30 Days Anyone?

[BigTiggerGuy]

Hey,
Did anyone catch last week's episode of "30 Days" on FX? I'm addicted to this show and this week's episode was about a woman who is strongly opposed to gay adoption and went to live with two men who had adopted some troubled kids.
The woman was a real nightmare and unfortunately didn't even open herself up to learning anything.
The one thing I found really interesting was that the couple had a BBQ and invited the mother, aunt, uncle, and other relatives of one of the kids. I just thought it was odd that there were all of these relatives involved in the kid's life yet he was adopted by the two men. Just curious if anyone had any thoughts......

 

[Timon-n-Pumbaa Fan]

I have never seen the show. Maybe someone else has, so I will give this a bump for ya'.

 

[TinkerChelle]

Yes we watch 30 days a lot. My DP loves it. This week was hard to watch because I felt emotionally invested in the topic. Anyway, I felt it was unfortunate that the woman could not see past the "gay" issue and see the family for what it is. A loving, caring, productive, nurturing household-that was obviously full of love and fun. She not open minded at all. I was very frustrated while watching it-that is for sure.

 

[SFBayDon]

Just got to this episode of 30 days in the DVR. We watched it after SF pride with a room full of friends. This episode got a mixed review. The set up for someone so routed in her religion was not usually the premise for the show. Usually there is room for openness to the opposing opinion and in this show there was no way you could consider this an open mind.

One of the arguments proposed as part of the show is “is it better for these kids to be in a gay home versus a group home with no family.” I find this premise completely unacceptable for the program. I will not go on my rant about this, but there are so many more important arguments that could have been used other then is this better then nothing? We enjoy watching “30 days”. The episode when the guy form the Midwest lived in the Castro for 30 days showed both sides and was not questioning the worthiness of a gay couple / family.

As far as the biological parents being at the BBQ this was great. To hear form the actual parent of the child on how she thought it was best really could help other to open their mond to this all.

Let hope the next version of the show on a similar topic is going to help open minds and not just restate the same opinion over and over.

Stage Direction: Step off soap box, pick up soap box, wave and smile when exiting.
Have a GREAT day everyone

 

[DVCajun]

I just thought it was odd that there were all of these relatives involved in the kid's life yet he was adopted by the two men. Just curious if anyone had any thoughts......

I didn't see the show, but wanted to comment on this aspect of your post. It's not uncommon for the biological family to remain involved in an adopted child's life. I think it can be a very healthy thing, and I applaud the parents for being open to that. When we adopted our first child I was very insecure about that possibility, but we did have an open adoption and the experience taught me that an adoption plan is a gift of love by the biological mother. Abortion is a much easier choice. I'm very grateful to the birth parents of both of my children, and I'd welcome any of them to a family bbq any day!

 

[Safari Queen]

We were also surprised that a child with such a large extended family needed to be adopted. Maybe they were unable to cope with his special needs. In any case, I think it's terrific that the kid had two wonderful adoptive parents as well as a large extended family including biological relatives.

I was very frustrated with how close-minded this woman was. She made up her mind long ago and absolutely refused to change it no matter what she felt or saw. Very sad.

 

[BigTiggerGuy]

I didn't see the show, but wanted to comment on this aspect of your post. It's not uncommon for the biological family to remain involved in an adopted child's life. I think it can be a very healthy thing, and I applaud the parents for being open to that. When we adopted our first child I was very insecure about that possibility, but we did have an open adoption and the experience taught me that an adoption plan is a gift of love by the biological mother. Abortion is a much easier choice. I'm very grateful to the birth parents of both of my children, and I'd welcome any of them to a family bbq any day!

I by no means meant to insinuate that there was anything wrong with the family still being involved in the child's life....personally, I think that is great. I just found it odd that in the beginning of the show they mentioned how the boys had some "emotional issues" before coming into the home. If this is the case, wouldn't you assume the issues were related to the child's birth family? It was just odd to me that there was no mention of how everyone got from point A to point B.....must have been alot of healing involved. Please watch the show first and I think you will better understand my point.