7yr old girl calling my house constantly!

[tiggger1]

I am having issues with a girl from my daughter's 1st grade class constantly calling the house. I guess the last day before xmas vacation they exchanged numbers. I already spoke to my dd about giving the number out but she was giving it to her friend who moved to Pennsylvania this week, and another girl ( she is very smart but bossy and rude) and heard them and told my dd to give it to her and my dd was afraid to say no. The second we walked in the house the phone was ringing and it was the girl. DD talked her for a few seconds and said her mom wanted to talk to me.. Of course when I get to the phone I hear her saying "her mom wants to talk to you" So mom comes to the phone and I explain that I didnt asked to talk to her and the mom apologized and I hear the daughter tell her mom she wanted to come here. I told her that today was not a good day and if we weren't busy we would call and set something up during the week but with my son's appointments all week I doubted it. Well she called at 8 am the day after christmas and my dd was still asleep and I told her I would have her call her back later. She called every 15 minutes for over an hour ( I stopped answering after the second call)

Now she has call at least 3-4 times a day, if I dont answer she hangs up and calls right back until I answer. She is driving me nuts and I am afraid I am going to snap and yell at her!!!

I was going to talk to her mom but her mom is on the strange side ( she is the one I posted about last year where she would drive in the school parking lot going 35 miles and hour and back into the handicapped parking without looking and almost hit a bunch of people!!! When someone complained she yelled at them

Any ideas!!

 

[clovergirl5]

I am having issues with a girl from my daughter's 1st grade class constantly calling the house. I guess the last day before xmas vacation they exchanged numbers. I already spoke to my dd about giving the number out but she was giving it to her friend who moved to Pennsylvania this week, and another girl ( she is very smart but bossy and rude) and heard them and told my dd to give it to her and my dd was afraid to say no. The second we walked in the house the phone was ringing and it was the girl. DD talked her for a few seconds and said her mom wanted to talk to me.. Of course when I get to the phone I hear her saying "her mom wants to talk to you" So mom comes to the phone and I explain that I didnt asked to talk to her and the mom apologized and I hear the daughter tell her mom she wanted to come here. I told her that today was not a good day and if we weren't busy we would call and set something up during the week but with my son's appointments all week I doubted it. Well she called at 8 am the day after christmas and my dd was still asleep and I told her I would have her call her back later. She called every 15 minutes for over an hour ( I stopped answering after the second call)

Now she has call at least 3-4 times a day, if I dont answer she hangs up and calls right back until I answer. She is driving me nuts and I am afraid I am going to snap and yell at her!!!

I was going to talk to her mom but her mom is on the strange side ( she is the one I posted about last year where she would drive in the school parking lot going 35 miles and hour and back into the handicapped parking without looking and almost hit a bunch of people!!! When someone complained she yelled at them

Any ideas!!

Oh, thats a tough one. I don't like when my younger dc give out our unlisted # either. Even dd13 has a specific friend who calls at 11pm

Don't know what to tell ya, change your #. Put your phone on mute so when it rings and its her you can't hear it. Maybe she will finally get the hint. I wouldn't want to deal with the mom either, maybe you are going to have to. Good luck

 

[mickilee]

put her on the blocking list.

 

[PebblesMK]

:::sigh::: My daughter has quite a few friends like this. One of them was realllllllllllllllly bad in the first grade. I don't recall being allowed to talk on the phone when I was that young, but that is a completely different topic. This girl would call at least 30 times a day (Oh how I wish I was exagerrating) and then would call my cell phone another ten. I finally got really annoyed I and when I answered, I was extremely firm and told her that if somebody doesn't answer the first time she calls, she needed to leave a message and I would pass on the message. I also told her that if she called more than she needed to, my daughter would not be allowed to talk on the phone to her. It did take her a few times to understand that I was completely serious and she has really got control of her calling. Now that they're in 3rd grade, that girl has the most polite phone matter and she'll call and say "Hi, I hope I'm not bothering you, but if Macy is available, I'd like to talk to her"......hahaa, that is from the kid that all the parents can't stand because she calls their houses non-stop. Nip it in the bud or she'll keep doing it.

