Adam and Katies 10/2/2010 SBP/Attic/?? ~ brainstorming!

[figment fan21]

yeah that whole change unchange rechange thing is a bit much...
I am a sentimental sap. I think that CR would be awesome b/c that is where you got engaged and it holds a very important meaning to you.

We actually didn't get engaged there... what was really cool was that when i made my ADR's for the trip (180 days out) I got the diver for DF to thank him for being with me.... The sign said

"Out of all the fish in the sea, thank you for choosing me!"

I had no idea he was going to propose to me the day before on a carriage ride through FW.... so it made it that much more special for him!

That is what I get for watching the Bachelorette and browsing these forums!



Sounds lovely to me!

If it makes you feel anybetter i'm folding laundry Surfing the internet and trying to be a good Dis Bride all at the same time!

 

[teddygurl28]

davids bridal has some great short cocktail/tea length wedding dresses..if yu decide to go that route

but again...maybe you should think about talking about the brunch idea in a little bit..sometimes guys dont do well when plans change

 

[PrincessShea]

Have you considered Shulas for a private reception? It's on the Boardwalk and they have steak. I don't think they have lunch though either so it's the same problem. Can you change the ceremony to 2:30?


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[ghoulish delight]

Thanks Anj! You're a sweetheart! I'm just going to keep surfing the internet (I actually look like this icon for once since i have my sleepy time tea with me) and hopefully a light bulb will go off with some magical way of figuring it all out.

Anytime my dear!! Only wish I could do more than send prayers/happy beams/pixie dust! You're a smart cookie though, I know you'll figure it all out!

Ohoh!!! And I just want to share, because if I was going to need a second wedding-ish type dress on my big day, I would totally use the excuse to buy a dress from dollycouture.com!

Adorable, but pricey. I'd still do all in my power to be in your prettiful dress as long as possible though!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

We actually didn't get engaged there... what was really cool was that when i made my ADR's for the trip (180 days out) I got the diver for DF to thank him for being with me.... The sign said

"Out of all the fish in the sea, thank you for choosing me!"

I had no idea he was going to propose to me the day before on a carriage ride through FW.... so it made it that much more special for him!

Ok apparently I missed the whole engagement story...fish story...I think this is a sign that I 've read too many PJ's (Is this a sign of addiction??? Or just sleepiness???)

It still sound super special...I say go for it!

Where do you get this sleepy tea that you speak of...I need some...badly...need....sleep...and can't...HELP!

 

[figment fan21]

davids bridal has some great short cocktail/tea length wedding dresses..if yu decide to go that route

but again...maybe you should think about talking about the brunch idea in a little bit..sometimes guys dont do well when plans change

Thanks Meghan. Heres what i'm thinking.... i'll let the idea stew in his brain for alittle while. Once he's thought about it i'll bring it up agan. Either way i'll have a plan for whatever he wants, whether its going out to dinner in a short white dress or renting out a place like the SJR or FF. I'm trying to be positive and i keep telling myself that no matter what i'll be happy.

Have you considered Shulas for a private reception? It's on the Boardwalk and they have steak. I don't think they have lunch though either so it's the same problem. Can you change the ceremony to 2:30?


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Room Sizes

The following rooms can accommodate group sizes up to:

Ribeye Room 20 – 28 Guests; with $2200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Porterhouse Room 30 – 42 Guests; with $3200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
New York Room 42 – 60 Guests; with $4200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Coach’s Room 55 – 65 Guests; with $5200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Sideline Room 10 – 14 Guests; with $1000.00 in Food & Beverage minimum

Hall of Fame Rooms

Nick Buoniconti 12 – 15 Guests; with $1200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Larry Czonka 12 – 15 Guests; with $1200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Bob Griese 12 – 15 Guests; with $1200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Larry Little 12 – 15 Guests; with $1200.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Hall of Fame Capacity 78 Guests


No-Name Lounge
Receptions

Entire Lounge 30 – 75 Guests; with $3000.00 in Food & Beverage minimum
Partial Lounge 10 – 30 Guests; with $1500.00 in Food & Beverage minimum

I was wondering if you were going to pop over here! You're pictures in Bluezoo were the reason i looked into it. I asked DF if he'd want to move the time again but he saw what it was like sitting around in a tux just waiting for time to go by and he doesn't want to do that... and I can't say i blame him. How much were the mins. for the private room in bluezoo you used? I'm going to look into shula's too! Thanks for the help!

