30 Day Anxiety

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So I've read the 800 page book cover-to-cover, learned a ton here on these boards (thanks everyone!), got the touring plans subscription, and made all my ADR/FP+'s early, but now that it's only a month away I am feeling real anxiety that I've missed something. Is this normal?!
 
I don't think it's abnormal. Truth is, you probably will miss something, but it most likely won't be a big deal since you have planned so carefully. If you miss something, that just means you have to go back and there is nothing wrong with that.
 
I second that. I am a self diagnosed compulsive over planner and over achiever. I always want to do and see everything. After many trips I realize the key to fun Disney Vacation is enjoy the moment and don't worry about what you may miss. Missed events just make for new experiences on future trips. We have done several 10 day and a two week WDW trip and we still have not seen everything there.
 
OK, time for a (very) modified version of the speech I gave my students as they prepared for last week's final exam:

Big picture: it's not possible to NOT miss something.

Disney World is 40 square miles, roughly the size of San Francisco. You're simply not going to be able to see it all and do it all on one trip.

So take deep breaths and let go of that idea.

You've booked your resort, so you know they'll have a place to sleep and a place to swim.

You have ADRs, so you know your family will have a fabulous time at restaurants you can expect them to enjoy.

You've booked FP's, so you know your family will have a minimal wait at the rides you most want them to see.

You've done your homework, so you know about rope drop, and about roughly what to expect from each park. You have a basic plan of attack for each park. You know to stock up on ponchos, and that rain in WDW tends to be your friend.

Relax. You've done all that's humanly possible to prepare. Now sit back and let all that preparation do its work.


We'll be there a week or two after you, and we're at the same stage in planning... all the basics are done. Now I have to make sure that everyone has the clothes they need before the stores stop selling summer stuff. :) Weve booked a kennel for the dog. My house has to be cleaned, but of course it's far too early for that!
 

So I've read the 800 page book cover-to-cover, learned a ton here on these boards (thanks everyone!), got the touring plans subscription, and made all my ADR/FP+'s early, but now that it's only a month away I am feeling real anxiety that I've missed something. Is this normal?!


If it makes you feel any better, I wish I was going to be in WDW a month from now.;)
 
I am confident that all your preparations will pay off and you will have a blast! We just had our first visit a few weeks ago. I did tons of research, made all my ressies, etc., but still fretted beforehand that I may have screwed it all up. As it turned out, my hard work paid off big time and, even as a newbie, I led my family all over the place and *almost* felt like I knew the parks like the back of my hand. It was great. I am sure it will be the same for you. Have an awesome time!
 
What I learned from my last trip is that the best thing about doing all your research and making your plans is having the ability to make changes on the fly when your in the heat of the moment. There may be things you forget, or plans that have to change for various reasons, but those moments are really what all the planning really prepares you for.

Last year my family decided that they'd rather have a break day on the day I had originally planned for RD AK. Because I had done my research I was able to pick the next best day to hit AK, cancel a reservation and pick up another for a restaurant that we would like, ect. When were were in the park and the next ride on my list was down or the kids wanted to do something else I was able to quickly adjust and offer alternatives. Had I not done my research I could see us aimlessly wandering around many times asking each other, "what do you want to do next? I dunno, what do you wanna do?? Well, what else do they have here? Lets look at the map."

Point is, you have the basics. You are prepared, and you can handle whatever the vacation throws at you in the mean time. Have a great trip!
 
I love that someone already mentioned RD, as if it is a necessity. I've recently been posting in another thread the value of evening hours. RD is not essential. I like it because it goes to show that there is no one 'right' way to tour WDW.

I also like the post about letting go of the idea of seeing everything. I also equate WDW with visiting a city, or attending a large university. There's no way anybody can maintain good grades, attend every sports game, and see every artistic performance on campus. But that's the fun of attending a large campus- just having fun with the idea that you are in a really interesting place.

A fun thing to do at WDW, is sometimes just to sit and watch other people. It's also simply amazing to watch crowds move through any of the WDW transportation hubs. The sheer volume of people is just mesmerizing.

