Addressing Envelopes; What do you think this means?

[HighClass]

 

[lovetonap]

Wow, call me old fashioned, but I would definitely use Dr. and Mrs., just as a sign of respect. My neighbor is a good friend and is an MD, and I always address cards, etc as Mr. John smith and Dr. Jane Jones Smith. My brother is a retired Colonel in the Marines, and since he risked his butt in Vietnam, I address his mail as Col.

I agree. I always use an official title on envelopes of any correspondence. I guess I'm old-fashioned too (even though I'm only in my 30s ). It is just proper etiquette IMO. I don't think that many people are even aware of that though.

 

[Disney Doll]

Detective Disney Doll. I like that. It has a nice ring to it.

Friday, June 5. It was cold in Los Angeles. We were working the day watch out of robbery division. My partner's Ben Romero. The boss is Ed Backstrand, chief of detectives. My name's Detective Disney Doll.



Thanks to your dad & all of the other hard working police officers who risk their lives to keep people safe.

I agree with the thanking of all police officers.

Funny you should make me into a detective, because I always wanted to be a police officer, but let's just say that my father was VERY MUCH SO against that. So I became a nurse. Got a job in a city hospital where I frequently cared for inmates form the local jail who threw themselves on the floor in an effort to get themselves taken out of jail to spend a couple of comfortable days in the hospital...hospital food and bedding being ultimately better than that which you would find in jail. I can recall saying to my father "Great idea Dad for me not to become a cop because I would encounter unsavory people. Problem is, I am encountering those same people as a nurse, except I am not armed". He was not amused.

 

[disykat]

Greeting card etiquette-toward the bottom of the article.

This post actually addresses the etiquette of the issue of the few jobs that were assigned formal titles. To bad it's obvious no one is reading it.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I think it means you probably don't like her much and are looking for reasons to think she doesn't like your DH if you are paying enough attention to the way mail is addressed to see this as a trend.
Seriously, I haven't the foggiest notion of how anyone addresses our Christmas cards to us, or the last letter I got etc. It registers in my brain just long enough for me to see who the item is for (me, entire family, only adults) and then I don't think about it again. Do other people really obsess over this stuff I can't imagine caring if someone I loved put Mrs. or Ms. or Hadley or whatever on the envelope. I would just be happy to be getting mail from them.

As to what it means about your DSiL--probably (as many others have said) it probably means she is thinking of her brother as a person she loves and not as a doctor.
Finally, I have to say I really do not see how your brother in law's comments about YOUR Cadillac relate to how his WIFE addresses envelopes to her brother. Think about how silly it would be for her to say "Well Dawn said X to DH so that must be why my brother did Y totally unrelated thing weeks later to me." I do, however, agree it was a rude comment to make.

On a related note, we used to live in a small town. We had an amazing family doctor who was on call 24/7, gave out his home phone number, etc. We also ran into him socially in town pretty often. The first time we called him Dr. So-so socially he politely asked us to call him by his first name and the kids to use Mr. So-so or his first name (whatever they were comfortable with). He explained that while he is available ALWAYS as a doctor, if that is not what he is doing he'd rather just be a person in everyone's eyes at that moment and forget about work for a few minutes. I thought that was a pretty cool outlook (but it was hard not to call him Dr when I was used to doing so)

 

[NHdisneylover]

This post actually addresses the etiquette of the issue of the few jobs that were assigned formal titles. To bad it's obvious no one is reading it.

This article also recomends the terribly old fashioned thing of saying the address should always be the husband's full name and then the the wife is just Mrs. Husband--as if she is meerly an extension of her husband (as was essentially the thought process back when these rules were created). I really don't mind being "Mrs. David NHDisneylover" but I know many women and men are are very bothered by this (I always assume when I receive mail addressed like this it is from someone who is very into doing things the "proper" way and hasn't stopped to think about how it devalues a person. If I notice at all--again I tend to just be happy to have mail that isn't a bill). Maybe people aren't reading it because rules of etiquette which really don't work with modern sensibilites need to be changed

 

[DawnCt1]

OT

Dawn, how do you like Bean's "healthy bag"?

I really like it. I bought it originally to take on vacation. I figured it would be a good place to stuff things on a plane, etc. That was 7 years ago. Since then I bought another, tan canvas, and found a blue one at the LL Bean outlet. I end up using it every day. When it gets dirty, I spot clean it, and a couple of times I have thrown it in the machine and ironed it. Someday, I may get a real purse.