Anytime my dear!! Only wish I could do more than send prayers/happy beams/pixie dust! You're a smart cookie though, I know you'll figure it all out!

Ohoh!!! And I just want to share, because if I was going to need a second wedding-ish type dress on my big day, I would totally use the excuse to buy a dress from dollycouture.com!

Adorable, but pricey. I'd still do all in my power to be in your prettiful dress as long as possible though!

Thats is ADORABLE!!!! I'm sure that i won't be too upset if we have to do a dinner and change out of my gown and slip into something more "park suitable"

Ok apparently I missed the whole engagement story...fish story...I think this is a sign that I 've read too many PJ's (Is this a sign of addiction??? Or just sleepiness???)

It still sound super special...I say go for it!

Where do you get this sleepy tea that you speak of...I need some...badly...need....sleep...and can't...HELP!

I think you need an intervention! Sleepy time tea is make by celestial seasons (i think thats what its called) It's got chamomile and other sleep indusing herbs in it. AND ITS GOOD!!!

 

[MainStMandy]

Ok I tried posting earlier but the dis was sooooo slow!!

I have been trying to come up with ways to "fix" this for you...

Grrr...Can't your dh see the good in your plan???

 

[figment fan21]

You have no idea.... I'm having little panic attacks thinking about this. I'm so worried that my escape wedding will seem like a tacky sham to people ::cough:: FMIL ::cough:: And i dont want that. As much as I want this to be an intimate affair I still want it to be BEAUTIFUL! I'm just getting really frustrated and i'm starting to over think things. (i think)

Every girl dreams of her weding day and how special and beautiful it is and i'm so nervouse that its going to become nothing but a quick thrown together ceremony and POOF we're married. I'm hoping that maybe, even though escape brides normally dont have them, I can get my WP to agree to having a rehersal. I dont mean to sound like a complainer and/or a cry baby i'm just really stressed and PMSing and sad that other than my little sister and you DIS girls i dont have anyone else helping me.

I think i'm going to stop at the liquor store on the way home to get a nice bottle of my favorite wine. Maybe it'll be easier to talk wedding with DF with a glass or two in me first.

 

[MainStMandy]

You have no idea.... I'm having little panic attacks thinking about this. I'm so worried that my escape wedding will seem like a tacky sham to people ::cough:: FMIL ::cough:: And i dont want that. As much as I want this to be an intimate affair I still want it to be BEAUTIFUL! I'm just getting really frustrated and i'm starting to over think things. (i think)

Every girl dreams of her weding day and how special and beautiful it is and i'm so nervouse that its going to become nothing but a quick thrown together ceremony and POOF we're married. I'm hoping that maybe, even though escape brides normally dont have them, I can get my WP to agree to having a rehersal. I dont mean to sound like a complainer and/or a cry baby i'm just really stressed and PMSing and sad that other than my little sister and you DIS girls i dont have anyone else helping me.

I think i'm going to stop at the liquor store on the way home to get a nice bottle of my favorite wine. Maybe it'll be easier to talk wedding with DF with a glass or two in me first.

Lol I think he's the one that needs the wine.

You know what I do with DF?? I think sometimes men get overwhelmed with all this wedding stuff. So we play a game....close your eyes and what do you see on your wedding day. (that's how we picked the pink tie...now the blue tie). Let them focus on one thing.

And remember, that NO matter what...your wedding day will be beautiful and that you are marrying the love of your life!!

