a note to servers

[tiggger1]

I am 30 and I got carded for lottery tickets...

same here!

 

[dakcp2001]

Really? Is this thread a joke?

WHat does it take 15 seconds to show your ID?

OP- Maybe they carded you because you were displaying immature bratty behaviour? (You know similar to having a tantrum over showing your id? )

 

[powellrj]

LOL, I'm gone for a few hours and I come back to 3 pages!

FWIW, It wasn't a bar, it was a resturant and it isn't policy because DH ordered a beer first and didn't get carded. It was when I ordered my margareta that she asked to see ID. DH said he would get his out too, and that was when she said they were told older people are flattered when they are asked for ID and she said she didn't need his.

I didn't get rude or huffy or anything, I just laughed and said I had an AARP card too if she wanted to see that. I also didn't let it affect her tip one way or another.

I was just venting because she only carded me and she said it was because she was told older people are flattered when they are carded. My whole point wasn't to make a scene or make her job harder, I was only pointing out that many times older folks especially when they are clearly older than 40 don't always see it as a compliment.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Well I think it's plain silly and a waste of time to card someone that is CLEARLY over 21. Please, I'm in my 30's, no one my age could pass for 20 or under and my friends and I all take excellent care of ourselves. Someone in their 40's, 50's or 60's, no way possible. Luckily I live in the land of common sense, restaurants around here don't card everyone as a blanket rule.

 

[TDC Nala]

I understand there are places where they card EVERYBODY regardless of age, but having servers or employees request ID from people who are obviously old enough to drink just to flatter them is a bit much.

 

[disney1990]

Not everyone is flattered when they are carded.

Last night DH and I went out to dinner. I ordered a drink and the waitress asked to see my ID, I asked her if she would also like to see my AARP card while I had my wallet out. I was nice about it and said it in a joking way, but I was still a little miffed that I had to drag through my purse at the table to find it.

I am asked many times if I qualify for the senior discount and with my white hair, there is NO CHANCE I am anywhere close to being 21. In fact I am often mistaken for my DDs grandmother!

She said they were told people are flattered when they are asked when they are obviously not close to 21.

Like I said, I wasn't flattered, just annoyed.

One town near us, they are required to card EVERYBODY.

 

[aduck126]

i didn't read through all the post but as many of them probably said already is that SHE WAS JUST DOING HER JOB! its not a big deal. I am a server and we get fired if we don't card everyone that orders alcohol. there is nothing more annoying to us than people who make a big fuss about showing their ID. Like it is such a huge problem. She probably just said that she did it to be flattering as a way to smooth things over, most places force you to card. so stop getting "annoyed" over something so little, or just don't order a drink if it is going to ruin your whole night.

 

[aduck126]

Once my husband and I were staying in a hotel and went to the bar to order a drink. I left my wallet in the room. I was carded, but chose not to return to my room and get my ID. I chose not to have a drink so the server lost a sale and of course, the accompanying tip.

Statements like this is prove why I think everyone should work in the service industry at some point in their life. The world would be a much friendlier place.

 

[Pluto 2]

Maybe you look close to 30!

I volunteered to work a stand at a local arena for a church fundraiser and they indicated we were to card everyone 30 and younger.

We were required to take an alcohol course and it outlined the many laws and how much trouble you personally could get into by serving an underaged or intoxicated person, so I carded everyone!

why would a church fundraiser be selling alcohol?

 

[PlainJane]

I agree with you, and i'm "only" 39. I hate being carded and find it to be a huge annoyance - there is no way I look 20, or 30 either. I understand the reason they do this, if they have to proof everyone, but it's annoying. I don't always have my DL on me as I would rather not lug around my purse everywhere I go.

A couple in their 70's was carded at Wegmans in front of me the other day. I mean, really.....

You're already carrying the money to buy the drink, I don't understand how adding an ID would significantly add to the load.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

It's easy to put money in my back pocket, I wouldn't want to put an ID there because it will get bent.

