A thread for our single friends....

[kidflash]

Well, after a few years of being single, I found a wonderful boyfriend. The only problem is....he HATES everything Disney. Has no interest whatsoever in any of the rides, the park, or even my Club 33 membership. It's sad because I LOVE the companionship. We've been together for six months now. But I can't drag him to the park, and my best friends are frustrated with me that I don't spend time at the park anymore. Oh, well, I guess one takes the good with the bad.

Congrats

 

[CanadianGuy]

Well, after a few years of being single, I found a wonderful boyfriend. The only problem is....he HATES everything Disney. Has no interest whatsoever in any of the rides, the park, or even my Club 33 membership. It's sad because I LOVE the companionship. We've been together for six months now. But I can't drag him to the park, and my best friends are frustrated with me that I don't spend time at the park anymore. Oh, well, I guess one takes the good with the bad.

Ooh I feel ya... I've been with my guy for umm... like 20 months now.. we'll be dangerously close to celebrating 2 years when we go to GayDays in June..

I tried EVERYTHING to get him excited about going but he's all very 'ho-hum if you insist' ... kinda behavior about it. Frustrates the crap out of me.

I'm insisting for now hoping that once he gets there he'll get revv'd up about it.

Otherwise, I smell 'separate vacations' for the next while..

 

[ConcKahuna]

Ooh I feel ya... I've been with my guy for umm... like 20 months now.. we'll be dangerously close to celebrating 2 years when we go to GayDays in June..

I tried EVERYTHING to get him excited about going but he's all very 'ho-hum if you insist' ... kinda behavior about it. Frustrates the crap out of me.

I'm insisting for now hoping that once he gets there he'll get revv'd up about it.

Otherwise, I smell 'separate vacations' for the next while..

Dont worry, we'll convert that boy into a Disney freak in no time

 

[CanadianGuy]

Dont worry, we'll convert that boy into a Disney freak in no time

I'm a countin on ya.

 

[lazyboy]

Hey there! I am Ron and I am lonely now... My boyfriend left me five weeks ago and I am looking for new love... And now I want some communication and fun)))

 

[glenpreece]

Hey there! I am Ron and I am lonely now... My boyfriend left me five weeks ago and I am looking for new love... And now I want some communication and fun)))

Welcome to the club Ron!!!

 

[lazyboy]

Thanks, glenpreece! I was communicated with the other chaps here yougaychat.com for a long time, they all was cute and fun, but I wanted more new friends! And now I am here with you...

 

[Sphyrna]

I've started asking myself lately if I should try to get back in to the dating game. It would be nice to start dating and hopefully find a bf. But I question if it's worth the bother. I'm also not sure the best way to go about it. I'm shy and a homebody. So it's hard to meet people when you don't leave your room (or my "cave" as my family calls it). I used to use chat rooms and sites but I'm not even sure which ones are popular anymore. I had tried Adam4Adam but it seems like it's more of a hookup site. It's also full of profile pictures of hot torsos, and I definitely don't have one of those. I'm just afraid of how it will go trying to get back into dating. For a while I've been what I describe as alone but content. I've found in the past when I start looking then I end up feeling alone and lonely. So I'm not sure it's worth it.

There are 2 other issues why I haven't started dating. They say you can't love someone else until you love yourself. Loving myself has been a work in progress for years. I wonder if I'll ever get to that point. I started a diet a couple months ago hoping that will help. Part of me thinks I should wait until I get to or at least close to my goal weight before I start. For one, I don't have too much free time now because of it. During the week it's go to work, come home and eat dinner, then work out, then shower and get ready for bed.

The other reason I haven't tried for a while is I still want to move back to FL. I don't really want to get in to a relationship if I end up moving. My current plan is to move in 3 years. That will give me time to save up for a down payment so I can buy a house when I move. However, when I first moved to Pittsburgh I only planned to stay a couple years. Now it's been almost 10. What if 3 years pass and I still haven't moved?

Having just had a birthday a couple weeks ago was a reminder that I'm not getting any younger. That's also part of the problem. When I have checked out some dating sites it hasn't been encouraging. I don't feel my age at all. I also find it difficult to find guys my age I'm attracted to. Heck, I find it hard to find any guys in Pittsburgh I'm attracted to. That's another reason part of me feels I should wait until I move to FL.

Any suggestions? Thanks guys.

 

[OrlandoMike]

If you can...I would move to Florida ASAP!

It's your goal, just do it!

So you may have to rent for a while before you can buy a home, but this may be the change you need.....

 

[Sphyrna]

Financially, if I want to buy a house, it makes sense to stay here a couple years. Unless I get a much higher paying job there. I seriously doubt that will happen since my current job is about $20K above the average for what I do. Since I live at home I have the opportunity to really build some savings. Plus in that time I want to work on getting some certifications so hopefully I can move up on the IT ladder.

 

[jiminy.cricket]

I would recommend to keep doing what you're doing! Sounds like you have a plan. Don't leave your job right now. It's good that you're thinking about what you want. I need to figure out what I want and what I can do.

 

[glenpreece]

I've started asking myself lately if I should try to get back in to the dating game. It would be nice to start dating and hopefully find a bf. But I question if it's worth the bother. I'm also not sure the best way to go about it. I'm shy and a homebody. So it's hard to meet people when you don't leave your room (or my "cave" as my family calls it). I used to use chat rooms and sites but I'm not even sure which ones are popular anymore. I had tried Adam4Adam but it seems like it's more of a hookup site. It's also full of profile pictures of hot torsos, and I definitely don't have one of those. I'm just afraid of how it will go trying to get back into dating. For a while I've been what I describe as alone but content. I've found in the past when I start looking then I end up feeling alone and lonely. So I'm not sure it's worth it.