 

[figment fan21]

I think DF would rather use the "you plan everything" approach! I like that idea though! Maybe i'll be some wine for me and some beers for DF. He'll agree to anything if he has had alittle too much to drink!

 

[MainStMandy]

I think DF would rather use the "you plan everything" approach! I like that idea though! Maybe i'll be some wine for me and some beers for DF. He'll agree to anything if he has had alittle too much to drink!

Well if that's his approach then YAY for the brunch!!!

 

[Petals & Pixie Dust]

You have no idea.... I'm having little panic attacks thinking about this. I'm so worried that my escape wedding will seem like a tacky sham to people ::cough:: FMIL ::cough:: And i dont want that. As much as I want this to be an intimate affair I still want it to be BEAUTIFUL! I'm just getting really frustrated and i'm starting to over think things. (i think)

Every girl dreams of her weding day and how special and beautiful it is and i'm so nervouse that its going to become nothing but a quick thrown together ceremony and POOF we're married. I'm hoping that maybe, even though escape brides normally dont have them, I can get my WP to agree to having a rehersal. I dont mean to sound like a complainer and/or a cry baby i'm just really stressed and PMSing and sad that other than my little sister and you DIS girls i dont have anyone else helping me.

I think i'm going to stop at the liquor store on the way home to get a nice bottle of my favorite wine. Maybe it'll be easier to talk wedding with DF with a glass or two in me first.

Um...are you thinking what I'm thinking...Strange...I am having the same thoughts.

 

[figment fan21]

Um...are you thinking what I'm thinking...Strange...I am having the same thoughts.

Seriously? You're a fellow escape bride, do you feel the same way? Or are we just neurotic, OCD planners?!

 

[MainStMandy]

Seriously? You're a fellow escape bride, do you feel the same way? Or are we just neurotic, OCD planners?!

Yes

 

[figment fan21]

Yes

I'm going to guess that was a YES to being neurotic OCD planners!

 

[teddygurl28]

okie you are generally telling my to breathe, so im going to try this the other way...lets see how well its goes...lol...

first off its YOUR wedding day...and when all is said and done everything is going to be how you imagined it (brunch included...if in the end its what you want..trust me)
...but remember with adam you guys started out that you didnt want the at home big ceremony and reception because that wasn't for you guys...so you planned this beautiful escape wedding ( and even if you left it as is it would be beautiful and nobody..not even "her " could call it a sham ) but okay so he goes along thinking hes done planning..done spending money (remember he sees $$$$ every time you say " so for the wedding i was thinking...") and he panics...because now hes like okay thats XX dollars more that needs to be saved...and we all know thats not easy to do.
he wants this to be perfect just as much as you do...but he doesnt see it the same way.. most guys dont get it. lol

i honestly think you should look at this a couple of ways
talk to him again about the brunch...see if there are places that have more lunch than brunch and that have the steaks that he wants. ... but if hes so set on the steak- ask him if hes willing to move the ceremony time . i know he mentioned he doesnt want to just sit in his tux....so how about he doesnt? how about him and some guys get an early round of golf in? ( does he golf?) or boating ... or something of that nature to pass the morning

or if he refuses to move the time, then remind him that not all places that are on the boardwalk serve meat....plain and simple so what if the restaurant you are planning on going to is closed for renovation next year (it could happen!)......remind him that brunch/lunch is less expensive than a dinner...also much less stressful than having to chase pepople around...as you have mentioned people will be at the parks and such and we all know you can get carried away when you are in line for splash mountain listen to brer rabbit..i know i do.... (esp. when the spot where the frogs are supposed to be living...towards the very end of the line.....so cute!)


either way i thnk you have plenty of time, of course i keep telling myself that we have plenty of time ( 14 months ) and it will work itself out....give him a few days to sit on it, then talk to him again...i do agree alcohol always makes the guys agree with whatever the demand may be...some "but imagine it this way" and also a good " i dont want the wedding to look fake" line may help

 

[PrincessShea]

I was wondering if you were going to pop over here! You're pictures in Bluezoo were the reason i looked into it. I asked DF if he'd want to move the time again but he saw what it was like sitting around in a tux just waiting for time to go by and he doesn't want to do that... and I can't say i blame him. How much were the mins. for the private room in bluezoo you used? I'm going to look into shula's too! Thanks for the help!

