A question for the men out there... ***UPDATE POST #34!!!***

[apirateslifeforme]

You're interested in a woman and you make it rather obvious that you are. She is obviously interested in you as well. You work about 12 hours a day, though, and you have your kids 3-4 nights a week. You tell her one day that you're moving, tell her your new address, ask her for her phone number and give her yours (without her asking). Eventually she calls you and gets your voice mail. How long before you call her back - or do you even bother?

 

[Charade]

You should have called before you typed your message. Just call!

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I did call him already. I'm not going to say how long ago, though. I have a feeling I already know the answer...I just want to hear it from the guys.

 

[Serena]

I'm not a male, but if he's interested, he'll call. But don't wait on him.

 

[tmt martins]

I would call the next day . If I could get away from my wife it would be right away.

It really depends if he moved he may be really tied up with all that and not want to drag you into the mess.It it's ment to be it will be.

 

[Charade]

I'm sorry. I got mixed up. You called and left a voice mail for him and are waiting for a return call. Maybe he's been real busy with the move and still hasn't gotten it all sorted out yet. You should call again. If he doesn't return that call, maybe he really wasn't as interested as it appeared.

 

[disneymama73]

I wouldn't call again.

ETA -- I'm not a man. Just give it some time. I hope he calls. Good luck.

 

[Hercules10]

How long ago did he move? Might be up to his keester in alligators trying to settle in. Plus if he knows you're a 12 hour worker w/kids then he may feel guilty about bugging you.

Give it til this holiday weekend. I'd feel more comfy calling when I know you'd have a little extra time.

Good luck.

 

[dnoyes]

If I understood you he has his kids 3-4 times a week? If so, maybe he didn't get the message.

 

[azgal81]

I'm not a guy but games are dumb. If I liked someone I would call them right away no need for the wait a few days so you don't seem too interested stuff. He might just be busy or not interested. I would probably call him one more time leave him a message then drop it.

 

[poohandwendy]

I wouldn't call again. He has your number, you left a message...if he doesn't return te call within a day or two, he is not interested. Or his life is too busy to be interested.

Either way, the ball is in his court now...

 

[apirateslifeforme]

Okay...he moved about a month ago. He's still in the same complex, just in a 2-bedroom building (only 2 buildings down from where I am/he used to be - I drive by his place every day when I leave and come home). I went away for a week. Then HE went away for a week. Then I had family from out of town visit for a week.

I've noticed that his work car is gone A LOT more than it used to be. I know the new apartment is $400 more a month than the 1-bedroom was. He pays all of the bills for his ex-wife. He obviously has to furnish a 2nd bedroom for the kids. And his kids are there on Wednesday nights, and now it seems that he has them all weekend, Friday night through Sunday. Now, I could be wrong about all this. This is just my observation. But my ex-husband was at the grocery store over the weekend, and he said the guy's ex-wife was behind him in line, alone, which means that the guy most likely had the kids.

I'm sorry, this is my first time dealing with this since my divorce, and I really like him and I'm feeling insecure at the same time. I can't help but think, "out of sight, out of mind"

Edited to add: I'm not even looking for a relationship right now. I just want to continue the friendship that we started (because we've talked to each other A LOT already, when he lived in my building). And during one of those talks, he told me that it scared him to have to start all over again.

 

[momof2inPA]

Don't call again. You'll look desperate.

 

[CheshireVal]

Don't call again. I've always heard from my male friends (and in books/magazines, too) that men are never too busy for women they're interested in.

 

[poohandwendy]

Okay...he moved about a month ago. He's still in the same complex, just in a 2-bedroom building (only 2 buildings down from where I am/he used to be - I drive by his place every day when I leave and come home). I went away for a week. Then HE went away for a week. Then I had family from out of town visit for a week.

I've noticed that his work car is gone A LOT more than it used to be. I know the new apartment is $400 more a month than the 1-bedroom was. He pays all of the bills for his ex-wife. He obviously has to furnish a 2nd bedroom for the kids. And his kids are there on Wednesday nights, and now it seems that he has them all weekend, Friday night through Sunday. Now, I could be wrong about all this. This is just my observation. But my ex-husband was at the grocery store over the weekend, and he said the guy's ex-wife was behind him in line, alone, which means that the guy most likely had the kids.

I'm sorry, this is my first time dealing with this since my divorce, and I really like him and I'm feeling insecure at the same time. I can't help but think, "out of sight, out of mind"

I hate to say it, but if he hasn't called you in a month, not even to leave a quick voice mail, I think he is not interested at this time. That could be due to many factors that have nothing to do with you. But IMO, most people who are really interested find the time for a phone call.

I think I would just drop it and move on. If he ends up calling, great. But I wouldn't wait by the phne or anything.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

If he gave you his address, then drop by with some homemade brownies or cookies for the kids and him. If he's on your mind that much, then do something about it. Life's too short to worry about looking desperate. Just go for it.

 

[salmoneous]

You're interested in a woman and you make it rather obvious that you are. She is obviously interested in you as well.

Far too often things that seem "obvious" aren't. As a guy, I can tell you we can be clueless. But as a pretty much universal rule, we hate game playing.

If you want to continue your friendship with the guy, just call and continue it. Don't drive yourself bonkers trying to read between the lines as to why he hasn't called. It could be just about anything.

Go pick up phone, call, and invite yourself over to see the new place.

 

[Laugh O. Grams]

You're interested in a woman and you make it rather obvious that you are. She is obviously interested in you as well. You work about 12 hours a day, though, and you have your kids 3-4 nights a week. You tell her one day that you're moving, tell her your new address, ask her for her phone number and give her yours (without her asking). Eventually she calls you and gets your voice mail. How long before you call her back - or do you even bother?

5 days, unless a weekend's coming up...then it's 3 days.

 

[Anewman]

You're interested in a woman and you make it rather obvious that you are. She is obviously interested in you as well. You work about 12 hours a day, though, and you have your kids 3-4 nights a week. You tell her one day that you're moving, tell her your new address, ask her for her phone number and give her yours (without her asking). Eventually she calls you and gets your voice mail. How long before you call her back - or do you even bother?

Me(a man answering the question) would wait for the second voice mail from you, but I like to be in control like that.

And I know you will Call me again.

 

[poohandwendy]

Me(a man answering the question) would wait for the second voice mail from you, but I like to be in control like that.

And I know you will Call me again.

LOL, and I thought men didn't like the 'game playing'...