old boy and she's an 18 year old girl, and we're planning to drive 10 hours and spend 3 nights alone and miss 2 days of school. I know that sounds EXTREMELY outraguous, but I really wanna go. I just wanted to ask ya'll to pray for me that I'm able to go. BTW I'm somewhat of a Disney buff and she's been once when she was 10 and didn't ride anything, so I'm gonna really enjoy introducing her to everything. So pray for me, hahaha!!

I will cross my fingers for you! When do you plan on going?

 

[wdwguide]

Good luck! You should probably book hotel rooms, etc. in her name, since they sometimes require guests to be 18+. If your parents and/or the school are giving you any trouble, I'd suggest waiting until a school break - that makes life much easier.
My wife and I did pretty much the same thing when we were 19, and had a great time.

 

[DeterminedOne]

You sound like a very independent young man and I hope you get to go. Let us know.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

You are 17--you are a minor. Your parents are 100% responsible for your care and well being until you are 18. They are also responsible for making sure you attend school--in some districts parents can be put in jail if their child has unexcused absences. You live under their roof, and they take care of you financially--you live with their rules. If they tell you you can't go, then the mature thing to do is to respect their decision and wait until you are 18 AND living on your own, AND completely supporting yourself to do things they don't agree with. Unless you turn 17 today, that is less than a year to wait. Learning to delay gratification is a sign of responsibility and maturity. Disney will still be there--not sure if the girl will, but another one will come along.

I won't even go into the moral aspects of a 3 night hotel stay with a member of the opposite sex and the possible future complications of that. Yes, it seems fun and cute now to play "grown up" and get a hotel and go on a vacation and all that, but you aren't grown up. And when you do grow up you will find out that you can't just "skip" work (right now school is your work) for a few days because you REALLY want to go and have fun instead of living up to your responsibilities as a man. Perhaps your parents are trying to teach you this valuable lesson.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

Cancel your plans, stay in school and after you graduate go to college or get a job. Go to Disney with your family (current or future) or after you are completely self sufficient. I waited 33 years for my first trip to WDW (and whined and cried and schemed for years before that to try to get to go). Sharing my "first time" with my husband and 2 children was WAY more gratifying than a "quickie" trip with just anybody would have been. And it sounds likely you have been before so it isn't your "first time". You can wait.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

 

[pyrxtc]

If your parents will let you then I say go! I also waitied years before my first trip but if I could have gone soonere I would have jumped at the chance. If your parents say no, then when you are 18, go! You are your parents responsibility but if they trust you enogh and you then it shouldn't be too much of a problem. Maybe you can get two of your friends to go too so your parents have more fo a chance to let you go.

 

[Mortlives]

I'm not sure why you planned to miss school? You had to think your parents might balk at that. Perhaps if you try rearranging your trip to coincide with a school holiday you'll have an easier time convincing your folks?

 

[FigNewton]

Don't chastise the kid. Did he says he was going to go regardless of what his parents said? No! He said his parents were stunned that they actually did the planning, and that the trip might be ruined.

That sounds to me like he isn't planning on breaking the rules, and he isn't planning on going if they flat out say forget it.

No one is encouraging him to break the rules, just giving him best wishes on being allowed to go. And please, no lectures on responsibility and maturity due to missing school. People on here encourage others to take kids out of school for a disney vacation all the time, many times even though they will incur unexcused abscences for an entire week, mcuh less the two days he's going to miss. If the parents say it's ok, there is absolutely NO DIFFERENCE. And I remind you again, that every indication is that he isn't going without his parents approval.

 

[DVCLiz]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

You are 17--you are a minor. Your parents are 100% responsible for your care and well being until you are 18. They are also responsible for making sure you attend school--in some districts parents can be put in jail if their child has unexcused absences. You live under their roof, and they take care of you financially--you live with their rules. If they tell you you can't go, then the mature thing to do is to respect their decision and wait until you are 18 AND living on your own, AND completely supporting yourself to do things they don't agree with. Unless you turn 17 today, that is less than a year to wait. Learning to delay gratification is a sign of responsibility and maturity. Disney will still be there--not sure if the girl will, but another one will come along.