HTH The bluezoo minimum is $1200. With these minimums though also keep in mind that it doesn't include the 6.5% sales tax, and I believe 21% automatic gratuity.

I know how you feel though about wanting to create a nice wedding and not "a quickly thrown together" event. Escape brides kind of get the short end of the stick, but there is so much you can do to make it nice. I really think Disney is going to start offering small dinners to escape brides soon because at the beginning of my planning virtually no escape bride did anything except go to a restaurant and eat out in the open. Now it seems like everyone is having a private room or banquet hall.

I don't think a rehearsal is necessary. We didn't have one and I don't think anything was lacking because of it.

And I hear ya on not wanting to torture DFi with the tux Mine didn't have it so bad because he was in a suit instead, but dear lord in that heat was he dying!

EDIT: Just to echo what teddygurl28 said...if you move the ceremony time, DFi doesn't have to be a tux all day. What's the difference between wearing it from early moring to the end of lunch or late afternoon to the end of dinner?

 

[figment fan21]

okie you are generally telling my to breathe, so im going to try this the other way...lets see how well its goes...lol...

first off its YOUR wedding day...and when all is said and done everything is going to be how you imagined it (brunch included...if in the end its what you want..trust me)
...but remember with adam you guys started out that you didnt want the at home big ceremony and reception because that wasn't for you guys...so you planned this beautiful escape wedding ( and even if you left it as is it would be beautiful and nobody..not even "her " could call it a sham ) but okay so he goes along thinking hes done planning..done spending money (remember he sees $$$$ every time you say " so for the wedding i was thinking...") and he panics...because now hes like okay thats XX dollars more that needs to be saved...and we all know thats not easy to do.
he wants this to be perfect just as much as you do...but he doesnt see it the same way.. most guys dont get it. lol

i honestly think you should look at this a couple of ways
talk to him again about the brunch...see if there are places that have more lunch than brunch and that have the steaks that he wants. ... but if hes so set on the steak- ask him if hes willing to move the ceremony time . i know he mentioned he doesnt want to just sit in his tux....so how about he doesnt? how about him and some guys get an early round of golf in? ( does he golf?) or boating ... or something of that nature to pass the morning

or if he refuses to move the time, then remind him that not all places that are on the boardwalk serve meat....plain and simple so what if the restaurant you are planning on going to is closed for renovation next year (it could happen!)......remind him that brunch/lunch is less expensive than a dinner...also much less stressful than having to chase pepople around...as you have mentioned people will be at the parks and such and we all know you can get carried away when you are in line for splash mountain listen to brer rabbit..i know i do.... (esp. when the spot where the frogs are supposed to be living...towards the very end of the line.....so cute!)


either way i thnk you have plenty of time, of course i keep telling myself that we have plenty of time ( 14 months ) and it will work itself out....give him a few days to sit on it, then talk to him again...i do agree alcohol always makes the guys agree with whatever the demand may be...some "but imagine it this way" and also a good " i dont want the wedding to look fake" line may help

You are absolutly right about the $$$$$$ Its like sticker shock! Believe me i totally understand that we all can't have men so eager to help in the wedding planning department. DF would rather be on his xbox than sitting up here with me looking at wedding stuff. I did however have a talk with him on my way home from work... I'll get to that in one second....

HTH The bluezoo minimum is $1200. With these minimums though also keep in mind that it doesn't include the 6.5% sales tax, and I believe 21% automatic gratuity.