 

[wishwash01]

My dad got carded at a NASCAR race in Vegas last yr. He was 61. He has gray thin hair. He thought the person was joking with him, but they wouldn't give him the beer until he showed his ID.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

My dad got carded at a NASCAR race in Vegas last yr. He was 61. He has gray thin hair. He thought the person was joking with him, but they wouldn't give him the beer until he showed his ID.

The world has gone nutso. There is no common sense anymore, everything is about regulations and rules. With all of this nonsense, still the under 21 crowd will have places to buy drinks without difficulty.

 

[rgf207]

Not everyone is flattered when they are carded.

Last night DH and I went out to dinner. I ordered a drink and the waitress asked to see my ID, I asked her if she would also like to see my AARP card while I had my wallet out. I was nice about it and said it in a joking way, but I was still a little miffed that I had to drag through my purse at the table to find it.

I am asked many times if I qualify for the senior discount and with my white hair, there is NO CHANCE I am anywhere close to being 21. In fact I am often mistaken for my DDs grandmother!

She said they were told people are flattered when they are asked when they are obviously not close to 21.

Like I said, I wasn't flattered, just annoyed.

It is a Maryland State law that all people that consume alcohol must have their identification on them while they are consuming alcohol no matter what age. Every restaurant where I am from ID's everyone regardless of how old you look. I'm not sure if the law is the same in your state.

 

[krcit]

why would a church fundraiser be selling alcohol?

Why wouldn't it?

 

[chloelovesdisney]

Interesting, my dad lives outside of Baltimore and I go to visit at least twice a year. I always get a glass of wine with dinner and not once have I been carded. I do not carry my ID on me, so I guess I have been lucky.

 

[JohnsPrincess]

We went out to eat with Dh's father and one of his sisters a month or so ago. We all ordered a drink and so the waiter asked to see all our IDs. I wasn't surprised because I am usually carded ( ). Dh and his sis took it in stride too. They're both older than I am...but not by much. Dh's dad 60. And there is NO WAY he could be mistaken for 21. So we showed but his dad kind of sat there and laughed. The waiter stood there and when it was apparent fil wasn't pulling his ID out, he asked for it Again. FIL was taken aback and asked if he was serious. He said that he was and that they were required to see everyone's. Silly rule...I think. I mean, the man is OBVIOUSLY not 21!!

 

[acejka]

When I waited tables, it was policy to card everyone, no matter what. And they sent "secret shoppers" around frequently to make sure it was being done. Don't do it, loose your job, simple as that.

I can't believe that people are so uptight about getting out their ID. Wow.

You are no more special than the rest of the snowflakes, some resturarants require ID for everyone, and everyone means everyone....

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

My dad got carded at a NASCAR race in Vegas last yr. He was 61. He has gray thin hair. He thought the person was joking with him, but they wouldn't give him the beer until he showed his ID.

Sometimes though, rules have been set that EVERYONE must get carded. Or, the person just made a mistake and asked because it's what that had done for the previous 15 customers.

I don't know if it's true everywhere but in Oregon, as soon as someone is asked for ID, if they cannot produce it, they cannot have alcohol. It doesn't matter how old the person looks or their reason for not having their ID. Once asked, no ID=no alcohol. A lot of the undercover OLCC people use this rule to catch alcohol serving people.

Also... violation of the rules and it's a $1500 fine for the person AND a $1500 fine for the establishment and suspension of liquor selling license. So sorry, if it comes down to it, my job, my not having to pay $1500 is more important than your inconvenience.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

When I waited tables, it was policy to card everyone, no matter what. And they sent "secret shoppers" around frequently to make sure it was being done. Don't do it, loose your job, simple as that.

I can't believe that people are so uptight about getting out their ID. Wow.

You are no more special than the rest of the snowflakes, some resturarants require ID for everyone, and everyone means everyone....