There are 2 other issues why I haven't started dating. They say you can't love someone else until you love yourself. Loving myself has been a work in progress for years. I wonder if I'll ever get to that point. I started a diet a couple months ago hoping that will help. Part of me thinks I should wait until I get to or at least close to my goal weight before I start. For one, I don't have too much free time now because of it. During the week it's go to work, come home and eat dinner, then work out, then shower and get ready for bed.

The other reason I haven't tried for a while is I still want to move back to FL. I don't really want to get in to a relationship if I end up moving. My current plan is to move in 3 years. That will give me time to save up for a down payment so I can buy a house when I move. However, when I first moved to Pittsburgh I only planned to stay a couple years. Now it's been almost 10. What if 3 years pass and I still haven't moved?

Having just had a birthday a couple weeks ago was a reminder that I'm not getting any younger. That's also part of the problem. When I have checked out some dating sites it hasn't been encouraging. I don't feel my age at all. I also find it difficult to find guys my age I'm attracted to. Heck, I find it hard to find any guys in Pittsburgh I'm attracted to. That's another reason part of me feels I should wait until I move to FL.

Any suggestions? Thanks guys.

Aww I totally hear ya on the loving yourself thing and I too am a homebody my daily routine is very much the same as yours. I am really working on being comfortable and loving myself. I am not "scared of lonely" and I refuse to be with a guy just so I won't be alone, unlike my former best friend. Keep on saving for the Florida dream house

 

[chwgmjay]

So... lately my life has been a mess. My hours at work have been totally switched around for bogus reasons, so my sleep schedule is way off. As a result I've been moody. At night, I've been watching a lot of streaming movies on netflix, mostly gay romantic comedy type stuff. But it's been depressing me/making me realize how alone I am. I'm really not good with meeting new people though. I've been thinking about rejoining some of the dating sites, but I'm not all that cute and most of my hobbies/interests are far from mainstream. Every guy I've dated, I've met through friends or livejournal or that sort of thing. I just don't know what to do. Blah.

 

[Sphyrna]

Give the dating sites another try. If there are enough people on the site I'm sure there will be some others who share your interests and hobbies. In the meantime, keep hanging with friends and network through them. Maybe try watching some comedies or something else so as to not help with the depression.

 

[glenpreece]

I know exactly how you feel it's gets lonely at times and you feel so isolated and loving Disney is not something most gay guys accept/understand. Try the dating sites again, that's where I meet the few guys I've been out with.

 

[AKL Ranger]

Greetings all,

Solo traveler here looking to make friends and some one who loves Disney theme parks as much as I do
As some one wrote here most guys are "Not into Disney ", well most Black guys are not into Disney either

I am arriving Thursday June 3, checking into Animal Kingdom Lodge Jambo house. Thru Sat. Then I transfer over to Beach Club Villas @ Beach/Yacht Club, EPCOT area thru Monday.
I am some what new to the DIS Boards. I attended the "December Event "DIS-a-Palooza / Toy Story party. Met some really nice people. I already booked for the POD Cast Cruise 2.0.
Cheers & Hugs;
Gilbert

 

[Sphyrna]

So after my Gay Days trip I'm thinking I should try to be more social. Normally I just pass time in my room, don't go out or anything. I really had fun hanging out at Gay Days. I also saw couples holding hands and stuff and wish I had a bf. So this week I've been pretty depressed from thinking about the lack of friends here in Pgh and lack of bf. Since I'm shy, I try to find friends/dates online. Having been out of the loop for so long I'm not sure what the good sites are these days. Can anyone recommend a good place online to make friends and find dates? I had used Adam4Adam before but it seems it's become more of a hookup site. As nice as they are to look at, I find it hard to become friends with headless torsos and other body parts.

 

[Kronk_Fan]

Hey everyone! New here and just wanted to say "hi"!

 

[Kronk_Fan]

So after my Gay Days trip I'm thinking I should try to be more social. Normally I just pass time in my room, don't go out or anything. I really had fun hanging out at Gay Days. I also saw couples holding hands and stuff and wish I had a bf. So this week I've been pretty depressed from thinking about the lack of friends here in Pgh and lack of bf. Since I'm shy, I try to find friends/dates online. Having been out of the loop for so long I'm not sure what the good sites are these days. Can anyone recommend a good place online to make friends and find dates? I had used Adam4Adam before but it seems it's become more of a hookup site. As nice as they are to look at, I find it hard to become friends with headless torsos and other body parts.

You mean you want to make friends with actual full-bodied people? I know how you feel. It's very hard for me right now looking around and seeing couples and stuff. Even harder when you know your ex has picked up, moved on and found someone new. You can try PlentyofFish. It's OK. Nothing spectacular though I don't think. If you find a good site let me know. I'm kinda like you more on the shy side of things which is probably odd for someone my age, everyone my age seems to be quite out-going. Although I have been trying to get out more and I try to get my few good friends that I have to go out with me to help me get out there.

 

[Sphyrna]

Last night was pretty rough. I was feeling pretty depressed. I was on Adam4Adam. At the end of the night I had sent about 30 emails replying to their profile. Not a single reply. I may not be perfect but don't think I'm that bad. That's the reason I haven't even tried for so long. When I'm not looking I'm alone but content. A night like last night just causes the depression to become more severe. My coworker tried Plentyoffish. I don't know about it, just something about the name.