No matter what you are doing at WDW, if you are having fun, it is the right thing to do. (assuming you haven't missed a non-refundable activity or ADR) The only wrong is to force something that makes your family miserable. Sadly, some families do tour that way. I've seen many a child being forced to wear an uncomfortable costume, etc. because the parent can't let it go. Even us WDW vets sometimes find ourselves having to regroup, because the family just wants a nap/break/snack. I think "Let it Go" was written as advice for WDW guests!

Which brings me to my final point, no matter how much you plan, the trip is NOT going to according to plan. A line will be longer than you expect, some will stain their clothes, at some point- the weather will be less than perfect, a meal will not be what you expect.....and LOTS of the trip will be amazing!

Hold on to the amazing parts!;)
 
I'm having exactly the same problem. That's why I'm still on the boards and still cross-referencing packing lists, etc. I totally feel like I've missed something important.
 
So I've read the 800 page book cover-to-cover, learned a ton here on these boards (thanks everyone!), got the touring plans subscription, and made all my ADR/FP+'s early, but now that it's only a month away I am feeling real anxiety that I've missed something. Is this normal?!

What 800 page book??

Oh, and it's totally normal. It might be a little weird if you weren't anxious!
 
I think the anxiety you are feeling is the lack of having anything else to plan. As a fellow obsessed over planner myself I am sad that a week from today I will have my FP+ booked and all that will be left is packing in 2 months.
 
OK, time for a (very) modified version of the speech I gave my students as they prepared for last week's final exam:

Big picture: it's not possible to NOT miss something.

Disney World is 40 square miles, roughly the size of San Francisco. You're simply not going to be able to see it all and do it all on one trip.

So take deep breaths and let go of that idea.

You've booked your resort, so you know they'll have a place to sleep and a place to swim.

You have ADRs, so you know your family will have a fabulous time at restaurants you can expect them to enjoy.

You've booked FP's, so you know your family will have a minimal wait at the rides you most want them to see.

You've done your homework, so you know about rope drop, and about roughly what to expect from each park. You have a basic plan of attack for each park. You know to stock up on ponchos, and that rain in WDW tends to be your friend.

Relax. You've done all that's humanly possible to prepare. Now sit back and let all that preparation do its work.


We'll be there a week or two after you, and we're at the same stage in planning... all the basics are done. Now I have to make sure that everyone has the clothes they need before the stores stop selling summer stuff. :) Weve booked a kennel for the dog. My house has to be cleaned, but of course it's far too early for that!

I love this :thumbsup2:thumbsup2
 
I think the anxiety you are feeling is the lack of having anything else to plan. As a fellow obsessed over planner myself I am sad that a week from today I will have my FP+ booked and all that will be left is packing in 2 months.

I think this is dead-on.

A few random thoughts:

1) Try to convince yourself that you will come back. Even if you don't think you'll be back for 10 years, if you can convince yourself that you'll have more opportunities to ride some of the rides, you'll be able to relax more. When we first went, I was in such a hurry to fit everything in. Now I realize we love the place and we'll be back, so if something doesn't go perfectly, or we miss something, it just gives us an excuse to plan another trip.

2) Realize that the fun isn't always doing the most activities. Some of the best moments are browsing through stores, sitting on a bench and watching the crowds, and seeing the expressions of joy on your family's face. I tend to get obsessed with running to the next thing, but take a moment to catch your breath and enjoy the moment. A perfect trip isn't just about completing a pre-planned list.

3) Realize that you will never know everything and embrace coming up with alternative plans.

(Tangent: I've been lurking on these boards for 3 years. I feel like I have a pretty good handle on DW. And yet I always discover new things. Today I learned about the 180+10 rule for ADR reservations. But that's because I never really realized there was such an active restaurant board where it appears the topic has been discussed often! I've only stuck on the theme park board.)

For me planning is half the fun. I love thinking of alternative plans for the days, and running through them in my head. I love imagining different plans of the parks. Imagining being there makes me happy for the majority of the year, while I can only be there for a few days each year.

Again, not sure this helps, but these are the reasons I can relax much more than when I first went in 2008.
 