I won't even go into the moral aspects of a 3 night hotel stay with a member of the opposite sex and the possible future complications of that. Yes, it seems fun and cute now to play "grown up" and get a hotel and go on a vacation and all that, but you aren't grown up. And when you do grow up you will find out that you can't just "skip" work (right now school is your work) for a few days because you REALLY want to go and have fun instead of living up to your responsibilities as a man. Perhaps your parents are trying to teach you this valuable lesson.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

Cancel your plans, stay in school and after you graduate go to college or get a job. Go to Disney with your family (current or future) or after you are completely self sufficient. I waited 33 years for my first trip to WDW (and whined and cried and schemed for years before that to try to get to go). Sharing my "first time" with my husband and 2 children was WAY more gratifying than a "quickie" trip with just anybody would have been. And it sounds likely you have been before so it isn't your "first time". You can wait.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

Good Lord, the only thing you left out was to remind him how much money he'd have at retirement if he took that Disney cash and put it in his (future) 401k!!!

He didn't say he was in a sexual relationship with this girl - they might just be friends. And he did say he had talked about this with his parents. Sounds to me like the parents blew it off and now realize they should have taken it seriously.

Skipping work for a few days is called taking annual leave in the real world. And whining and crying and screaming for years doesn't exactly paint you as the person most likely to have her advice followed.

 

[CinRell]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

You are 17--you are a minor. Your parents are 100% responsible for your care and well being until you are 18. They are also responsible for making sure you attend school--in some districts parents can be put in jail if their child has unexcused absences. You live under their roof, and they take care of you financially--you live with their rules. If they tell you you can't go, then the mature thing to do is to respect their decision and wait until you are 18 AND living on your own, AND completely supporting yourself to do things they don't agree with. Unless you turn 17 today, that is less than a year to wait. Learning to delay gratification is a sign of responsibility and maturity. Disney will still be there--not sure if the girl will, but another one will come along.

I won't even go into the moral aspects of a 3 night hotel stay with a member of the opposite sex and the possible future complications of that. Yes, it seems fun and cute now to play "grown up" and get a hotel and go on a vacation and all that, but you aren't grown up. And when you do grow up you will find out that you can't just "skip" work (right now school is your work) for a few days because you REALLY want to go and have fun instead of living up to your responsibilities as a man. Perhaps your parents are trying to teach you this valuable lesson.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

Cancel your plans, stay in school and after you graduate go to college or get a job. Go to Disney with your family (current or future) or after you are completely self sufficient. I waited 33 years for my first trip to WDW (and whined and cried and schemed for years before that to try to get to go). Sharing my "first time" with my husband and 2 children was WAY more gratifying than a "quickie" trip with just anybody would have been. And it sounds likely you have been before so it isn't your "first time". You can wait.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

Actually I couldn't agree with you more!

 

[dwkwootton]

OP ~ just in case you might follow through with your plans without your parents' permission, save yourself a couple tanks of gas. Disney will not allow you to stay on site without a notarized permission slip from your parent(s). I do not know what, if any, rulings other hotel chains have.

 

[Madi100]

Good luck on getting to go. Although if my seventeen year old came and asked me if she could go to WDW with someone of the opposite sex and miss school, I'd probably say no, too. Does your family have a trip planned to WDW that you could take her along, too? Maybe your parents seemed shocked because the idea was so far from being allowed that they knew you had to be joking.

 

[TSR6]

Just remember: Don't be a fool, cover your tool.

 

[debbi801]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

No flames here. I agree with you 100%. As a mom to 1 teenager and another soon to be one (plus a preschooler), I would be more than a little ticked to find out my teen was planning a trip like this.

 

[Twinprincesses]

I think it all depends on the maturity level, however I know at the age of 17 my parents would not let me travel in a car for 10 hours without them.

 

[Stitch65]

Don't chastise the kid. Did he says he was going to go regardless of what his parents said? No! He said his parents were stunned that they actually did the planning, and that the trip might be ruined.

That sounds to me like he isn't planning on breaking the rules, and he isn't planning on going if they flat out say forget it.