 

[momrek06]

I really like it. I bought it originally to take on vacation. I figured it would be a good place to stuff things on a plane, etc. That was 7 years ago. Since then I bought another, tan canvas, and found a blue one at the LL Bean outlet. I end up using it every day. When it gets dirty, I spot clean it, and a couple of times I have thrown it in the machine and ironed it. Someday, I may get a real purse.

Thanks, Dawn...I have a Bean gift card from Mother's Day and was really liking the look and style of their "healthy bag"!!!

 

[sbell111]

I can't imagine why anyone would take the amount of time thinking about this issue that it would take to get upset by it. Then again, I call my doctor Jim, Our vets Bob and Jim and our priest Ed.

I have my MBA. Please refer to me as Master from here on out.

 

[C.Ann]

This post actually addresses the etiquette of the issue of the few jobs that were assigned formal titles. To bad it's obvious no one is reading it.

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However, it did not address assigned formal titles when the recipient is a close family relative.. I have a nephew who is a research doctor at a high profile hospital (many, many published articles and awards) who would never, ever expect a card or invitation from a family member be addressed to "Dr. So and So"..

Personally, I think it's making a mountain out of a mole hill.. (And I still haven't figured out where the Cadillac has anything to do with the invitation.. It was the husband that made the "snide" remark about the car - and presumably the wife who was guilty of not using the "title" on the invitation..) Color me confused..

 

[Aisling]

Maybe because you are family? My son is a doctor and I never thought to put that on the envelope when I mail him stuff. Hmmm, hope he doesn't think it means anything.

I think the same thing. My FIL is a medical doctor and when I send my inlaws cards, etc, I just put Mr. and Mrs. because they're family.

 

[Va-bear]

My dads best friend was a doctor and he awalys told us 'call me Mr. Turner, not Dr. Turner, you are my friend, not my patient!"


And, now I'm worried, as I have taught my kids to call my doctor friends "Mr" or "Mrs" except the ones who I work with (profession vs. personnal). Ack.

 

[DawnCt1]

I'm confused . Didn't you just buy a new cadillac-that was an exact duplicate of your old cadillac? Sounds as if he never saw your old one?

(Honestly-Doctor's wives around here drive Mercedes and BMW's. )

I am being patriotic and doing my part for Government Motors!

 

[DawnCt1]

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However, it did not address assigned formal titles when the recipient is a close family relative.. I have a nephew who is a research doctor at a high profile hospital (many, many published articles and awards) who would never, ever expect a card or invitation from a family member be addressed to "Dr. So and So"..

Personally, I think it's making a mountain out of a mole hill.. (And I still haven't figured out where the Cadillac has anything to do with the invitation.. It was the husband that made the "snide" remark about the car - and presumably the wife who was guilty of not using the "title" on the invitation..) Color me confused..

There are no separate rules for addressing envelopes to "close family relatives". It is what it is. I am not sure why I am accused of "making a mountain out of a mole hill since I said in the beginning, it was something that I was merely wondering about and would never, ever bring it to their attention. The husband has a habit of being snide to everyone. It is his personality. For all I know, he could have addressed the envelopes. :

 

[C.Ann]

There are no separate rules for addressing envelopes to "close family relatives". It is what it is. I am not sure why I am accused of "making a mountain out of a mole hill since I said in the beginning, it was something that I was merely wondering about and would never, ever bring it to their attention. The husband has a habit of being snide to everyone. It is his personality. For all I know, he could have addressed the envelopes. :

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In "my" world there are definitely "separate rules" for addressing envelopes to "close family relatives" - and those are the rules that "my" family choose to follow.. Obviously you have different rules - and expect them to be followed by everyone.. Certainly your perogative..

I'm not "accusing" you of making a mountain out of a molehill - I'm saying if it were me I would feel as though I were making a mountain out of a mole hill..

And I still don't understand what the husband and the car has to do with the question of how the invitation "should" have been addressed..

 

[Aisling]

I am being patriotic and doing my part for Government Motors!

 

[DawnCt1]

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In "my" world there are definitely "separate rules" for addressing envelopes to "close family relatives" - and those are the rules that "my" family choose to follow.. Obviously you have different rules - and expect them to be followed by everyone.. Certainly your perogative..

I'm not "accusing" you of making a mountain out of a molehill - I'm saying if it were me I would feel as though I were making a mountain out of a mole hill..

And I still don't understand what the husband and the car has to do with the question of how the invitation "should" have been addressed..

The husband has a history of "snarky" behavior with everyone. "Everyone at work is incompetent except him. No one's landscaping is as good as his", etc. Just ask him and he will tell you. I was speculating if it could be another snarky thing.

 

[sbell111]

I am being patriotic and doing my part for Government Motors!

Those that said she could avoid political posts owe me a buck.