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[C.Ann]

Calling hours for my DH are at 4 o'clock tomorrow.. I know we have to go earlier - to bring the photos and such - but I think I'm going to drive myself batty between now and then.. I am literally sitting here listening to the clock tick.. Can't sleep, not interested in television, and everyone else has gone to bed..

I got the photo collages done and they came out really nice - the scrapbook I'm not all that happy with.. Hopefully "Elmer Fudd" will be able to set them up in a decent manner.. When I tried to ask him about it on the telephone Friday he couldn't be bothered and had no idea which room we were going to be using because "he'd had 4 more calls since then.." (Yeah - so??) I don't have a good feeling about this.. He couldn't/wouldn't tell me how the urn was going to be set up (something I really needed to know when ordering the flowers) and when I asked if we had a time for the funeral yet he said, "I already told your stepdaughter what time it was.." Hello ??? I believe it's my signature on the bill - not hers - so don't you think you should have called me ?? I wanted to reach through the telephone and strangle him, but instead I said, "Well she's in Florida , so how would I know that?" He managed to screw up the obituary in the paper too (it ran yesterday and today - was supposed to be today and tomorrow); put down that my DH worked for his company 30 years instead of 38; and spelled my DD's last name wrong.. Then to add insult to injury, at the end of the notice it says to visit their web site for directions and guest book and the dufus doesn't even have my DH listed on their obituary page!! I'll tell ya - he's lucky I'm not coming to that funeral home packing a weapon.. I've had about all the incompetence I can take for one lifetime..

I just wish the whole thing was over.. Nothing can be accomplished without a major hassle or flat out incompetence - and I don't want to play anymore.. My Dad always said that nothing brings out the worst in people like a funeral does and I guess he was right...

If you don't hear from me for several days, you think you all could come break me out of jail???? The "list" continues to grow..........

 

[gallaj0]

C.Ann,,

I hope you can find some time for oyourself in all this.

And then go ahead, and take it out on everyone who ticks you off.

Tell them The Dis said you could. You've got 50,000 friends who can come by and cause trouble.

 

[Kermit]

We love you. Try to get some sleep. No one is going to think it's your fault if the funeral is a little disorganized. If they do, tough. Tell them to call me and I'll straighten them out.

 

[rascalmom]

C. Ann, I'm so sorry. This must be an incredibly difficult time - you have had to deal with so much. How about taking a nice, long hot bath. (put away the weapons first)
We are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[Serena]

Lady, you have come through all this without killing anyone. I think that is a major accomplishment. I'm not so sure I would have been able to do that.

This stage will be over soon. I'm sure another one is around the corner. I would just try to take it easy and rest. You know you need it.

You could write down what you're feeling and then burn it. It's theraputic. Or it was for me. I wrote down every bad feeling I had, and believe me, some was pretty bad, but I burned it all. It felt good.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Continued good wishes, C.Ann. Don't let the little things get in the way of a nice memorial.

 

[sissybells]

First off I would like to say how sory I am. And My Prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[Ratpack]

Got the bail bond covered, girl!! I can not believe that this saga continues for you. Just remember to get through the next couple of days and then you can tell 'em all what you think. Prayers for you!!

 

[MELSMICE]

Hugs to you C.Ann. My thoughts & prayers continue to be with you.

 

[MB MinnieGirl]

You have certainly had more than your fair share haven't you sweetie.

I wish there were more we could do for you other than offer hugs, prayers, bail bonds, and if needed even a good *** kicking for those that need it.

This stage will be over soon and you will be faced with new challanges so try to hold on a little longer. God bless you C. Ann...you are in our thougths and our hearts!

 

[Costumesaremylife]

I've got $25 set aside for bail money. I think we can come up with the right amount. I am sorry your familiy is so dramatic. Bizarre family drama follows me wherever I go. I'll leave you with this tidbit. A "Working Girl" (complete with see through top, daisy dukes and ripped fishnets) came in to the funeral home during my Nana's wake. She signed the guest book, paid her respects and used the bathroom. One of the visitors was later propositioned on his walk back to the car. I wish I was kidding.