 

[kidshop]

Do these other parents have no clue what their child is doing at a given moment?! This has happened to me before, the calling over and over and over until someone answers and the early calls. I know when my kids make calls and I will not allow them to repeatedly call a friends house. (they are 7 and 10) You get one shot and you leave a message...end of game! I point out this rude behavior to my kids when it comes up so they won't do it to someone else. I blame the parents. They should know what their kids are doing and what devices they are using! One time, ok, but every day...these kids are not given supervision or direction to proper polite behavior.

 

[DawnCt1]

I would just answer the phone and tell her that your DD is not taking any phone calls today or that she isn't allowed to use the phone except for emergencies or whatever your rule is.

 

[wenrob]

A very firm, stern, "Call one time and leave a message. I'll have her call you back " has worked for me. Not yelling but not friendly either.

 

[MonkeyDishwasher]

Block her number. Problem solved.

 

[FireDancer]

That is why no one has my real phone number. I have a Google voice account that rings my home and cell number. Callers have to announce themselves and you can pre-select numbers to go right to VM and never even ring.

It is one of the best services out there.

 

[Ceila]

Since the child is only 7, I would not hesitate to contact the parents, regardless of the mother's reputation. I certainly wouldn't be scared off by the possibility of her yelling at me. If that didn't work (or the mother reacted with an attitude), I'd block the number.

 

[simonsmom]

I had my daughter tell her friend- 4 times a day between this hour and that hour. It worked.

 

[PaddingtonBear]

I'd just pick up the phone and tell her to knock it off. Give her some guidelines, like "You can call once. If you don't get an answer, leave a message. If you call repeatedly, my daughter will not be allowed to talk to you on the phone. Do not call before x time in the morning or after x time at night". End of story. No way somone else's first grader is going to disrupt my family.

 

[fireflymedic]

change your number to, or get a new number just for the friend. a 900 number

 

[Bunchkin]

I would speak to her mother. Why be afraid to confront a 7 yr old and her whack-job mom???
Obviously, her mother is clueless as to what her DD is doing AND/OR she lacks the common sense it takes to realize it's not acceptable to call someone repeatedly day after day.

If speaking to the mother doesn't help the situation, then I would block the number.

 

[PatsGirl]

BTDT and then made the mistake of allowing a playdate. I think the girls were about 4th grade at the time. The other girl kept begging DD to come over so I decided I'd drop her for two hours and go shopping nearby. When I dropped her off it was obvious that the child was living in poverty but worse than that, filth. When I went back to get her she was all done up in make-up (they were just playing but...) and could hardly wait to get in the car. I spoke with her Mom and thanked her, etc. On the way home, DD was very upset about the way this poor girl lived. They remained friends on my terms but eventually she moved to a different school district. While it was very sad, it was also a great lesson for DD in modesty,sharing, and empathy

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I'd just pick up the phone and tell her to knock it off. Give her some guidelines, like "You can call once. If you don't get an answer, leave a message. If you call repeatedly, my daughter will not be allowed to talk to you on the phone. Do not call before x time in the morning or after x time at night". End of story. No way somone else's first grader is going to disrupt my family.

Ditto.

 

[Tina]

Honestly, I don't think speaking to her mother will help. If you want to change the situation and teach this little girl manners, I suggest you speak to her like a parent to a child. I say this because many, many years ago, I was that little girl. I was raised in a home where I was taught no manners. If a parent had spoken to my mother, my mother would have grumbled and complained afterwards about the other mother, but done nothing. That is because she has no manners. I was taught proper manners and behavior by a friend's mother and it started around the age of 7 or 8. It started with me joining them on several outings but never saying thank you. One day, as she was dropping me off, she stopped and explained to me how rude I was being. From the perspective of a child, I thought I was being "yelled at." But she ended it with a "you're welcome" and a hug and I felt great afterwards. While I never called her home so many times, she did teach me phone manners. I used to say "Is Lori home?" as soon as she answered, without first greeting her with a hello. She taught me many more things that my mother neglected to do, and today, I thank her for it.

So do that child a favor and teach her some manners. You'll be glad you did and later in life, so will she.

 

[happygirl]

Could you talk to her parents

 

[The Mystery Machine]

OP, teaching the girl your "phone rules" for the house is no different than teaching the girl the "house rules" if she were over and playing.

I would give it a shot and see what happens.