Adam and Katies 10/2/2010 SBP/Attic/?? ~ brainstorming!

[teddygurl28]

i have slight concern for you ..mainly because of where we live...everything is outrageously priced here....when my brother got married last year my bridesmaid dress had to have the halter part taken in (think when you tie the top of a halter dress behind your neck..) that part had like 1/2inch on each side...and it cost me $60....another bridesmaid cost almost $200 for that and a hem

because you mention having beading reworked i would call just to find out...you have plenty of time to call alot of places and im sure you can find a place who can do it for a reasonable price..but if for some off chance you cant, its better to know now....

 

[figment fan21]

I'm sure the dress alternations won't cost more than the dress! And congrats on losing the weight! (And for DF noticing )

Thanks Sam! It felt so good having him tell me that! I think thats been one of the first times i've gone to the beach and WASN'T worried about how i looked... it was awesome!

i have slight concern for you ..mainly because of where we live...everything is outrageously priced here....when my brother got married last year my bridesmaid dress had to have the halter part taken in (think when you tie the top of a halter dress behind your neck..) that part had like 1/2inch on each side...and it cost me $60....another bridesmaid cost almost $200 for that and a hem

because you mention having beading reworked i would call just to find out...you have plenty of time to call alot of places and im sure you can find a place who can do it for a reasonable price..but if for some off chance you cant, its better to know now....

Thats exactly what i'm afraid of. Why do we have to live around here? I mean I only spent 300$ on the dress so to pay another 300$ or more just seems stupid. The beadwork is whats scaring me AND the way the bottom of the dress is... i wont know how they'd hem it easily.

See how the train has all those "poofs" in it?? (i dont know what you'd call them so i call them poofs) How are they going to hem it so that there isn't an issue with the poofs? There is also bead work on the train

And then all this beadwork around the waist...

I'm really hoping it won't cost more than 300$

 

[polynesianbride]

I would take it to a few places and just get some estimates so you have a better idea what you're dealing with Even if it costs you I think it would definately be worth it to get it altered... you got such an awesome deal on the dress so even with a hefty alteration price you'll still probably be paying less total than what the dress is worth- and it's just gorgeous! Let us know what you find out!

 

[figment fan21]

Ya know waht? You're right Adelia! After seeing your post on here i googled that website i had found a while ago that had this brides pictures of her wedding and she had the same dress as me. After seeing how good it looks once its altered I got this feeling in my heart that i still NEED this dress!

here is the link so you girls can see what it'll look like once it's actually MY size!

http://www.projectwedding.com/biography/list/JustAnothrBridezilla
I got alot of numbers of places in the area and i'm going to start calling when i get outta work. I really love my dress and i want to keep it!

 

[teddygurl28]

thats what i was going to say lol....bring it in...have some people look at it....think about it ... what would another wedding dress cost...on top of that new dress it would still require alterations......
...so even if you have slightly pricey alterations you are still making out in the deal... (unless they are asking for your first born or something rediculous like that)

 

[MainStMandy]

YAY!! I really love your dress...I am glad you are going to figure out a way to get it altered!!

 

[malibustacey]

ah haaa result!! You can get it altered!!! your dress is LUSH!!!!! is it silk!?

 

[figment fan21]

ah haaa result!! You can get it altered!!! your dress is LUSH!!!!! is it silk!?

hahaha stacey you crack me up! Its not silk its Taffetta (i think) Its so pretty and I in love with it... its just so hard to invision it on me fitting the right way! Thats why i love looking at this brides pictures, it helps me visualize how it'll look on me.

 

[figment fan21]

Well girls, i've had an epiphany...

I'm done... thats it... i'm just done! Apparently there has been more negative talk from certain people about DF and I's wedding plans and ya know what? I've had it. I've been working on that newsletter for a couple weeks now... editing and revising so that df's family will have some sort of knowledge about booking flights and hotels in disney. But after hearing all the negativity and dealing with a few other issues (long story wont boare you) i'm not going to finish it.

As far as i'm concerned i'm going to book with disney 8 months out and once i know we have a secured date i'm sending out the invitation. There will be an RSVP card in there asking them to reply within a certain amount of time... if they dont then i'm not calling and/or begging them to go to support their son and his future wife i'm just not going to count them.

I know that this is an inconvenient wedding idea for most people but it is what makes us happy and since we're paying for it we're going to do what we want! After I thought about it last night and came to my decision of being DONE, i felt relieved... it was wierd. I'm just not going to stress over them or anyone else anymore. They all have our phone numbers so if they want to ask for help give us a call but other than that they're all on their own. I know where i'm staying!

Ok i'm done venting now. I'm really should be working right now. Hopefully if its as slow as it was yesterday (apparently nobody needs MRI's) i'll be able to do some wedding planning. Its going to be a nice change looking at wedding stuff and not worrying about mean people in the back of my mind!

