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[Disney Princess 6]

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[Disney Princess 6]

Sorry...my mind is all #$*#*@.

 

[Kimnicki]

You're not alone . DH and I were just discussing our "sweet" little 6 yr old DS. He used to be an angel. I'm not sure what's happened lately, but I've been going through the exact same thing as you just described. It's like he was never taught any manners. I would NEVER have talked to my mom the way he talks to me. I thought maybe it's because he just started 1st grade and it's a long day, blah blah, but now I'm just thinking this is really him . There are (many) times during the day that he's so sweet and snuggly. Other times (usually when he doesn't get what he wants...and I don't give in either) he's horrible.

I'm hoping to figure out how to handle this soon .

Good luck!


Kim

 

[LIDisneyFan]

I feel your pain. BTW, DD was a royal pain at 5-6, then she really changed and became as sweetheart.

Well, until she turned about 12. Which is her age now.


Cherish the good times, be patient during the bad. I'm guessing he's trying to get attention - positive attention goes farther than negative. Lesson hard learned.

Oh, and when you can't be patient or positive, go in your car and scream for a while.

 

[Missy1961]

I'm not a mom, but an aunt of a wonderful but very FRESH 5 about to be 6 yr old niece. She told her mother recently, "I'm not going to call you mom any more!". I just spent the weekend watching her and her 2 yr old sister while their parents were out of town. When she was fresh to me, I told her I was going to give her a time out (and she knows I will do it, I have done it before) and she told me, "I'll just leave my room!". So yes, you are not alone. And I bet they are all sweet as pie in class--and their teachers adore them! They just drive their families crazy!

 

[gr8tpanther]

My DD is 11 and swears like a sailor, has no respect for anyone or anything and could care less what she says or does.

Right now she is confined to her room for a week and if she can't come out being nicer than she was when she went in, she can just stay there!

You are not alone on the feelings there. I have been feeling that with my DD since she was 3!!! Because that is how long I been dealing with her attitude!

We have been to counselors, Drs, psychiatrists, psychologists, you name it we been there. All anyone ever says is "she is complicated" The school wants me to put her in a residential home and I just can't do that.

 

[Kallison]

I feel your pain -- I have a 14 year old who is for the most part respectful, but his younger brother 12 - spends many hours in his room because he can't learn to keep his mouth shut!

 

[damo]

My only advice is that if you threaten him with taking away a privilege, you need to stick with it, otherwise you lose all credibility. Saying this, you also need to be careful what you threaten with. Other than that, I've got nothing!!! Good luck!

 

[LMC]

I think your key words are "last few months" which happens to coincide w/ school starting!! I would talk w/ the teacher and if he is being a problem at school in this way, have teacher limit his privileges at school and you limit them at home. A bar of soap works wonders too.... washes all that crud right out!

 

[mom2rb]

I've got two six year olds so I feel your pain. A few weeks ago one of them was so mouthy to me I told him to go to his room for a long time out. When he asked me how long it would be I told him his time out would be over when urge to hit him left my body. He has been pretty polite since then.

 

[nuke]

My angel of a child goes through these stages. Every few months he just becomes a nightmare for a couple of days. We usually have to take away video games for about a week and he snaps right out of it.
If he mouths off to me I tell him to go to his room until he can talk to me normally. He hates to be sent to his room. I don't know why because all his toys are in there.

 

[Disney Princess 6]

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[diznygirl]

It's rough having to grow up. Kids have a great life - until they have to go to school. They have to give up all the freedoms they had at home. (Unless they were in daycare). I really feel bad for them. But it's a necessary part of growing up. But to be perfectly honest - it stinks!!

Sounds like you have been doing everything right. If you just keep at it, I'm sure he'll be your sweet little boy again! (crossing fingers!)

 

[SpecialK]

I just went through this with my almost 7 year old. Once he got comfortable with the new routine of going to school, it got better. He also seemed to calm down if he got lots of hugs and attention. It seemed to reassure him. Now I think he might have been mouthing off for extra attention because of separation anxiety.

I'd forgotten how scary school is for kids. Just today my older son (who's in third grade) told me how lonesome he was for me during the day at school. When I asked him how long it took to get over feeling that way, he said, "I still do." I forget how little they really are until something like that happens.

Hang in there. It will get better when he gets older.

 

[DisneyJules]

That talking back and sort of behavior can stop immediately. I think its extremely important to follow through on punishment. They have to be able to predict the consequence a 100%. If I do a, b happens. My parents never allowed us to speak that way and so we never did. I tried talking back to my mom once when she asked me to set the table, boy did I get set in my place. From then on, I never even thought of it.

 

[Sammie]

Go buy Dr. Phil's book, "Family First"

 

[chris1gill]

Originally posted by DisneyJules
That talking back and sort of behavior can stop immediately. I think its extremely important to follow through on punishment. They have to be able to predict the consequence a 100%. If I do a, b happens. My parents never allowed us to speak that way and so we never did. I tried talking back to my mom once when she asked me to set the table, boy did I get set in my place. From then on, I never even thought of it.

I have to agree with DisneyJules here... our kids don't dare do this talking back, there are very serious consequences and they know it. When their attitudes need adjusting, they're told as much & they are also told that if it continues they will not join us on the next family trip, we are quite serious about this as we would absolutely leave them home with their grandmother.

Believe me, they understand what's expected of them & that we will under no circumstance allow anything less than what we've requested... Whatever you threaten you must follow through on & that's the end of the story.... Our kids are almost 7 & 10, so they aren't teens yet, we'll deal with that when it gets here

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by chris1gill
I have to agree with DisneyJules here... our kids don't dare do this talking back, there are very serious consequences and they know it. When their attitudes need adjusting, they're told as much & they are also told that if it continues they will not join us on the next family trip, we are quite serious about this as we would absolutely leave them home with their grandmother.

When you have a difficult child this does not work. Just thought I would let you know. I wish it would, however....

 

[DisneyMomx7]

I went through this with my now 7 year old daughter. When she started kindergarten (shortly before her 5th birthday) she became so fresh to me that I also dreaded picking her up from school. Now I know that sounds awful but it was true. What I now know was happening is that she was a year to a year and half younger than almost every other kid in the class and she couldn't keep up and starting feeling really bad about herself. It was a miserable year. I switched school and put her back in kindergarten and things are so much better. I know your first instinct is to go crazy but sometimes there are such strong outside influences that the only ones they can take their anger out on are the ones they love the most. Not that it makes it any easier to go through - it was just an example of what happened to us.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

I also feel your pain. My DD 5 is going thru the same thing. But not all the time. We have good days and not so good ones. This weekend she spent some quality time in timeout to think about the things that she said to me and her cousin.
Than we sat down and talked about how she would feel if someone talked to her that way. I always try to turn things around so she has to think about how things would be if she was on the receiving end of someone not being nice. Or how she would feel if I didn't listen to the things that she had to say to me. Sometimes that seems to hit home a little more than getting upset with her.

Good luck!