 

[C.Ann]

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[Pin Wizard]

Hugs for you, C.Ann! Probably some sleepless nights ahead. No consolation, but I can tell you obits are always wrong. Neither of my parents were correct, not my sister, not my husband. Something was messed up in all of them. With DH...they had his last position at his job at IBM in NJ listed with his employer at the time in FL. No, he wasn't in Security at Publix!! Ha! Where do they get this stuff from? Some night you will just collapse in bed and finally sleep! This stuff is sooooo stressful.

 

[CynJ]

I opened the closet door awhile ago to try to decide what I was going to wear tomorrow and Tuesday and the rod busted and all my clothes fell on the floor!!

C.Ann I think its time for a hot bubble bath with a glass of wine.

I hope things go smoothly tomorrow.

Take care of you!

 

[julia & nicks mom]

Good to know there are folks here willing to post bond - or do a little "butt" kicking for me.. LOL

I'll tell ya - if things weren't so tragic right now, they would be downright funny.. I opened the closet door awhile ago to try to decide what I was going to wear tomorrow and Tuesday and the rod busted and all my clothes fell on the floor!!

Oh - I am so sorry!! It just seems like everything is going the wrong way for you!! And I am very sorry that I started to laugh that your clothes fell down!! That happened to me last week when I was trying find a dress for a dinner party for my DH's work and my kids were screaming and I was trying to get everyone ready to leave - including myself!! Why can't someone make a decent rod that won't fall down us!!

I hope that all goes well tomorrow! You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Ignore your family - concentrate on the wonderful memories of your husband!!

Oh yea - I have bail money set aside for you too!!

 

[C.Ann]

And the perfect ending to an otherwise horrid day, my white snow boots just totally fell apart in the washing machine! LOL They said "machine washable", just not any machine that I might be using, that is...

The next time someone tells me there's no such thing as a "curse", I'm gonna kick 'em one!!!!!!

 

[NC Belle]

 

[diznygirl]

Good to know there are folks here willing to post bond - or do a little "butt" kicking for me.. LOL

I'll tell ya - if things weren't so tragic right now, they would be downright funny.. I opened the closet door awhile ago to try to decide what I was going to wear tomorrow and Tuesday and the rod busted and all my clothes fell on the floor!!

Oh C.Ann - been there! When my FIL was dying of cancer sooo much stuff was going wring - flat tires and such - it was so overwhelming. When we were staying at SIL's appt on the air mattress the pump broke - so no sleep that night - we bought a new pump but there was a raging party in the apt upstairs - so no sleep that night - and then the next night it was nice and quiet and the air mattress sprung a leak! We couldn't take it any longer and broke out into a fit of giggles! What else could we do?! The next night we checked into a hotel and somebody pulled the fire alarm at 11 pm!

for you right now - it'll get better.

 

[zippeedee]

C.Ann, you are in my thoughts. I am so sorry for all you are dealing with and your loss. I really believe that all this crazy stuff happens to keep us from having to focus on the overwhelming loss we feel at death.

Four years ago, my poor mom woke up feeling really sick on the day the hospice nurse told us my dad would probably be gone within the day. I had her miserable in one bedroom and him dying in the other. She and I had been up for three days taking care of him. I really felt like I was losing my mind. It turned out that the hospice nurse did more for Mom that day, there wasn't much that could help Dad. We sent my brother out for some lunch and when he got back an ambulance was taking Mom, not Dad. She had done something to an old hernia while trying to make dad more comfortable and ended up having major surgery. DSIL followed the ambulance and spent the day at the hospital. Once the surgery was successful, she went home to take their dog out and they got sprayed by a skunk! Dad passed that night, mom was in the hospital and rehab for a month. We had to meet the funeral director the next morning with the smell of skunk coverup spray lingering in the air. We couldn't have the memorial service without Mom, so poor Dad (well, his ashes) waited on a shelf at the funeral home until she could be there. The whole thing is still a bit if a blur four years later. I truly think I could not have dealt with losing my dad without all the distractions, as maddening as they were at the time. We just had to laugh, some of it was just too much! Don't feel bad about the things that make you have to laugh, they are a gift, even if it doesn't feel that way at the time.