 

[MainStMandy]

Awww sweetie I know exactly how you feel, except mine is extended family...not parents.
Good for you!! What a weight off your shoulders!!

And if you need extra guests, you know who to call

 

[malibustacey]

Katie i am totally feeling your anger- i know exactly how you feel (not completly the same but i just posted on main boards after people on here started criticizing me for not inviting my grandparents to the wedding).

You do what you want to do. It seems that everyone wants to point out all the negative things about our weddings and its like ... argh.

Sorry i am not going into an angry rant on your pj but just know that im sending big your way and if people arent going to appreciate your hard work then dont do anything for them.

 

[figment fan21]

Awww sweetie I know exactly how you feel, except mine is extended family...not parents.
Good for you!! What a weight off your shoulders!!

And if you need extra guests, you know who to call

Thanks Mandy!

I honestly feel good about my decision to just not care anymore! I'm going to worry about me and DF and that its! If people want to be there they will get there. I'm not going to get upset anymore. If they dont go then fine its their loss on going to an awesome wedding!

 

[figment fan21]

Katie i am totally feeling your anger- i know exactly how you feel (not completly the same but i just posted on main boards after people on here started criticizing me for not inviting my grandparents to the wedding).

You do what you want to do. It seems that everyone wants to point out all the negative things about our weddings and its like ... argh.

Sorry i am not going into an angry rant on your pj but just know that im sending big your way and if people arent going to appreciate your hard work then dont do anything for them.

Double hugs for you stacey! Thank you so much! DF's mom is mad that DF's grandfather isn't going. He's been invited, but DF's mom doesn't think traveling is good for him. So its not that he wasn't invited, its that his daughter doesn't want him to fly.

Its just makes me crazy because DF's parents eloped without telling ANYONE and DF's grandfather wasn't invited to that wedding at all... Hypocrites! But I digress....

Thanks for the support stacey. I'm just not going to let it get to me anymore.

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

I think a lot of us are in the same situation, if that helps! I know certain people in my DF's family are so mad that extended family is not invited (even though we are not that close). My advice to you is what my best friend/moh keeps telling me. "This is your wedding, not theirs, don't let them ruin it for you!!!"

 

[teddygurl28]

THATS IT! im putting room points on my registry and mike and i will stay through your wedding we can take the seats of the obnoxious people that didnt show

for you! honestly hun you have dealt with more than your share of stress and you have more coming your way thats not related to family, that you dont need them on top of it ( i.e dress fittings and how to wear your hair and which color nail polish to wear ..i mean come on white or white thats a tough choice!) im sure you are going to end up trying to help them again in the end because they will inevitabely try and rope you into it...but just remind yourself as you already have that you are doing this for u and adam...this is what the two of you have chosen...and really he should be dealing with alot of it since it is his family...but its amazing how it doesnt seem to work that way

and a short side to stacey- i saw your post about not inviting your grand parents, i see why you arent-it would be such a long haul for them, its got to be tough on you knowing they wont be there im sure people hounding you about not inviting them doesnt help so this is for you

 

[malibustacey]

and a short side to stacey- i saw your post about not inviting your grand parents, i see why you arent-it would be such a long haul for them, its got to be tough on you knowing they wont be there im sure people hounding you about not inviting them doesnt help so this is for you

thank you, it really upset me quite a bit when people started slating me for not inviting them and i was fed up when i read what people were saying about me and i shouldnt have had to, but i wanted to justify why i wasnt going to invite them in a formal way, and i wasnt having anyone telling me who to invite, whether it be my grandparents or a friend. Like i said, i would have them there if i could, but they just simply cant, and i am not changing my wedding venue from Disney just so they can be there, and THEY even told me this too- saying Wayne and I need to have OUR wedding the way we want.

But yeassss, thank you for understanding

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

Well girls, i've had an epiphany...

I'm done... thats it... i'm just done! Apparently there has been more negative talk from certain people about DF and I's wedding plans and ya know what? I've had it. I've been working on that newsletter for a couple weeks now... editing and revising so that df's family will have some sort of knowledge about booking flights and hotels in disney. But after hearing all the negativity and dealing with a few other issues (long story wont boare you) i'm not going to finish it.

As far as i'm concerned i'm going to book with disney 8 months out and once i know we have a secured date i'm sending out the invitation. There will be an RSVP card in there asking them to reply within a certain amount of time... if they dont then i'm not calling and/or begging them to go to support their son and his future wife i'm just not going to count them.

I know that this is an inconvenient wedding idea for most people but it is what makes us happy and since we're paying for it we're going to do what we want! After I thought about it last night and came to my decision of being DONE, i felt relieved... it was wierd. I'm just not going to stress over them or anyone else anymore. They all have our phone numbers so if they want to ask for help give us a call but other than that they're all on their own. I know where i'm staying!

