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[Kellydelly]

That is a very common middle name, like Lynn, and Anne. I think it's no big deal at all.

 

[Lilacs4Me]

When I was pregnant with DS13, SIL was also pregnant with her 2nd child, who was to be born 3 months after mine. At dinner one night we mentioned that if we had a boy, his name was going to be "John James Smith". SIL looked up and blurted out "that's what we were going to name our baby if it's a boy!" We had never talked about it with them before that, and neither the first or middle name is a family name so it was completely random.

I looked right at her and said "Well, hopefully one of us will have a girl then!"

When DS13 was born 2 months later, we named him exactly what we wanted in the first place: "John James Smith" and let SIL and her DH figure out what they wanted to name their baby when they had him. It ended up to be a boy, too, and they named him something else altogether and we never heard another word about it.

Another brother of DH's named all three of his kids after himself, with a slight variation. The mom of the kids has the girl version of his name, too, so it's an entire family of a name like "daniel, dannielle, daniella, dani, dan jr..." lol And now their kids are grown and having kids, and are doing the same thing. At least 3 of them share very similar names to my kids (all examples, not IRL, but would be like Emily/Emmy, Alexis/Alexandra, Samantha/Sam...etc)

It really has not been a big deal at all.

 

[zoo2tycoon]

Why would she name her kid after my mom?!?! We are not related. Jesus. We have different parents. She is my husbands sister in law not mine.

How do you know it is not a family name to her? It could be a family name on her side of the family that you are unaware of. Nobody “owns” a name for someone to steal.

 

[aprilgail]

It is just a middle name- wouldn't matter at all to me. And SO many people I know have the middle name Marie, it is not like it is an uncommon obscure name.

 

[iivye]

This makes me laugh. My grandmother, mother and I all have the same middle name, Elizabeth. My grandma, my aunt and my daughter are all named Janet, after my grandmother. My cousin's kid has the same name as my brother, both named after my grandpa. I don't see an issue at all. For the three Janets, they just go by Janet, Jan and J3. I think it's nice to keep family names.

 

[sam_gordon]

Why would she name her kid after my mom?!?! We are not related. Jesus. We have different parents. She is my husbands sister in law not mine.

Sorry, misread.

Although maybe she likes your mom's name?

For someone who wanted "honest answers", you seem to be upset that no one is agreeing with you.

 

[wenrob]

My guess is the most folks on here will say that nobody "owns" a name. But I totally understand how the situation you describe would be annoying, especially since you now have first cousins with the same it. It's confusing!

We purposely named one of our children a very unusual name - I literally had never encountered one living person with that name before in my entire life (it's an old name that was used fairly widely in the 1800s but is not used today). I have to admit I was a bit irked when a friend of mine chose the exact same name for her son who is about 9 months younger than my son. My guess is that my son and this other child are the only two children in the entire state with this name, and it honestly bothers me a bit. Yes - I understand I do not own that name and she had every right to name her child that, but it's clear we wanted his name to be unique.

I named my oldest a unique name. You wouldn’t have found it in baby name books or even years later on baby name websites. No bike plates, keychains or personal pencils for her. We ran into maybe five others, two in different states, a couple that were nicknames of a longer name and a friend’s niece. None were spelled or pronounced the same. Then Disney put out a movie about a princess down in New Orleans. Spelled the same but pronounced differently. DD was ecstatic and to this day that’s her favorite princess. Me? Eh, it was a good run.

I would find it a bit odd for first cousins to have the same first name. As a middle name? I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I actually have several first cousins who have the same name but I have a billion first cousins.

70's kid here. I think 1/3 of the girls my age had Marie as a middle name. And then another 1/3 had my Middle name (Ann). If a name was more obscure, I might raise an eyebrow. But Marie, nope.

Don’t forget Lynn *waves* and Lee. Couldn’t begin to tell you how many variations of Lynn are in my extended family.

Two of my sons named their first boys the same first name

They both said it was a name they picked out when they decided to have a family
I know it’s weird

My sister and I both wanted to name sons after my dad. Ultimately my sister gave my nephew (born first) my dad’s middle name which is what he went by. DS got Dad’s first name. Had my sister named her boy with his first name I still would have used it. It meant that much to me.