I know how you feel though about wanting to create a nice wedding and not "a quickly thrown together" event. Escape brides kind of get the short end of the stick, but there is so much you can do to make it nice. I really think Disney is going to start offering small dinners to escape brides soon because at the beginning of my planning virtually no escape bride did anything except go to a restaurant and eat out in the open. Now it seems like everyone is having a private room or banquet hall.

I don't think a rehearsal is necessary. We didn't have one and I don't think anything was lacking because of it.

And I hear ya on not wanting to torture DFi with the tux Mine didn't have it so bad because he was in a suit instead, but dear lord in that heat was he dying!

EDIT: Just to echo what teddygurl28 said...if you move the ceremony time, DFi doesn't have to be a tux all day. What's the difference between wearing it from early moring to the end of lunch or late afternoon to the end of dinner?

I'm so glad someone else felt the same way I do. Its good to know that you didn't need a rehersal. I've just read a few escape TR that sounded like the whole thing was a mess up until the last second before it was time for the bride to walk down the aisle. I'll just have to make sure everything is clear when i speak with my planner.

Ok so lets get into the conversation DF and I had earlier today....


I called him after work and he sensed i was alittle down in the dumps and he asked me what was wrong... well that was not the question to ask me because then came the water works. I then explained to him (in between sobs) that even though i saw how the wedding we went to last weekend went and how it was SOOO not something that would work for us, I did see a few things that i DID want. Like i saw how much fun DF and I had dancing our little butts off, and how everyone clapped as the new Mr. and Mrs. were announced entering the reception hall. I know that it wouldn't work for either one of our families... i just can't see his parents being announced, or my mother acting normal for a change. I kept seeing his mother whispering to her other sons how this wedding is tacky and looks like it was just thrown together, while we're doing our vows. I had one side of me saying "be thankful that you're lucky enough to have a disney wedding" and the other side of me was saying "well i want a wishes wedding where i get announced and have time to dance with my husband because its MY wedding!!" I then noticed how bridezilla i had become.

DF calmed me down and said "well how about this, we make this the nicest escape wedding ever. We'll get whatever cake you want even if we have to pay more, we'll have the lovely chair covers and we'll have a nice meal somewhere. We'll figure it all out, I promise" He made me feel alot better.

So he wants me to find some more pictures of the St. James room. I was googling and searching on the DIS and only came up with a few. If anyone has any that'd be awesome. The other alternative is flying fish but we'll only do that as a back up since its more $$. That way once we all finish brunch we can all go get changed and meet up somewhere if we want or people can go do as they please... we'll all just meet at epcot for fireworks to end the day. I also reminded DF that we'll be there for a whole week and i'd rather go out to a nice dinner alone with him for steak, he responded to that with, "i'll make sure to get the best bottle of wine."

I do feel really bad being one of those crazy emotional brides and believe me i try really hard not to be. But i was glad all of my emotions were put out on the table because i think he finally "gets" where i'm coming from. We started looking at the escape cakes and we are really liking the rose drapes. We'd want the drape navy blue, and roses fuschia and the cake pure white (not ivory like i've seen) What do you think?

 

[MainStMandy]

Awww We all have bridezilla moments!! I think the St. James room is a good choice to look into. You probably could even arrange to have steak for your DF!!!

 

[figment fan21]

Thanks mandy! I promised him that since he's going to make the effort to make our wedding as beautiful as possible, i'll keep looking into different options for the "after ceremony" meal. The St. James room isn't a definate but we'll see.

I read someone's wedding TR and they said they had a nice meal at portobello's and that they had a private little area on the patio all set up for them.
I also will think about going back and having everyone change and meeting at CR for lunch instead of dinner.
ok so i'm going to be doing alot of "thinking about" for a while but its nice to know that he is willing to make the ceremony as amazing as possible for me. Marriage is about compromising and working together as a team so if he can do something for me I can do something for him I still just really hope the St. James room works out and i can talk him into it!