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[mom2rtk]

I would find it a bit odd for first cousins to have the same first name. As a middle name? I wouldn't give it a second thought.

 

[PollyannaMom]

I would find it a bit odd for first cousins to have the same first name. As a middle name? I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I agree. It would be awkward if it were first names, but I really see no issue with the same middle name. - In fact, one of my cousins has my first name as her middle name, and I remember being really flattered! (She was born when I was 10.)

 

[morgan98]

We see each other enough. As i said, I have no idea where she got the name from. We asked but they didn’t answer. It’s just a middle name so it probably won’t come up but I still find it strange.

We are talking about a middle name? Really, no big deal and I wouldn't worry at all. I mean your brother should be able to use his mother's name too.

 

[siren0119]

No. She’s just born my kid is almost 9. And she never once said that she had that name picked for her kids. Whatever this is kind of what I expectedly on here

So here's the thing.

Whether someone uses the same first name, middle name, confirmation name, whatever as someone else in the same family, it's really not something to get in a bunch about. It was VERY common in the past for families to use and reuse "family" names - to the point where kids in the same family were all called by their middle names because they all shared a first name. You had very good reasons for using the name you did. She probably does too, even IF that reason is because she really liked the one you used - that's still a valid reason. Nobody has exclusive rights to a name in a family, and it's not "stealing" if more than one person uses the same name.

 

[nd5056]

You don’t have anything to add just keep scrolling. I’ve seen worse on here

Doesn't look like you've gotten much sleep last night, it must bother you quite a bit.

 

[SC Minnie]

Well, I named DD the same as her first cousin without realizing it. DH's neice is Katie, I had only known her as Katie. When DD was born we named her Catherine. DH never said a word. When we told Katie's mother (DH's sister) what we named her she said 'oh that's Katie's name and spelled the same!' I seriously had no idea her name was Catherine. We have always called DD by her full name and the cousin is still called Katie except for business.

 

[Skellingtonj]

We are talking about a middle name? Really, no big deal and I wouldn't worry at all. I mean your brother should be able to use his mother's name too.

I’m.not being clear This is my husbands brother. His kid is not named after my mom. My kid is. I don’t know where they got that middle name from. The consensus is I’m overreacting which I’m fine with. I was just asking.

 

[hopemax]

70's kid here. I think 1/3 of the girls my age had Marie as a middle name. And then another 1/3 had my Middle name (Ann). If a name was more obscure, I might raise an eyebrow. But Marie, nope.

 

[MooseBucks]

Cousins sharing middle names is no big deal IMO

 

[shoney]

Most in our families have ann or Marie as their middle name. No one uses them so I don’t see an issue.

 

[nkereina]

Marie might be one of the most common middle names I can think of. At least here, in upstate NY and in my demographic if early 30s females. I can think of at least 4-5 girls I know with the middle name Marie. And most of them have the middle name just because it went well with their first name, and not because of any familial connection.

In your case, OP, I wouldn't even bat an eye about it. Its possible her middle name is Marie or her own mother's middle name is Marie. I think you're making a mountain out of nothing... not even a molehill.

 

[MooseBucks]

Also, Marie is a beautiful name I don’t blame them for using it too even if it does feels a bit strange to you.

 

[nkereina]

70's kid here. I think 1/3 of the girls my age had Marie as a middle name. And then another 1/3 had my Middle name (Ann). If a name was more obscure, I might raise an eyebrow. But Marie, nope.

Late 80s kid here - my middle name is Ann, and several friends and relatives my age have the middle name Marie. These middle names are timeless! lol!

 

[mnrose]

Seriously? You are going to let a MIDDLE name bother you?

Nope. No one has a claim to a "middle" name.

It wouldn't bother me in the least. Indeed, I'd be flattered that she thought so highly of your choice that she chose it for her DD too.

First name *might* bother me, but not a middle name.

 

[DisneyHardin]

Middle name. Not first.

I didn't realize it was the middle name. In that case, I don't think it is strange at all.

 

[Hikergirl]

Middle name. Not first.

So they don't have the same first and middle name, it is just a middle name they share?

No, she didn't steal it, you don't own a name. You also state you have no idea who she named her dd after so why do you assume she "stole" it from you? How do you know she doesn't have a family member with that name, how do you know she hasn't been planning to use that name forever, how do you know she just likes how it flows with her dd's first name?
She is not wrong, and IMO it is kind of strange to even care if they have the same middle name.
My dd shares the same middle name with 3 of her cousins. It isn't that big of a deal.

 

[Searc]

Marie is one of the top 10 middle names for girls. No one "stole" anything.

 

[mnrose]

The other thing that occurs to me that if she's the wife of your husband's brother she might not even KNOW your DD's middle name. LOL. I'm trying to remember my brother-in-laws kids middle names and I'm stumped off the top of my head. LOL.

 

[Southernmiss]

Not. A. Big. Deal.

There was a Facebook meme the other day with a listing of womens top 10 middle names- Marie, ann, Lee, lyn, etc. Can't shake a stick without hitting someone with those names.

My cousins middle name is my name. She was born a year before I was. But my mom like the name so I got it as my first name. We've never been in a situation where the name was confusing.

Mom has a distant cousin whose two sisters named two of their boys the same first name. One was called Michael the other called Mike. No big deal either.

Are you sure your sister-in-law knew your daughter's middle name? I think I know all of my nieces and nephews middle names, but I may not.

 

[VandVsmama]

We see each other enough. As i said, I have no idea where she got the name from. We asked but they didn’t answer. It’s just a middle name so it probably won’t come up but I still find it strange.

Middle name is not a big deal. If it was the same first name then yeah, that would be weird.