Ok i'm done venting now. I'm really should be working right now. Hopefully if its as slow as it was yesterday (apparently nobody needs MRI's) i'll be able to do some wedding planning. Its going to be a nice change looking at wedding stuff and not worrying about mean people in the back of my mind!

YOU TELL EM!

 

[figment fan21]

I think a lot of us are in the same situation, if that helps! I know certain people in my DF's family are so mad that extended family is not invited (even though we are not that close). My advice to you is what my best friend/moh keeps telling me. "This is your wedding, not theirs, don't let them ruin it for you!!!"

I think we all are too... i've read a few PJ's where the parents are really supportive and i just wish i had that. But hey we can't get everything we want so we deal with what we've got!
You and your guy seem like me and DF. Just not the type to want a big "to-do" over a wedding. Its not in our personality to have that type of wedding. I just hate how i'm seconding guessing my decision becase of someone else.
But like your friend said nobody should ruin your day and i'm not going to let them!

THATS IT! im putting room points on my registry and mike and i will stay through your wedding we can take the seats of the obnoxious people that didnt show

for you! honestly hun you have dealt with more than your share of stress and you have more coming your way thats not related to family, that you dont need them on top of it ( i.e dress fittings and how to wear your hair and which color nail polish to wear ..i mean come on white or white thats a tough choice!) im sure you are going to end up trying to help them again in the end because they will inevitabely try and rope you into it...but just remind yourself as you already have that you are doing this for u and adam...this is what the two of you have chosen...and really he should be dealing with alot of it since it is his family...but its amazing how it doesnt seem to work that way

and a short side to stacey- i saw your post about not inviting your grand parents, i see why you arent-it would be such a long haul for them, its got to be tough on you knowing they wont be there im sure people hounding you about not inviting them doesnt help so this is for you

I really need to figure out if i'm having french manicured nails with a clear top coat or french manicured nails with a cotton candy top coat!
To touch on what you said about DF not dealing with his family as much as i have been.... YOU'RE ABSOLUTLY RIGHT!!!!! This is another reason why after all the issues that've taken place i've said i'm done. If he doesn't care what his family is saying and/or doing behind our backs then fine... i dont care either! It felt GOOOOOOD saying that to him! I know it sounds mean but it did. Why should i be the one workin on the newsletter with NO help from him? I understand that it probably bothers him more than I know that his family is being so mean/stupid and he doesn't want to deal with it because its only going to lead to a fight but i'm one of those crazy obnoxious boston girls that says exactly whats on their mind and doesn't care. I'm sure you know the type!

thank you, it really upset me quite a bit when people started slating me for not inviting them and i was fed up when i read what people were saying about me and i shouldnt have had to, but i wanted to justify why i wasnt going to invite them in a formal way, and i wasnt having anyone telling me who to invite, whether it be my grandparents or a friend. Like i said, i would have them there if i could, but they just simply cant, and i am not changing my wedding venue from Disney just so they can be there, and THEY even told me this too- saying Wayne and I need to have OUR wedding the way we want.

But yeassss, thank you for understanding

Awe stacey

If you talked with your grandparents and they are cool with not going and they want you and wayne to have your dream wedding then its no one elses buisness! Dont listen to anyone! All it does is make you second guess your decision and it stinks when you start thinking that way... believe me! I can't wait to sign the contract with disney so i know that there is no backing out now!

 

[ghoulish delight]

!!!

Katie, my dear, you are too nice! If people aren't being supportive then I think you have EVERY right and then some to only send out invites. I think you're wise to let them come to you. If they want information or the parks/where to stay, then they can ask. Good for you for sticking your grounds!

As for your dress, that situation seems really tough! If alterations would be more than what you paid for the dress, I think I'd reconsider whether this is your dream dress or not. If it is, then go for it! You only get to wear a beautiful gown like that once! If it isn't, then shop around.

I know it's the source of concern for the alterations - but seriously! Congrats on losing the weight!

 

[figment fan21]

Thanks Anj!

After looking at my gown online, and at home i definatly want to wear it. I do love it so much! I've been slacking and haven't started calling places to get estimates on how much the alterations will cost but i WILL be doing that at some point this week. It is so worth it though... i'm so glad i lost the weight!

As far as mean people go, this is just another reason why i think just going out to lunch at Coral Reef aftr the ceremony is the best idea. That way once its over its over and people can do whatever they want before fireworks... heck i dont even care if they come for the fireworks i just want me and DF there! (well we need atleast one more person so they can recreate DP pics! )

I think since we arent having the traditional wedding reception i'm going to do alot of extras on the honeymoon. I was reading about doing a sweetheart dinner, and i know DF was interested in the segway tours and I DEFINATLY want to do the dolphins in depth. And since we aren't going to be able to dance i want to take him to ADH for dancing one night! What do you girls think? What are you all doing special on your disneymoons??