A question for single gals...

[Tigger&Belle]

Tig...with this group I'm a little afraid of what's left to cover after Shug went through all of her rules!! So non mom jeans...do they sit "at the waist" or only below the waist? So you don't want to have to explain to your hubbby why you are giving advice to a single girl trying to get a date??

Shug...remember one was from a date (hey we'd been together about 8 months when the oops happened!) and the other was frozen and not much of a date...although the conversation with the Nurse Practioner was very good....probably better than the last time I got pregnant!! (I am sooo going to hell now!)

When are you coming up to the Washington DC area next? We could bring our boys shopping and get you some non-mom jeans.

Was the Nurse Practitioner everything you ever expected she would be?

sweet angel, I think shug was joking about her "letting him win", etc advice. I think she was just giving back all the wonderful advice we were all given growing up. It was such good advice 30-40 years ago!

 

[aprilgail2]

You have nothing to lose, really. My neighbor recently asked me if I wanted to meet someone. I told her no, and she looked really hurt. I'd rather just be invited to a barbeque or something with the other person there -- if we hit it off, we hit it off. If not, no pressure. I hate having to pretend to be interested!

I have a neighbor that tries to set me up all the time....I don't want to be set up. My daughter is 6 1/2 and from the time she was born I have said I would not do the step father thing to her. I just don't trust people enough and all you read in the paper is kids being abused by step fathers/ moms boyfirends so I just can't bring my self to do it....if I do date anyone I don't expose my daughter to them, I won't have revolving men going in and out of her life.

 

[sweet angel]

sweet angel, I think shug was joking about her "letting him win", etc advice. I think she was just giving back all the wonderful advice we were all given growing up. It was such good advice 30-40 years ago!

Could be...or maybe I'm just a b****!

 

[SplshMtn99]

Don't know why I'm here. I'm married & never had a set up date. BUT, I want to offer my thoughts on military men since DH is still military & we've been married almost 18 yrs.

Military men are GREAT at following orders. Anything you want.

Now go have fun.

 

[isyne4u]

sweet angel....I will only do all those things Shug suggested if I wanted something out of him...otherwise....if I can kick his butt then I probably would!! (probably explains why I'm still single!) And no I don't think you are a b****! Honest is what I think and that is good!!

Tig...You have got to be crazy if I want to shop with my two twits...um I mean those lovely hooligans who are screming in the background...shopping with me!! I believe that would have to be a kid free day...just so when i was buying non mom jeans I would not have to be screaming at the kids I don't have!!

April....I'm the same way about bringing men around my children...I don't think it is fair for them to get to know someone just so that person can disappear...I've always said if I started dating someone then I would wait a pretty long time before I introduced them to my kids...and I would have to feel like they are going to be around for a very long time.

 

[isyne4u]

Don't know why I'm here. I'm married & never had a set up date. BUT, I want to offer my thoughts on military men since DH is still military & we've been married almost 18 yrs.

Military men are GREAT at following orders. Anything you want.

Now go have fun.

you went sneaking in ahead of me so I missed this...but I agree they follow orders well!! and they know how to iron and make a bed!!

I have no problem with military guys (heck that is why I bowl on the military base...the only problem is most of the guys I see there are either not old enough to drink or already getting their social security checks!!

I figure a military (or ret.) are good because they have a job and won't lose it any time soon, they get free healthcare, a decent retirement, education if they want it, can shop at the exchanges and commissary, and can bowl REALLY cheap! So all in all I think they are a great find.

Living in a military area I've known a lot of girls/women who dated a military guy and then griped because he was military and they couldn't wait for him to get out...that's not me!!

 

[Disney Doll]

April....I'm the same way about bringing men around my children...I don't think it is fair for them to get to know someone just so that person can disappear...I've always said if I started dating someone then I would wait a pretty long time before I introduced them to my kids...and I would have to feel like they are going to be around for a very long time.

This is very wise, and your children will thank yu for it one day.

I am always amazed at the women I know who introduce their kids to every Tom, Dick & Harry they date, only to have them "disappear" next week.

That isn't to say that single folks with children shouldn't date...just keep the kids out of it until you're pretty sure they guy or girl will be around a while!!!