@Aliceacc

I see that you've stayed at both the Poly and The Beach Club.

Which did you prefer?

OK, not-so-quick hijack with my apologies.

Honestly, it's a hard question to answer. I love them both!

The Poly has to be the most serene place in the Orlando area. Beautiful flowers everywhere you look, with the quiet sounds of Hawaiian music playing softly in the background. CMs greet you with "Aloha." Rooms are dark wood, intended to be cooling and soothing. It's an amazing counterpoint to the frenetic craziness of the parks.

I could very happily live in the Polynesian.

Then throw in the transportation: the MK monorail is right there. And the TTC is steps away, so the Epcot monorail is a piece of cake.

Paradise.

But last trip, we decided to try the Beach Club. I had read all the books, and knew the basics. But a friend of my daughter's was over for dinner one night, and had just gotten back. She described the BC as being "right across the street from Epcot, closer than the church is to your house." OK, when advertising says something is close, you take it with a grain of salt. But when a kid, who walked back with sore feet after a day of touring says so, you pay attention.

Kelly was right: it was no more than a 5 minute walk from our room to International Gateway. (Disclaimer: I did request, and get, a room "close to Epcot." We were right above the Dis's "hidden entrance.") And it was a bit cheaper than the Poly. And the Pool... don't get me started on StormAlong Bay!!! My kids are all total water rats; we go back every single afternoon for some pool time when the parks get too hot and crowded and cranky for our taste. If I could happily live in the Poly, my kids could happily live in StormAlong Bay. It was wonderful!!

And that access to Epcot simply can't be overstated. You're steps away from any sort of cuisine you could want. Oh, and DHS is also very close, though we chose not to make the walk in the August heat. The boat ride was great, and we enjoyed it.

I must also say a word about the hospitality of the BC. Saturday night at Epcot, my husband tripped and hurt his finger. By Monday, it was red, swollen, painful and warm to the touch; he took his wedding ring off the adjacent finger while he still could. We went to First Aid, and they suggested a trip to the hospital. While there, they found that not only did he have a broken finger (under the nail, where it wouldn't effect his ability to bend the finger), and a staph infection (my guess would be courtesy of a hot tub, though we don't know that), his diabetes was also out of control and they talked about admitting him. We were leaving for home in less than 24 hours, and he had thousands of dollars of camera equipment with him that needed to be packed up, and I had no idea how to do it.

I went to the front desk in tears.. it's how I deal with stress. The first thing they did was to give me access to the room until Magical Express arrived the next day. The hospital eventually released my husband, and he went to the desk, requesting that they call when the prescription arrived. They comped his cab fare, and sent the prescription right up.

They saved that last day. He was able to change, take his medicine when it arrived, and get up the next day to pack up his stuff. Then we had access to the room for a few more hours, so we hit Epcot one more time before returning at about 3 to check out.

The also wrote in response to the thank you note I sent, and called a few weeks later to see how he was. Customer service at its finest. I'll always have a soft spot in my heart for the service we received at the Beach Club.

Again, my apologies for the lengthy answer to a simple question :)
 
Thanks for the encouraging words, everyone. I especially like the part about missed opportunities being those to look forward to for next time. I also think there is a lot of truth to what Buzzin said.

I'm 30 days away from my Disney vacation, too! I'll see you in the parks!

Haha, yes, see you there!

the "800 page book" referred to by OP was likely the The Unofficial Guide to Walt Disney World.

That's the one! :thumbsup2
 
how funny.

I don't say that to knock anyone, just thinking about different styles.

I only own one guide book, it was a gift, and it's from 2003. I think. I do look at it once in a while- but not for myself. I only consult it to verify random facts that folks ask on the DIS - like room size at Poly, vs. a mod, vs. a value.

I do come to the DIS, but not to quell anxiety. I just enjoy keeping myself updated on the latest. Like the progress on Fastpass plus. I also enjoy helping folks navigate their vacations, too.

Truly, a vacation should make you excited, not give you anxiety. But really, I think the best way to enjoy a vacation is to focus on the fun.
 


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