No one is encouraging him to break the rules, just giving him best wishes on being allowed to go. And please, no lectures on responsibility and maturity due to missing school. People on here encourage others to take kids out of school for a disney vacation all the time, many times even though they will incur unexcused abscences for an entire week, mcuh less the two days he's going to miss. If the parents say it's ok, there is absolutely NO DIFFERENCE. And I remind you again, that every indication is that he isn't going without his parents approval.

I agree. He was simply asking for good wishes that his parents say "yes". He sounds like a pretty good kid. As a high school teacher, I'd have to say I'm impressed he's even on a site like this asking for tips, etc. I see numerous kids going to daytona beach for spring break without their parents and I'd hate to see what goes on during that week. Since when is spring break for high school students? but I digress...

 

[DisDarling]

Well, I guess I get to post a dissenting opinion so I will don my flame proof suit.

You are 17--you are a minor. Your parents are 100% responsible for your care and well being until you are 18. They are also responsible for making sure you attend school--in some districts parents can be put in jail if their child has unexcused absences. You live under their roof, and they take care of you financially--you live with their rules. If they tell you you can't go, then the mature thing to do is to respect their decision and wait until you are 18 AND living on your own, AND completely supporting yourself to do things they don't agree with. Unless you turn 17 today, that is less than a year to wait. Learning to delay gratification is a sign of responsibility and maturity. Disney will still be there--not sure if the girl will, but another one will come along.

I won't even go into the moral aspects of a 3 night hotel stay with a member of the opposite sex and the possible future complications of that. Yes, it seems fun and cute now to play "grown up" and get a hotel and go on a vacation and all that, but you aren't grown up. And when you do grow up you will find out that you can't just "skip" work (right now school is your work) for a few days because you REALLY want to go and have fun instead of living up to your responsibilities as a man. Perhaps your parents are trying to teach you this valuable lesson.

As a parent I would be really angry to find out that total strangers are encouraging my minor child to disobey my household rules. In fact, in my home, it would result in loss of all computer privileges for that child at the very least.

Cancel your plans, stay in school and after you graduate go to college or get a job. Go to Disney with your family (current or future) or after you are completely self sufficient. I waited 33 years for my first trip to WDW (and whined and cried and schemed for years before that to try to get to go). Sharing my "first time" with my husband and 2 children was WAY more gratifying than a "quickie" trip with just anybody would have been. And it sounds likely you have been before so it isn't your "first time". You can wait.

That is the sign of a true man worthy of his parents trust and respect.

I couldnt agree with you more!!!
D.D.

 

[abe_bb]

As much as I would like to agree with the "stay in school you fool" (being a parent myself)... I gotta say the best of luck to ya.

If your parents give you the go ahead, do it. You'll have the best time in your life.

Just don't risk flunking classes for it. And don't bring home any "souveniers".

As for would I let my child do this? If she was a responsible 17 year old who had good grades and was never in trouble, sure, I would let her. I would demand she carry her cell phoen and call every night, but I don't see a problem with it.

And for a point of perspective - When I was that age 99% of my friends were female. There was a group of 13 of us that hung out regularly, went camping, went to hotels, etc. 2 guys, 11 girls. We had a blast, and no we weren't "active". My parents didn't care because they KNEW ever single person. And they trusted me, and all the other people.

And if his parents trust him, and know this girl, then what's the problem?

 

[CarolMN]

You need to be at least 18 to check into a Disney hotel. Better make sure your traveling companion has a valid Driver's License or state ID.

FWIW, no way would my 17 year old child be allowed to go on such a trip. I did allow (and pay for) her to go at 19 with a girlfriend who had just turned 18. They flew, used a towncar service for tranport between the airport and Disney and had a great time. Neither missed any school or skipped out on work to go.

I think you should postpone your trip until you are at least 18, assuming your parents are OK with it then.

Best wishes -

 

[memymomonica]

Ok, maybe I look at this a little differently. My hubby is a Marine, I live on a Marine base. My point, I am surrounded by 17 and 18 year old men and women. I am amazed that these kids are responsible enough to be in charge of multi-million dollar equipment not to mention people's lives. Yet, this 17 year old is deemed irresponsible. Age does not matter. I hope he is able to go, of course, with his parents' blessing. I think we expect our kids to act responsibly, but we don't trust them to actually do it. To be a man, he needs to learn to do things on his own. This could be a great learning experience. Best of Luck to you.