I just wanted to say I am very sorry that this has happened to you right before your trip that the kids were so looking forward to. I want to preface what I am going to say by saying that regardless of the reason your husband has left he is acting very selfish in the matter given that the children were looking forward to their trip. The least he could have done was wait till after the trip. I don't know you, or your husband so I cannot comment on your situation, nor do I feel qualified in any way to give you advice on what your next action should be. The only thing I wanted to add was thaat I possibly know and understand some things your husband is feeling. I love my wife very much and have been married to her for 24 years this August. We have a wonderful life and two great children. We have friends, and activities and hobbies and really enjoy life. Dispite all that there are times when as a man I feel very unloved, and very unappreciated. It is a common condition in men that they feel around 40 years old. Another name for it is yes "mid life crisis". But in reality the emotions and feelings that create the MLC are very deep rooted psychologically. Men are the hunter gatherers and thus need to feel in control. They tend to also need somewhat constant recognition for their efforts. When things are not going their way and they have work problems, or are passed over for promotions or feel they are not providing everything they can to their families they feel inadequate and can easily slide into severe depression. I am not saying like others that there is definately another woman because in cases where the type behavior I am describing occurs there is typically not another woman. The man goes into the woe is me mode and will be heard saying things like, "all anybody around this house cares about is whether I bring home a paycheck" They feel like nothing they do is right. What others would see as gentle proding by a wife like "don't forget to pick up your laundry today, or don't forget your sons baseball game tonight" become verbal barbs to them. They think that they are worthless and unworthy of love from anyone. They draw away from every one in their life.
I have no idea what your situation is but as someone who has seen this happen and experienced similar feelings I am just putting it out there as a possibility. This is a situation that can be overcome and you can get past it so I guess I offer it as a form of hope. Then again I could be totally wrong and it could be something else all together but in any situation I wish the best for you and your family.
to the OP. I feel for you. Hope you go on that trip and have a wonderful time w/ your sister and kids.
