As I said earlier...I, at the age of 16yo, paid for EVERYTHING...my car note of $200, my insurance of $40 per month, my gas, my food, my clothes, my track & field fees, my theater fees...and by 18, my college (at a private school), my textbooks, housing...If that sounds about like everything, it's cause it was. I am in no way putting all that on her but simply trying to figure out what is acceptable, normal, right, appropriate for a kid her age who is making at least $800 month after taxes, to be paying.
If you read my OP, I say, this is new, unchartered territory for us. I was really asking about month to month expenses and NOT so much the Disney ticket. I wish I'd never put that in the post cause that seemed to be everyone's focus when that only even became a thought, because I know people who expect their teens, again, younger than mine, to buy their own tickets. So, I was simply trying to get a feel for what others expect/have their teen paying. There was no trying to get her to have 'skin' in our family vacation
And these are not expenses she all of sudden began paying at 18. She's paid for her phone since 16yo and her car insurance since she got her license at 17.
She is awesome and doing great in school. Her illness has has cost us about 25k OOP, per year, the last three years. Not her fault and we'd pay that money a hundred times over. However, finances have been tight and so asking her to help cover additional expenses, that I think many kids cover, isn't the end of the world. Not when she easily has the money.