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[Pembo]

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[MosMom]

See, my daughter never had the terrible two's. She was really quite wonderful through the two's (with exception to when she through a huge fit in the grocery store because I wouldn't let her chew on a dog bone in the pet aisle). She had the Fearful Fours and it still coming out of that at 6 years old.

My son turned 21 months on the 9th and is definitely hitting the terrible two's. Holy cow, he is such a little sweetheart but the temper is driving me nuts! How can such a loving little baby turn into the tantrum throwing thug so quickly? One minute he is smacking me then puts his head on my lap and says "Awwww" to hug me. LOL

What are you doing about the fits? Do you ignore them? Is she hitting at all? What are you doing about that?

 

[piglet too]

Can I add my tantrum inducers?? Wanting the spoon her brother has, not wanting the lid on the cup, not getting a bath for the fifth time in the day....
Sounds like our daughters are on the same page (she is two in May), now if I can just figure out the five yr olds moods I 'll be set. Well, until my almost 10 yr old starts up with his "pre-teen" attitude. LOL

 

[dvcfamily41801]

Good luck to you, I can feel your pain. Actually, I have to say, that Matt has only had 2 or 3 meltdowns thus far. I am sure there are more to come, at 4 1/2 I am hopefull though that I am out of the woods

 

[leahannpen]

Oh yes indeedy! My son has tantrums (though not many) and it seems that wanting to do something by himself set him off the most. I try explaining to just ask for help when he gets frustrated and he's learning. Slowly. I've also noticed that when I keep him notified of things, such as .. dark, what I expect, bed times and the like, he's much more agreeable.

Most of my friends have said that the 3's are much worse...?? Gosh I hope not... he turns 3 in 3 days! I'm scared!

I usually tell him, when he's crying or whining or arguing, to go in his room until he can be a good boy. This seems to work well. He'll usually come out saying he's going to be good. We started this a while ago though. Sort of a time-out type of thing I guess.

Good luck!

 

[Pembo]

I can honestly say that I thought the 3's were bad too with my boys. At 2 it's all so frustrating because they can't tell you what they want. At 3, they can tell you but when you disagree it's awful! And at 8, look out.


MosMom - When she has her moments, I lay her down on the carpet and let her cry. After a bit I ask her if she's done, and try to pick her up. If she yells and thrashes, I leave her alone.

Just had another tantrum after nap. She wanted to eat. But as I was getting the yogurt ready, she threw her head back and smacked the counter. Oy!

Now she's off to the Ymca to watch her brothers at swim lessons.........I'm alone and it's quiet................

 

[Robinrs]

My Goddaughter, who was the most ADORABLE even tempered child, had a son 4 years ago who has DOUBLED the terrible twos!!

She was a total angel, I remember so much of it because she lived with my parents from 1 1/2 to 3 when we first moved south. She was my baby, a sweet smart child I ddin't mind going anywhere with...

Fast forward to the year 2000.

Her son, Jakoby is born. He was a terror from day one! He seems to find happiness in making people mad or miserable. When he was going through the terrible twos my family, even the most tolerant ones, ran screaming whenever he came around!

This was HONESTLY the only personal experience I had with them and I FEEL for you all who are still living through it.

 

[DD2Disney]

I always feel a little better when I read these posts, My DS 2 1/2 doesn't have tantrums or what I think of as tantrums anyways. However he gets in his little moods and just won't listen or respond, except to hit me. Which of course is not acceptable. When he goes over the edge which seems to be once or twice a day lately, I put him in his room and walk away. How else do you correct behavior on someone so young? I wish I would have thought about asking these questions a long time ago. Oh and I forgot to mention that he thinks everything is funny. I know this sounds silly because he is only two......but I want to make sure I correct his behavior the right way while I can control it. I hope that makes sense....he is my first child. Don't really have parent figures to answer these types of questions.

 

[castlegazer]

Hi - Mom of a two year old who is a genetic rip-off of his Mom - me the most stubborn person on the planet at times. So I always think I am getting what I breed.

Yup, we have daily tantrums and I am getting pretty used to them now. They are easily diverted. Laughter and a little poking fun of him usually helps. I always scrunch up my face and make a funny sounding voice and try to mimick him and it seems to always bring out the giggles. Works now - won't tomorrow. Hang on. I definately have my Mommy seat belt on for this period. It is very tough. Takes this for example - my DS was doing great on Potty training. He even trained one of his dolls. Now - no way is going on that THING and to top it off, NO WAY IS he getting his diaper changed. Well, Hello, what exactly do you plan on doing here? It is a constant battle and I haven't figured out how to win this one yet.

 

[Kermit]

Call me crazy, but the 2's is one of my favorite stages. I haven't dealt with it yet with my own kids, but I worked in daycare and as a nanny in college, and most of the time it was with 2 year olds. In fact, there was a time when I wanted some experience working with other ages, but the director wouldn't let me move to another room because I was the only employee who they could put in the 2-year-old room for more than a month or two without worrying about me quitting. I know that stage is exhausting, but it's just so fun to get watch them turn from babies into children. Even when they're driving you crazy, you can see that they're starting to understand more about the world and that they do have some bit of control over things. Don't get me wrong. I don't blame any of you for "venting" about the stage. There were many days when I was just sure that I was going to have to go into a mental institution after spending a whole day with 22 2-year-olds, but overall, it's rewarding to see how all of your hard work is helping them to become independent.

 

[Pembo]

22 two years olds...........AUGH!!!!!!!!!!


I have to agree Kermit, it is one of the most remarkable ages. They grow SO much. It's just all those little crying fits of frustration that get Mommy frustrated too.

 

[Mimi Q]

We never experienced the "terrible twos" with our first DD, but boy are we in the midst of it now. I just came upstairs and closed the door to get away from her for a little while. She was in the middle of a temper tantrum, so I decided to let DH handle this one.