 

[Skellingtonj]

Sorry, misread.

Although maybe she likes your mom's name?

For someone who wanted "honest answers", you seem to be upset that no one is agreeing with you.

Right I forgot that part of this board. I am not upset I was just clarifying.

 

[ScottOKW2K]

My mother's first name is Marie.

I bet you and your cousin both stole it from her!

 

[blana]

All three of my kids share a middle name with at least one cousin. DD2's first name is also the middle name of one niece. But, that's what happens when you use family names. DD2's middle name is pronounced the same as a younger cousin's middle name, but spelled differently since they were named after different people. The same younger cousin's first name is a shortened version of DD1's name, think Kris & Kristine. That one annoyed me a bit. Not going to lie. But it was their choice, and now I can't imagine younger cousin as any other name.

 

[mousefan73]

Asking here because I’ll get the most honest answers. My brother In law’s wife gave birth to a girl. Her name is girl marie. Now my daughter is also girl marie. My kid is named for my mom. I have no idea who her kid is named for.
Is she in the wrong? I know it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme but it’s not something i would have done.

Marie or Maria are very popular middle names. It’s a christian thing. ( holy maria). Also many names that are double use Marie/ Maria. Ex Eva- Maria. Anna-Marie.

 

[ShirikiUtundu]

70's kid here. I think 1/3 of the girls my age had Marie as a middle name. And then another 1/3 had my Middle name (Ann). If a name was more obscure, I might raise an eyebrow. But Marie, nope.

Agreed. I think Marie, Ann, Lynn, Elizabeth - these are all super common middle names and frankly extremely generic. It's like the middle names you pick when you can't think of anything else that sounds good.

 

[DopeyDame]

Middle name. Not first.

Wait it's the middle name? Then no, she absolutely didn't steal the name and you shouldn't give it another thought. If it was a first name, I still think she didn't do anything wrong, but I can see why you'd be taken aback a little bit.

But middle names - they're the perfect place to put a name that you really like or is meaningful, but don't want to use it as a first name (because, maybe, the child's first cousin has that name already...)

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Sorry, misread.

Although maybe she likes your mom's name?

For someone who wanted "honest answers", you seem to be upset that no one is agreeing with you.

You mean someone came to the dis seeking validation and when we weren't all yes men argued? No way. That just doesn't happen here on the dis.

 

[Lynne M]

I honestly can't understand what would be wrong with it. We have multiple people in my family with the same or similar first name, because a child got named after a family member. It hasn't been a problem at all. And middle names? I don't even remember the middle names of some of my first cousins.

 

[Elle23]

My daughter’s boyfriend and I share a middle name! Spelled differently, of course (mine is the “feminized” version).

People tend to not get very creative with middle names. I think people just go with what sounds good with the first name a lot of times.

 

[Skellingtonj]

You mean someone came to the dis seeking validation and when we weren't all yes men argued? No way. That just doesn't happen here on the dis.

Ha! Ok I get it.

 

[piglet1979]

My sister and I were having girls at the same time. They are less then 2 months apart. We both new the names but never really paid attention. My niece was born first and they named her Carolina Elizabeth (CaraBeth for short) and Mine Is Elizabeth Rose. I didn't realize until a few years ago that my daughter has my nieces middle name. It just was not mentioned.

My sisters middle name is Kathryn and my cousin (who is younger) has the first name Katheryn. Another cousin is Michael and my brother (younger) has the middle name as Michael. My cousin named her second son Noah and her brothers name is Noah. Both first names.

 

[GreatLakes]

That is a no. I don't even know the middle names of my nieces and nephews. I'm sure I did at one point but that point is in the past.

 

[kiddo76]

No, she didn't steal your kids name. Marie is probable the most common middle name in this country.

Of my 5 nephews, #1 and #4 have the same middle name (William), #2's middle name is the same as #4's first name (John), with #4's full name being #1 and #2's middle names (John William). Never even thought of it until now.

Oh, and my 1 niece and I have the same middle name (Marie).

I also have 2 cousins named Stephen and 2 named Michelle. If I thought about common middle names, probably half the girls are Marie and then other half Anne, with maybe a Katherine thrown in here and there

I guess my family just isn't very creative with names.