Last night I shredded my bill/junk pile. I ended up shredding having to empty the shredder twice.
In the evening I went through some of dd's bags of clothes. I had her with me as I went through it to organize by sizes. She ended up keeping a few things she changed her mind on, which I was ok with.
I told her she just needed to keep her clothes organized like
-a shorts drawer
-tank top drawer
-T-shirt drawer
-pajama drawer
-pants section hanging up in closet
-blouse section hanging up in closet
-hoodies/sweatshirts section
sounds easy right? She has everything all mixed in her drawers. When she was lil I organized each drawer by type of clothing.
The thing is my sis takes her school clothes shopping as a reward for doing excellent in school. I've told my sis she doesnt need to but she insist. I've told dd her room needs to be organized before anymore clothes come in. She has managed to fill up 4 shopping bags, 1 bag of shoes, 1 bag of purses, bag of misc stuff and a bag of old toys.
I know sometimes she feels overwhelmed organizing her room and when I walk in she will follow me and gets anxiety. I've stopped complaining about her room and sat her down today. I told her if she needs help I will help her, she doesnt want the help. I told her sometimes it gets overwhelming and its hard to figure out where to start, she agreed. So I came up with a plan because shes been dying to get rid of all her stuff animals that are on top of her amoire. It been hard for me because some are specialfrom when she was lil
so I suggested...
1-We will go through the stuff animals and only keep a few special ones, she was happy. I told her like the ones from her preschool graduation (dog in grad hat) we will keep, cheer doll, her first stuff animal toy puppy dog (she was a couples weeks old and its personalized). I told her she can leave those up or I will store those in a container. She agreed.
2.I asked whats the next thing she feels overwhelmed by. She said all the knick knack gifts she gotten throughout the years that are on her dresser drawer hutch. I told her ok and same thing I will store a few special sentimental items, she agreed.
3. I told her she can get rid of the bookshelf. She wasnt happy but I mentioned she'd have more room. She agreed.
4. I asked her what else does she want to get rid of. She said the lil tv stand /shelf that she uses to store junk. I said ok
5.Then I asked if there was anything else and she said the tubs under her bed. I asked whats in it and she said junk. (I've been trying to get rid of that junk for 3 years-lol!) I told her ok
By the end she was more calm about it all. I think because I was calm and gave suggestions and asked her input instead of getting mad and telling her to clean up her messy room. I also told her that since i've started decluttering with the DIS we have less junk and it feels great sometimes having less things in a room make it easier to breath
I also think what helped was I was watching hoarders and she was sitting here on her ipad and when super gross thing were shown , she would just look at me like OMG! Watching a couple episodes of hoaders always puts me in the mood to declutter-lol!
-So I got rid of a gocery bag full of dh's newspapers and a small pile of empty food boxes ready for dh to put int he recycle bin
-cleaned up the den
-wiped off counter tops
-cleared of counter space(my goal is to only have coffee maker and phone on counter) its a hot spot and everything ends up on it
-organized all the over the counter meds, vitamins, 1st aid stuff
I'll keep eveyone posted on dd's room
DH says he put it down cellar a year ago 
....... we have a college graduate that needs to be de cluttered too. We bought a house next door for my father in law to spend his last few years. That was great - we could watch him - he could smoke cigarettes until he was 99 when he died. Then sons decided to move in. One is now in Chicago (the youngest) and one WON'T LEAVE and doesn't contribute a dime on the dollar. 
So........ YES, OH MARI. It's ok to want them to move on. I want to sell the house.
