Well, one way to look at that pension is what you guys would have needed to save/invested in order to kick off that $75,000 per year....roughly $1,800,000 using the 4% rule at a true retirement age...lasting 30-ish years. You would have needed to save in excess of $2,300,000 using the 4% rule...to be able to pull 75K per year as income for *50* years that he will be drawing that income.
So that's how I'd look at it. No, you might not have a huge pile of money due to very high COLAs early in his career and because you needed to be a full time SAHM for the benefit of your children. But....that's a very good pension...*and*, at 44 there's *plenty* of time to pile up money to buy a house if you so choose. And he will also qualify for SS correct?
Again, not saying you don't deserve more, but those of us in the private sector need to save/invest a couple of million to throw off that income.